Thriving through Ministry Conflict

A Parable on How Resistance Can Be Your Ally

By: James P. Osterhaus, Joseph M. Jurkowski, Todd A. Hahn

Narrated by: Tom Parks

Church conflict doesn't have to be an enemy that tears a congregation apart. By learning how to handle it wisely, pastors and church leaders can make resistance one of their most valuable allies. Far from fearing conflict, leaders can turn it into a catalyst for positive change and a stronger, more united church. Through the fictional story of a typical pastor embroiled in conflict, Thriving through Ministry Conflict shows how to handle and resolve conflict in a healthy way. By working through a series of response activities and discussion questions, the reader will gain powerful insights into the emotional dynamics of conflict. Here are the knowledge and tools that can help pastors and church leaders trade self-defeating responses to conflict for an empowering, constructive approach; gain a working command of key conflict survival principles; and cultivate the skills needed to effectively navigate the conflicts every ministry leader faces.

Amazing Truth; Deep Revelation, Beautifully Communicated

I just finished Thriving Through Ministry Conflict, and it completely reframed how I see myself and others.

As a coach and leader, I’ve always focused on understanding people — but this book revealed how often what frustrates us in others is really a mirror reflecting something we haven’t yet faced within ourselves. That realization was humbling and freeing.

Another powerful insight was the difference between being loved and feeling approved of. Love says, “you matter.” Approval says, “I value who you are.” Both are essential — and realizing that changed how I approach my relationships at home, in coaching, and in leadership.

This isn’t just a book for ministry — it’s for anyone who leads, coaches, or values relationships. It’s about growth, awareness, and learning to lead from a place of inner peace rather than reaction.

If you’re ready for a deep shift in how you see yourself and others, this one’s worth your time.

Best I've read in a long time. highly recommended

2nd time thru audio, not just ministry...life! so good... will miss Elliot and Barry!!! listening again

Solid short book. Very practical

Good solid practical reading for people of all vocations.

One of the challenges is identifying habits of red behavior in oneself. The book seems to leave a reader with the impression that it’s a sequential process that one will overcome if the right steps are taken and at the right time.

This book gives me a lot to think about even though it’s pretty succinct.