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She Comes First Audiobook

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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Publisher's Summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner; (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

What the Critics Say

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

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    Matt 02-25-17
    Matt 02-25-17 Member Since 2016
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    "So helpful"

    The most helpful and useful and implementable book on this subject. Well worth the buy.

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    ksc0967 02-05-17
    ksc0967 02-05-17
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    "Explicit instruction"

    If your man needs a bit of coaching/encouragement THIS may do the trick. Good luck!

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    Raymond 01-28-17
    Raymond 01-28-17
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    "Great book for beginners"

    This book is good for beginnere, but leaves much to be desired for people with any length of experience.

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    B Sac 01-19-17
    B Sac 01-19-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Ohhhhh My god."
    Would you listen to She Comes First again? Why?

    Yes


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    This should be issued to every male on the planet. If every male could make their lady cum and not worry about themselves the world would be a much happier place.

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    nelson 12-27-16
    nelson 12-27-16
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    great book it has given me good pointers that I can employ when pleasing my lady

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    Schrock Innovations Lincoln, NE 12-21-16
    Schrock Innovations Lincoln, NE 12-21-16 Member Since 2013
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    "Could easily be 50% shorter"

    I understand that writing this book was probably very theraputic for the author, however I believe this title could have been divided into 2 volumes. One dealing with the challenges and frustrations of PE and the other a more concise guide for guys wanting to strenthen their skills. The two topics are not necessarily related and combining them detracted from the message in my opinion. The editor in me was redlining 50% of many of the early chapters as repetitive, unnecessary flowery, and generally trying to connect on an emotional level using non-emotional quotes and silly one liners. You can absolutely skip the first 1/3 of the book without significant consequence.

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    Ken Douglass 12-17-16
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    "And to think I had fancied myself as an expert."

    Wow! This is the only book about sex a man will ever need. There is very specific explanation of the many parts of the clitorial network and exactly how to handle each part. The presenter an good interpretation of the text.

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    WorldWriter 12-08-16
    WorldWriter 12-08-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Want to be a good lover? read…listen…to this book"
    What did you love best about She Comes First?

    It's honest, real, and will help those frustrated men who are unable to bring their lover's to climax.


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    Kincaid Kawananakoa Kailua, Hawaii, US 11-17-16
    Kincaid Kawananakoa Kailua, Hawaii, US 11-17-16 Member Since 2015
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    "What a little bitch"

    He has insight but misses some important points about human nature and our sexuality. I would strongly suggest "The Selfish Gene" by Richard Dawkins and "Sex at Dawn" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.

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    Chris White 11-10-16
    Chris White 11-10-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Good Book-Terrible Reading"

    Great information for the "considerate man", but unfortunately the author, who is a self proclaimed loser, insists on reading his own book. This is unfortunate, because he kills any chance of having an enjoyable listen. He needs to stick to using his tongue on women and NOT for performing literature.

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