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How to Be Yourself is the best audiobook you'll ever listen to about how to conquer social anxiety.

"...a groundbreaking road map to finally being your true, authentic self." - Susan Cain, New York Times and USA Today best-selling author of Quiet

Up to 40% of people consider themselves shy. You might say you're introverted or awkward, or that you're fine around friends but just can't speak up in a meeting or at a party. Maybe you're usually confident but have recently moved or started a new job, only to feel isolated and unsure.

If you get nervous in social situations - meeting your partner's friends, public speaking, standing awkwardly in the elevator with your boss - you've probably been told, "Just be yourself!" But that's easier said than done - especially if you're prone to social anxiety.

Weaving together cutting-edge science, concrete tips, and the compelling stories of real people who have risen above their social anxiety, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen proposes a groundbreaking idea: you already have everything you need to succeed in any unfamiliar social situation. As someone who lives with social anxiety, Dr. Hendriksen has devoted her career to helping her clients overcome the same obstacles she has.

With familiarity, humor, and authority, Dr. Hendriksen takes the listener through the roots of social anxiety and why it endures, how we can rewire our brains through our behavior, and - at long last - exactly how to quiet your Inner Critic, the pesky voice that whispers, "Everyone will judge you." Using her techniques to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, you can finally be your true, authentic self.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.

©2018 Ellen Hendriksen (P)2018 Macmillan Audio

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Best book on social anxiety I have come across!

loved it!! I came across this book at a very difficult time in my life. I have suffered from anxiety for 18yrs. That combined with hard situations in life I was at a very lost point. The stories in this book felt familiar and the lessons and advise felt real and tangible. I have started applying things I have learned in this book to the way I do and handle things and for the first time in a long time I truly feel better. I am not cured but after this book I feel more determined to learn more, live more and figure out how to work with who I am so I can finally live my best life. If you have Social Anxiety, read this book!!! Or listen to this book, just get it in asap so you can start your healing process.. I'm on my way and this book was a clear starting point for me!

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"Life" Changing

First off, I don't write reviews. I don't have the time. But the audio version of this book has made me such a braver, better person, I felt compelled to add a review so it might help someone else like me. For once, I'm not afraid and I feel like I'm living and not just going through the motions. I chose this book because of the title. I do feel like a fake most of the time. Always saying or acting the way I think others would expect me too. I remember my Mom being hyper aware of how others viewed her and her family and I picked up on that and didn't even realize. I didn't know I had social anxiety, but every example in this book sounded like me. I don't sleep well because I'll wake up in the middle of the night replaying things I did during the day. Things I could have done or said better than I did. And then the stress kicks in and the next thing I know I've laid awake for two hours pondering something that should have not been given a second thought. This book made me aware of what I was doing and I am falling back asleep quicker than ever before. It also gave me several different tools to help overcome my negative thoughts. And for once, it's not unrealistic tools that don't work. For once, they are working. Now when I start to replay a scenario, I think about Ellen's "movie theatre" scenario. And if that doesn't work. I put my inner critic on trial. A bonus was her chapter on "how to make friends." I've always avoided relationships for fear that someone would find out I'm not who I really am. But now I feel compelled to connect with someone on a friendship level. I highly recommend purchasing the audio version of this book. Ellen does a phenomenal job narrating and I honestly feel like I was sitting in her office at times. But instead of paying $$$ for a therapy session, I got so much more by purchasing this book. If you ever feel awkward in any type of social situation, you must read/listen to the book. It's a game/life changer.

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Just be you- just be kind

This book was easy to listen too with many helpful tips on how to be yourself

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Exactly what I needed

I’ve read several books on social anxiety, but of all of them, this one feels like it was written just for me. Ellen Hendriksen gets it. If you have social anxiety I highly highly recommend reading this book.

Before buying the book I read some comments about the author wanting to change introverts but that’s just not the case at all. I even looked for any indication that that’s what she was doing but couldn’t find it. I’m not quite sure where those comments are coming from so please don’t let that keep you from giving this book a shot.

Mrs. Hendriksen, thank you for writing this book. It’s everything I needed to hear and changed the way I looked at many things. Every chapter was perfect but the final chapter on popularity really struck me. I’m 37 and am not as concerned with popularity as I was when I was 16 years old but I teared up during that chapter. I’m planning to share it with my two children as, even in elementary school, popularity is already a concern.

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Lots of filling

The useful information can be summed up in 2 pages but of course you need 200 pages to publish a book.

I recommend you to google "social anxiety treatment" and any of the first websites sums up all the useful information presented in this book

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Very helpful!

This was a very helpful book. I learned new techniques on dealing with anxiety. Her voice was effective as well as all the stories told

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Great Book!

Loved how the author incorporated scientific studies along with examples and stories of people overcoming their anxiety. Her writing style kept me engaged. I related so much to the stories and examples in this book I really felt as if she was speaking directly to me! Loved it.

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Great insight and tools on social anxiety. love it

I know the author personally and got to read the transcript before it was published. spot on for me. got the audio book as soon as it was out so I can really get Into it and work on using the tools in the book. highly recommended for anyone like me who experiences social anxiety.

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So helpful

I absolutely loved this audio book. Easy to listen to and great advice. I played it while doing chores and I feel like I am prepared to use the tools provided to help my social anxiety.

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well done

great practical content from a first person point of view. thank you! you've helped me overcome.

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  • Mcehudson
  • 04-11-18

A great read

Humorous, well written and scientifically based self help book. A great read for anyone who suffers from anxiety with lots of tools to help you get back on track. Loved it.

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  • Phoebe
  • 04-14-18

sooo relatable

what i needed to change my perespective on social anxiety and take away the stigma.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-04-18

Amazing book

All the way from the beginning to end of this book, I found amazing advices, relatable examples, interesting stories and very clear and comprehensive theoretical frameworks. The boom is read with a very cheerful voice and the message is delivered very positively. Bringing all these elements together helped me to fully understand the message and to easily apply the advices.

This book is great for everyone who wants to go out there and just be yourself with ease.

Huge well done to the author!

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  • Chloe
  • 10-03-18

Best self help book ever

This is an amazingly helpful book! I’ve always been shy/socially anxious and this offers friendly truly helpful strategies and advice. The author is very reassuring and has a lovely voice xx

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-15-18

Fab!

great narration and enjoyable stories. Will definitely use these tips to improve myself. great listen!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-23-18

I will listen to it many times, I'm sure of it!

The author clearly knows the subject well, one of the best reads on social anxiety

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  • sharon weir
  • 06-12-18

Fab.

Really opened my eyes and explained a lot of random as I thought behaviour. Really helped me understand how behaviour can be portrayed and changed through adaptation.

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  • 05-16-18

Finally ...

After struggling with anxiety for years, thanks to this book I am *finally* seeing improvement.
Ellen Hendriksen is very knowledgeable about the subject. It does seem like this is something that she struggled with personally and it seems that she cracked it.

I highly recommend getting the book. There really are very few good books on the subject and "How to Be Yourself" is definitely one of them.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-16-18

Life without social anxiety...there really is hope

I've just finished listening to "How to Be Yourself" and have come away feeling like I really can conquer the social anxieties in my life. No longer must I dream of some magical potion to live a true and meaningful life, free of self-imposed restrictions. Ellen has shown me that I can have this life, while being my very real self - no changing fundamental aspects of me, but rather shedding the protective and defensive (yet unhealthy) habits I have unknowingly relied on, in order to reveal to the world my already wonderful self. Thank you Ellen Hendriksen for showing me the way, and the science behind it. A recommended read for all people.