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She Comes First Audiobook

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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Publisher's Summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner; (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

What the Critics Say

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

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    Donna L. Leary 06-18-16
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    "Boring and repetitive"

    Not a bad idea, but it could have been summed up as a magazine article, not a full-length book.

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    robert 06-14-16
    robert 06-14-16 Member Since 2013
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    "3 chapters of uselessness, 1 chapter of advice."

    Most of the book is spent explaining why it is good to perform oral sex. No kidding, that's why i bought it! It is sold as a how to manual and is not until the end.

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    MATTHEW 06-13-16
    MATTHEW 06-13-16 Member Since 2012
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    "Educational"

    Loved it. narrator was not completely horrible. I would recommend this for men that want to improve there marriages.

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    goodVibes 05-16-16
    goodVibes 05-16-16
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    "Ditto! to other reviews...."
    What was the most interesting aspect of this story? The least interesting?

    written by a man...


    What does Ian Kerner bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    Facts.


    Any additional comments?

    "An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!"

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    Mystery 04-24-16
    Mystery 04-24-16 Member Since 2015
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    "good knowledge but too complex "

    too many big words and also i think the diagrams are too little. but overall I like it esp as i have average dick

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    Duane Throckmorton Columbus, OH 04-22-16
    Duane Throckmorton Columbus, OH 04-22-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Perfect for the guy that really cares"
    Would you consider the audio edition of She Comes First to be better than the print version?

    I would have never bought this in print. I find reading books like this boring but listening to a woman tell me about what should be done and why made a huge difference for me. I also enjoyed it because no one around me knew what I was listening to.


    What other book might you compare She Comes First to and why?

    This would be a great book for the person (man or woman) who wants a deeper understanding of the intimacies of pleasing a woman. I have not read another book on the subject but I don't think I need another one. This one seems to have all the answers I was looking for.


    Which character – as performed by Ian Kerner – was your favorite?

    I loved them all. I didn't have a favorite. I thought it was a great audio book.


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from She Comes First?

    I have already applied some of the techniques that were presented to me and found them to be absolutely spot on. My partner really enjoyed what I was doing and we are going to try even more.


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    Scott De La Fe Mesa, Arizona 04-02-16
    Scott De La Fe Mesa, Arizona 04-02-16
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    "Wife loves techniques"

    Great info multiple orgasms perfect wife noticed the difference flat toung technique works great very happy

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    Fredric Christiansen AMERICAN FORK, UT, US 03-29-16
    Fredric Christiansen AMERICAN FORK, UT, US 03-29-16 Listener Since 2003
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    "had a hard time getting interested in this book"

    I struggled with listening to this book and didn't finish but the first couple of chapters. I fill it was crudely done.

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    Kevin Kelly 03-14-16
    Kevin Kelly 03-14-16
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    "Wow!!!"

    Every man should read thing book. It has change my life for the Better and everyone is happy.

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    Donald Murphy 03-09-16 Member Since 2017
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    "85% of this book is blah, blah, blah"
    What did you like best about She Comes First? What did you like least?

    I only listened to this book basically to become better at cunnilingus and understand why these techniques work. Cut this audio into like an hour of why this works and do this.


    What could Ian Kerner have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

    Cut out all the poetry and philosophical content most people don't care to hear. No offense, but you sound really stuffy like you need to blow your nose. You need a new reader to read your book for you.


    How did the narrator detract from the book?

    You quote Aristotle way too much. Most of the content of this book is the same filler a college student would use to fudge their way though a lengthy essay requirement.


    If this book were a movie would you go see it?

    You mean if this book were a 10 min. youtube video would I recommend people to go see it? Sure, this would be a good video just to advocate the awareness of how pleasuring females isn't exactly what mainstream nudges you to believe.


    Any additional comments?

    Scrap this whole book and save the important parts. Then, if you want to make an actual full book, use one chapter of female sexual history, and the other chapter of how to go down on a female. Now you have 2 chapters, about 1 hour of content, towards a real 4-8 hour audio book.

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