She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

By: Ian Kerner

Narrated by: Ian Kerner

Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Critic reviews

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

a totally new outlook on love making

this book has opened my eyes on a while new world of love making and increasing the passion & fire within my relationship. I can't wait to try the techniques and see her response!

AWESOME/WORTH THE TIME

I've been married 24 years to an RN and have a Biology degree but still learned ALOT. Not just techniques (although Kathy enjoyed them!) but enlightened me on just how marvelous the female body truly is. A MUST "read" for ANY man ready to take responsility for serving his lover FIRST.

Nearly Came, Nearly Cried

I am a woman. I finished listening to this audiobook just now. The beginning of the book gave me permission to lust, the middle gave me insight to know how, the end brought tears to my eyes. I couldn’t recommend this book more for both women and men.

I feel like I should buy this book for all the men I know for gifts for both them, and their significant others.

Must read for the 21st century.

Great starting point

The material is easy to follow. Fantastic directions that yield results initially and with more practice.

brutal narrator

the narrator is a brutal choice for this. honestly, his voice and this subject matter? sooo bad

Its True

The book was a tad dry but I did as he said to do and WOW it actually worked. Not just once either. Every man should listen to this book.

Excellent material sub par narration

The book itself and the material enclosed was fantastic but the narrator was not great. He covered the material wholly and completely, but I just couldn't get over his voice. Again I'll reiterate that the book as a whole was wonderful and extremely helpful for anyone who struggles when it comes to the pleasure of a female partner, but it was difficult to get into the book with the dry and nasally tone of the author. I intend to revisit this work time and time again whenever I feel myself getting stale or repetitive when it comes to exploits in the bedroom.

Very Informative

This work was very informative and eye-opening! I appreciate the knowledge it's given me, and some of the short stories it incorporated. However, it's seemingly repetitive nature makes it unnecessarily long. I can also say that it's very detailed, but extremely detailed, and, thus, unnecessarily, and repetitively, detailed. It essentially drills the information into you, which may be useful for some, but not appealing to others. And, finally, I'm giving the narration only 3-stars over all, because I detested the narrator's voice the entire time. Maybe it's just my own opinion. I personally recommend getting the actual book. Spare your ears from hearing Ian's voice. Other than that, take notes! In the end, you won't regret learning this!

Very validating

As a women listening to this book, I felt extremely validated by all the in depth the information. Everything was so intricately detailed and laid out it was fascinating. I learned more about myself as women seeing that my desires and dislikes were valued and understood. This author is brilliant and I recommend listening/reading this book!

Incredible!

If you are on the fence about whether or not this book will help you, just remember: there are 18 parts to the clitorus. If you didn't already know that you need this book. Knowledge is power!