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When Kim Goldman was just 22, her older brother, Ron, was brutally killed by O. J. Simpson. Ron and Kim were very close, and her devastation was compounded by the shocking not guilty verdict that allowed a smirking Simpson to leave as a free man.

It wasn't Kim's first trauma. Her parents divorced when she was young, and she and Ron were raised by their father. Her mother kidnapped her, telling her that her father didn't love her any more. When she was 14, she was almost blinded from severe battery acid burns on her face during an automobile accident, requiring three reconstructive surgeries.

But none of these early traumas compared to the loss of her brother, the painful knowledge that his killer was free, and the fact that she could not even grieve privately. Counseled by friends, strangers, and even Oprah to "find closure", Kim chose a different route. She chose to fight.

©2015 Kim Goldman (P)2015 Tantor

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Interesting to learn about her experience

I am glad I listened to this book. I appreciated getting a fuller picture of her experience. As others have said, the title is misleading a bit. I have that uneasy feeling that many do, that there is something about the way that Kim and her dad keep their anger alive which is totally understandable, but which appears unhealthy. It seems unexamined, and I thought this book would be more of a wrestling with what it might mean for her to forgive. (Not that they are obliged to us to grieve in any particular way, of course.) I thought she had a right to explain the story of the "If I Did It" book and I agree with her that we never knew the whole story. I also thought her early experience with her mom explains something of how she has reacted to Ron's death.

She feels Oprah humiliated her. Really?

If I'm to be an armchair psychologist, I think Kim over-identifies with her dad, which is understandable, as he's been a great dad. They seem a little locked in a pattern, but that doesn't change the fact that she seems a very decent lovely person.

I skipped the last 3 chapters because it appeared it was going to be a list of every man she ever dated. I do have sympathy with her dilemma about how to broach the topic with people when she starts to get close to them.

Overall, interesting if you're a bit obsessed without the crime, as I am. Otherwise, nothing compelling.

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  • KarenH
  • Erie, Pennsylvania
  • 07-25-17

Not about OJ

This book is a memoir of Kim's life, it doesn't have a ton to do with OJ. I was not expecting to learn about the life of Kim Goldman. I do think she is a strong person, but I was expecting something different based on the title

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Fantastic

Great book and although a sad story it is engulfed with a tremendous bond between father and daughter and son and daughter.

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Can't Forgive

If you could sum up Can't Forgive in three words, what would they be?

sad, heroic, hope

What did you like best about this story?

Kim's ability to own her weaknesses and failure and how to move forward.

What about Kim Goldman’s performance did you like?

Very truthful in how she told her story.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

No, but no book does that for me. I enjoy listening in my monring drive and evening commute.

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Selfish

Truly a tragedy, but the author is to selfish, self absorb, and needs to realize she is far from the only one who has experienced loss. Save your money.

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