Stop Self-Sabotage

Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way
By: Judy Ho
Narrated by: Emily Woo Zeller
Length: 7 hrs and 34 mins
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Award-winning clinical psychologist and TV personality Dr. Judy Ho helps you stop the cycle of self-sabotage, clear a path to lasting happiness, and start living your best life in this a must-have guide perfect for fans of You Are a Badass, Unf*ck Yourself, and How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t.

Have you ever had a deadline for a big work project, only to find yourself down to the wire because you spent too much time on social media? Or gotten excited about meeting someone new, only to convince yourself he isn’t really interested? How many Januarys have you resolved that this is the year you’re finally going to lose the weight, only to abandon your diet in just a few weeks? If these scenarios sound familiar, you are stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage.

At one point or another, we’ve all done something that undermines our best interests and intentions. Even the most successful people get in their own way - often without realizing it. In Stop Self-Sabotage, licensed clinical psychologist, tenured professor, and television personality Dr. Judy Ho takes a fresh look at self-sabotage to help us answer two vital questions: Why do we do it? How do we stop? 

Combining therapeutically proven strategies with practical tools and self-assessments, Dr. Judy teaches you how to identify your triggers, modify your thoughts and behaviors, find your true motivation, and unlock your willpower to stop this vicious cycle in its tracks. Practical and transformative, Stop Self-Sabotage is your ultimate guide to jumpstart lasting, positive change and start living the life you want.

Supplemental enhancement PDF accompanies the audiobook.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Judy Ho (P)2019 HarperAudio

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Why Do I Keep Blocking My Own Path?

Self-sabotage:
Engaging in behaviors or thoughts that are contrary to our best interests.
Behaviors that, instead of bringing you closer to your goal, actually push you further and further from eat.

Enough of the world is out to halt our successes, create roadblocks so why would WE also limit our abilities?

I often find myself setting up big goals then failing, repeat repeat repeat. Why do I keep blocking my own path?

I thoroughly enjoyed listening to Judy Ho’s audiobook and took many notes while listening.
Each lesson has short and long activities to get pen to paper and actually help you discover why you do the things you do AND how to re-train your brain!

In us is our biological drive to avoid pain, conflict and danger. Our biological drive to obtain goals and reach satisfying results.

Our brains like routine so something new or unknown can be read as a stressor by our brain. “In a mistaken attempt to protect you, your mind holds you back from a potentially positive change.”

Our first step to eliminating, or at least curbing, self-sabotage is to be AWARE of our behaviors.
For me, awareness is actually very hard to achieve. You have to break out of your old routines and your old patterns and must be willing to open up to the idea that your old way of doing things simply isn’t bringing you closer to your goals.
Once I felt comfortable with awareness, I needed to take ACTION.
Now what? Now that you’re aware . . . What will you actually do?

How do I talk to myself? The way I speak to myself within my own head would be appalling to someone else. Would I talk to my best friend that way? My child? The bagger at the grocery store? No way!
We speak to ourselves much more harsh than we would ever think to speak to someone else.

Avoiding deadlines, knowingly eating too much are issues I’ve struggled with.
But now, I can “forgive” myself for eating poorly and give myself permission to start fresh and eat well for the day.
This is just one tiny example of a self-sabotage behavior that I’ve been able to successfully change and alter the course of my life.

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What's your reason for self-sabotage?

I think this might have been the first audiobook I've listened to that was of the self help genre. I found it very easy to listen to whether I was driving around town, out on a walk with my toddler, or even on a bluetooth speaker at home. I was a big fan of the narrator, her voice and speech patterns and felt like I was getting a free therapy session. I appreciated how Dr. Judy taught us how to find out what out L.I.F.E. obstacle was, how to look for common triggers for self-sabotaging behaviors, and how to make a plan going forward.

One of the big things I enjoyed about this audiobook was that Dr. Judy included specific patients and shared their actual answers to the accompanying exercises. Since I was listening to this book out and about, I didn't always have a notebook or pen handy for the exercises. In that aspect, I think that the physical book may have been easier for me to complete the exercises in the desired time frame that Dr. Judy had set for her listeners/readers. However, I think the audiobook was still helpful in finding the ways you are self-sabotaging. I can see myself listening to this audiobook again in the future and would be interested in listening/reading more by Dr. Judy.

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Refresh your life cache annually with this book

I am no stranger to self-help books. The obvious gotcha with ANY type of book in this genre is obvious: you only get out of it what you put in after reading. You can agree and "oh yeah" all through the title, but if that's where it ends, you're not really helping yourself and you are actually wasting a lot of your time. What I really enjoyed most about this book is two-fold: first, with it being an audio book, I was able to enjoy some motivation while focusing on another self-improving act (walking on the treadmill). I really love audiobooks for this activity, and the performance for Stop Self-Sabotage is very well done; the reading is clear, concise, thorough and pleasing to my ear. Believe it or not, that is a deal-breaker for me, so it's why I was so pleased in this instance. Second, because it's an audio book, I was happy to have the option to print out a workbook that the author gives instructions for throughout the book. I was concerned that any action items or directives I needed to take from the book may be lost because of its format, but the link for the free print-out directed me away from that potential pitfall and offered some wonderful exercises and helpful action items to improve my approach in many ways. One exercise in particular resonates with me strongly and is very helpful, and that is Developing Values-Based Goals. Some of the other exercises that I found helpful where the "Yes, But" exercise and "Keeping your Values Handy." I definitely recommend this book for anyone looking to figure out the real reason you're not happy or moving in the direction you want and correcting it once and for all, and I intend to re-listen annually to be sure I keep myself in check.

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very slow elementary book

this book is very elementary
not very many in depth findings just common sense views of sabotage. I found the book very boring and I really didn't learn much outside of what is common sense about negative thoughts

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some helpful tips and perspectives for change

I discovered this author through the #sexabusechat chat, hosted by @RachelintheOC, on Twitter.
if you're new to self-help, this might be the perfect book for you. if you're not new to self-help, you might still find some helpful information and tools to help you break through.
didn’t like: points deducted for preface AND introduction.
wasn’t sold on the narrator.
introduction should have been its own chapter with exercises at the end, instead of sort of thrown in.
the explanation of trigger origin and time spent and exercises suggested for it were quite poor. missed the mark there, bigtime.
journaling is really antiquated.
throwing around all the psycho-technical or little psycho catch-phrases terms, like the general public is supposed to know (even if you already explained it once). they were confusing. I need stuff dumbed down for the little people (i.e. myself).
liked: setting journaling aside, some great exercises to use to check yourself before you spiral. also never heard the tip to "do the opposite".
and really like that the author is aware that everyone has to find what works for them.
some very helpful information.

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Useful Info

I truly enjoyed this book as the content is very useful and easy to follow.

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Excellent book! I liked the clarity that it brought to the issue of self sabotage a must read for everyone.

Excellent book! I liked the clarity that it brought to the issue of self sabotage a must read for everyone.

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So helpful

This book helped me recognize and address small self sabotaging behaviors that I was not even aware I had. I did not go into this book with specific issues in mind, but I found it applied to me more and more as I continued to listen. She doesn’t address these as negatives, just things to acknowledge and address. I felt so positive as I worked through the exercises. I liked that it wasn’t just about identifying issues or triggers, but about how to deal with them and replace them with better actions will hopefully become habits. Such a good listen!

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A great book on fixing yourself!

Like most people, I am my worst enemy. I have self doubt. I am not confident in my life choices. I self sabotage. I didn't know it but I needed to hear this book. I would not recommend popping this cd in and going for a long drive. It is very much a reader participation book. You do need to download the pdf. and follow along. Very hard to do if you are listening in a car. 
Author Dr. Judy Ho is an award winning expert in the field of psychology. She has her own practice and years of experience. Narrator Emily Woo Zeller is a multiple award winning audiobook narrator,actor, dancer and singer. This duo brings a reflective discussion to issues that affect most of us.
 What Dr. Judy does is breaks down the self sabotage process and offers ways to implement strategies to help build more confidence and make changes in your lifestyle.
She gives you insight on how to retrain your brain to turn thoughts into a more positive affect. And to ask ourselves”why do we do that”. After reading this book it sets you up to be a better you. It allows you to see where the changes can come from and the joy of accepting them for a more positive you. I really enjoyed listening to this book. It had the appropriate pauses and even joyful tone which flowed and had great rhythm. 

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Personal Therapy without the Bill

I thoroughly loved listening to this audio book. I feel that it was most impactful by listening to it rather than just reading. It definitely felt like your own powerful pep talk or a personal therapy session. The narrator’s voice was wonderful and everything was clear and understandable. Enunciation was perfect! The inflection in her voice was also quite impactful to highlight important points. As with any type of therapy, you may agree or disagree with your therapist. I found myself talking out my concerns out loud, and ironically, those concerns were covered later! One of the main examples of self sabotage was with a woman and weight loss. I did feel that this was quite cliche; however, it drove the point home exactly as it was intended. You as the audience may or may not agree with all that is spoken from this book, but it will definitely have you thinking of ways in which you commit self sabotage. Some aspects of your life, you wouldn’t have even realized you were self sabotaging prior to listening to this audio book. I would highly recommend this audio book to any adult. This would be a fantastic listen to and from work or even to and from class for college students. There is a workbook that goes along with the audio. It is most impactful to complete the exercises as you go along, but if you don’t have time, at least listen intently.