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Publisher's Summary

Break free from over-functioning, over-delivering, people-pleasing, and ignoring your own needs, so you can finally live the life you deserve!

Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires, or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships.

The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life.

In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life.

Since becoming a boundary boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: 

  • How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next
  • How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it
  • Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say
  • How to manage “Boundary Destroyers” - including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities
  • Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships

This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss.

©2021 Terri Cole (P)2021 Sounds True

Critic Reviews

“This powerful book is a clear path to deep healing work. If you’re ready for true emotional freedom, let Boundary Boss show you the way. And thank you, Terri Cole! Your brilliant (and often hilarious!) guidance is a blessing to us all.” (Kris Carr, New York Times best-selling author)

“Terri Cole’s advice is game-changing! After having her on my Off the Gram podcast, I went home and broke up with a toxic friend, then wrote about it in my own book! Terri is the ultimate boundary boss and communication queen and in this powerful book, she shows us how to become the same. The world needs this book right now!” (Meaghan B Murphy, content chief for Woman’s Day magazine, author of Your Fully Charged Life)

“With Boundary Boss, Terri Cole, powerhouse healer and transformational therapist, serves up the psychologically savvy medicine that you need to step out of destructive habits, stop people-pleasing, and set your soul free.” (Gabrielle Bernstein, number-one New York Times best-selling author of The Universe Has Your Back)

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Buy the hard cover book

There are a lot of exercises that you need to stop and write down. You need a journal a pen a to get your he most out of this book. It’s good information and helpful. Just bad format for this information

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Oh, ya! So worth it!

This is an amazing and very helpful book. First, I love that it is like a conversation. Second, the constant is great. I didn’t learn this stuff growing up and so it is great to learn now. I highly recommend this book!!

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  • LB
  • 05-20-21

Most important book I ever read !

If you are a people pleaser, if you have trouble saying your mind and expressing yourself, if you have anxiety before confrontation or if you simply have an annoying co-worker who makes inappropriate remarks to you about your appearance, this book is for you !

This book has changed so many aspects in my life already, including the relationship with myself, with others and my overall mental and physical health.

Time to listen to it again !

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Love this book!

She is very to the point and so helpful. This book will remain in my library and I definitely will recommend it to others like me, that have struggled with knowing their worth and the value of boundaries and self-love!

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Fabulous book, life changing

Terri Cole has built on her brilliant podcast skills and produced a book which is beautifully organized and presents life changing strategies in easily-accessible ways. Even those of us who have some decent boundary skills benefit tremendously from this book. I certainly have! And those of us who haven’t thought about how problems in our lives stem from lacking boundary-setting skills need it now! Because of this book, I am well in my way to being a BB. Thank you, Terri!!

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Unlike any self-development book

You won't change your life by reading this book, but you will if you practice what Terri teaches. You can access exercises even if you've bought the book online by cutting your order number from your Audible receipt and pasting it in this link with your email - all the "end of chapter" stuff gets sent to your email. https://boundarybossbook.com/
I think she also mentions it in the first "Go Deeper: Exercises" section.

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A Must-Read

I would recommend this book to ANYONE...regardless of gender, sexual orientation, age, etc. This is a fantastic, clear, and to the point program to understand where you stand regarding setting boundaries, and to build (or rebuild) that crucial area of your life. This is the best book on boundaries I have read so far. Outstanding. Thanks you, thank you, thank you. FINALLY, A COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE ON HOW TO SET HEALTHY LIMITS!

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EPIC…

The best book about boundaries . I have recommended this book to my friends and family . Everything you need to know about boundaries is in this book . Read it twice . I just did . I am on my way to become a Boundary Boss!! Thanks Terri Cole with all my heart.
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  • 05-31-21

WOW!! Not the same old-same old!

Great info! Extremely helpful, easy to read, I learned a lot! Super helpful for this former people pleaser!

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Best Boundary Book Ever

I have read and reread this book and I am looking forward to doing the bonus material at the end, too. So grateful that Terri had the grace and guts to say what needed to be said, even in circumstances where it may be hard to hear, and always with humor and directness to make sure that it resonates AND sticks.

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  • Aleidy EH
  • 04-20-21

Excellent step-by-step guide on boundary setting!

This audiobook is wonderful. I liked the balance between the information, the stories and the many exercises and tools to get better at boundary setting in all areas of life. I think anyone would find the content helpful, although it’s written directly for women. I was afraid the tone may be cheese (as some self-help can be) but I was happy to find out it’s rather witty and I felt validated and seen. The soothing author’s voice was a plus!

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  • 05-01-21

Required reading for all!

Wish I'd had this sooner. It is the foundation for life. So simple and yet life changing. Thank you Terri.

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  • Danielle Collins
  • 11-24-21

What a book!!

Sooo empowering and expertly explained, thank you!! Just what I needed, exactly when I needed it.

If you are a Pisces Sun Moon or Rising or have 12th house stuff to work through, this is a MUST READ!

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  • Kirsty Dee
  • 06-14-22

Really practical and great takeaways

Felt I learnt alot and would really recommend this to anyone struggling with boundaries.

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  • Tracy M.
  • 05-16-22

Great book

has alot of helpful tips and real life examples. it makes you feel less alone with letting others over step boundaries. it is empowering.

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  • Rach
  • 04-26-22

Excellent

I real enjoyed the book. Terri reads it so well with loads of emotion. was sad when it came to an end. I might re listen. recommend it to any ready to improve your self worth and life boundaries etc. ✨️

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  • Nae
  • 04-13-22

Excellent

Wish I new all of this early in my life, will implement all that I have learned, thanks so much as this will make sure a difference to so many people.

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  • grainne fallon
  • 04-07-22

A must, must must listen for all women.

Terri Cole helps you find the answers to the questions that you have had about yourself, all your life. She holds your hand while you go there. This book is a life manual and used wisely allows you to live your best mpst authentic self with grace and ease.
Terri, thank you for your wisdom and support even though we have never spoken. I owe you a huge debt if gratitude. 💖🙏

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  • Lesleyak
  • 03-31-22

A must listen!

A wealth of advice given in a compassionate but no nonsense manner. Narrated by the author which is a bonus as she has a lovely manner.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 01-29-22

Life changing!

I've been following Terri Cole's work for a few years now, so was super excited to get her book. It delivered 100%! I found it packed with helpful practical exercises and very clear explanations to support these exercises. This book encompasses many years of the author's work in a concise manner, and although I am familiar with her line of work, I found the information in the book new, refreshing and well organised. Would highly recommend to anyone interested in the different layers of human interaction/ relationships, in self reflection and self improvement, and to those with co dependency tendencies. An essential read that is wonderfully narrated by the author herself in a very pleasant, calming and easy to follow manner. Will be buying a hardcover copy for my personal collection.

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  • Michael Jones
  • 06-08-21

The Penny Drops

Really powerful work that integrates a lot of positive psychology and Zen mindfulness saying “This is what’s happening, this is how it impacts you …. And best of all … here are a bunch of things you can do to create or rebuild your boundaries so you can live the life you want and not dance to other people’s tunes.”

Very well narrated by the author. Well structured but conversational at the same time.
And above all, it’s liberating- as the Buddha said, “My teachings are about freedom”.

Not about building an impermeable wall around yourself, it’s perhaps better seen that boundary boss work is about controlling what crosses one’s boundaries- what you let into your life and what you give out.

Time to go and buy the physical book for future reference and practice. Highly recommended.

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  • Lisa Schindler
  • 06-09-21

Highly recommend.

If you are ready to become your own boss then this is the book for you. No matter how much personal development work you've already done Boundary Boss will help you to further define and master this life saving skill.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-23-21

This is life changing!

This book gave me the tools to get up and get away from an emotionally abusive situation. It has taught me how to feel safe again on my terms, be comfortable with feeling seen and get my inner voice back. 10/10 recommend If you wanna come back to yourself and stop being a push over, listen to this book. Terry is so warm and loving and all throughout the book and I felt her supportive loving energy radiate through me in every step of the way. Thankyou for this book Terri !!! Xoxox

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-18-21

Absolutely loved this book!!

So informative and really got down to the nitty gritty required for insight and change

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  • Gladys Mallqui
  • 06-02-22

What you need to read as a teen, or 50 something

Loved the book! It helped me to have an awareness of how I can change my life by creating simple boundaries . Highly recommended

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  • Catherine
  • 04-17-22

Practical and empowering

I found this book super insightful. I’ve listened to the author’s podcast and her work has been extremely useful for me. Cole is one of the most generous, grounded and inspiring pop psychologists I’ve found. The book brings her work together and is practical and empowering.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-05-22

Such a great help 🤩

I loved this book, it has helped me so much. Thank you very much Terri

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-19-22

excellent


great content, well delivered and narrated. highly recommended. Terri Cole knows her stuff

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  • Bin Lu
  • 01-01-22

I wish I had read it in my younger age

The resentment and the self blaming that I have been holding for all my life starting to make sense. I believe making sense of my life is the beginning of change. Thank you Terri Cole for this book!

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  • Katarzyna De Jesus
  • 11-10-21

Boundaries 101, nothing new.

Boundaries 101, nothing new here. Basic tips & plenty of psychology, especially related to childhood experiences. Disappointed. Had to listen at 1.5 speed to get it finished.