Too Much

A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency

De: MSW LCSW Terri Cole

Narrado por: MSW LCSW Terri Cole

An empowering new take on codependent behavior, revealing the underlying reasons we struggle with doing it all—and the path to recovery and freedom.

Are you the person everyone comes to when they’re in a jam?

Do you regularly accommodate others’ needs and preferences?

Does it feel like chaos will ensue if you don’t handle the travel plans, divvy up the check at group dinners, sort out your friend’s latest crisis, and so on?

If these questions resonate, the odds are good that you are one of the over-giving, over-extending individuals struggling with what psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole has termed high-functioning codependency (HFC).

When you hear the word codependent, you might think of the traditional enabler framework involving a hapless victim and their selfless rescuer. Terri certainly did. But after years in her therapy practice, she realized that many of her clients were presenting codependent behaviors that fell outside of the classic model.

The ironic truth with HFC is that the more capable you are the more codependency doesn’t look like codependency.

In Too Much, you’ll discover how to identify your HFC blueprint (or why you relate to others the way you do), the source of the attraction between codependents and narcissists, and how to cultivate emotional resiliency, practice real self-care, and much more.

Each chapter includes tips, self-assessments, and exercises to help you transform how you see yourself and the world, avoid relapses, and stay centered in your own experience so that you can relate to others in a healthier way.

“How you feel, what you think, what you want matters. In fact, those things need to matter to you the most,” writes Terri. “By choosing the path of healing and recovery, you are coming home to yourself.” Here is a book for making the shift “from too much to just right,” so you can live a life that’s full of authenticity, freedom, and joy.

Uncomfortable but incredibly helpful

Well now, figuring out that you are a high functioning codependent is certainly not for the faint hearted at the start. I believe in continuous improvement and as a mother, I have realized that what we do not heal, we pass it down to our children. This book was direct but gentle and highly practical. I always knew there was a dark side to the “empath” movement- I had to look my shadow in the eye because I wanted a truly good life rather than having one that looked good on paper. Be brave, get this book, try it on for size, you’ve got nothing to lose

Found relevance in my obesity mindset

I really appreciate the exercises & resources found in the book. I highly recommend this book especially if you deal with people that may exhibit narcissistic behaviors.

written only for women

only half of the story. good concepts that are not overly new. see Heri Scazzerro's Emotionally Healthy Woman. even uses the terms from the book "over functioning", "stop doing for things for others that they themselves can and should do for themselves." this book is far better laid out amd edited, but will miss how those who are faithful get an additional layer of pressure to hfc due to modesty, sacrifice, peacemaking, etc.

Everyone needs at least some of this

Loved it cover to cover. As a therapist, I Can’t recommend it enough. Thank you Terri for your great work.

SHE IS SPEAKING TO MY SOUL

just the first 10 minutes in and I am smiling and laughing because this is 100% me!!! I wish I had known about this sooner. But Terri is right so many people don't know what HFC is. We think its that WE depend on someone else and immediately we are like no every depends on ME! but WOW!! so eye opening! I have already shared this book with 5 friends!