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Compassionate and balanced, and focusing on the emotional health and well-being of children as well as that of the mothers who care for them, this book shows mothers and fathers how to give their children the best chance for developing into healthy and loving adults. Based on more than two decades of clinical work, established psychoanalytic theory, and the most current and cutting-edge neurobiological research on caregiving, attachment, and brain development, the book explains:

  • How to establish emotional connection with a newborn or young child - regardless of whether you're able to pause your career to stay home
  • How to select and train quality childcare if necessary - and how to ease transitions and minimize stress for your baby or toddler
  • What's true and false about widely held beliefs like "babies are resilient" and how to combat feelings of post-partum depression or boredom
  • Why three months of maternity leave is not long enough - and how women and their partners can take control of their choices to provide for their family's emotional needs in the first three years

©2017 Erica Komisar (P)2017 HighBridge, a division of Recorded Books

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I was hesitant to listen to this book because I felt that I somehow was a not a good mom for working outside the home. however the book encourages if you can take a leave of absence from the workforce to go for it. she does not scold mothers who work, she understands that many households today are 2income. she describes how mothers can be more emotionally present with their children, selecting caregivers, the impact on kids when mothers are not there emotionally and physically. this book made me be more aware how I have not been emotionally present with my kids and how that stems from my relationship with my mother. it has made me change for the better.

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Amazing insight and good reminder for Moms

I am a Child Development major and this was basically everything I have learned loaded into one book. It’s heavy, blunt, and full of amazing truth. I think any Mom will feel a little guilty when they read this (full time working Moms and start at home Moms) but I also feel it should being a sense of empowerment to Women and Moms all over. We are important and we matter. It gave me new perspective and a new sense of patience (I have a 2 yr old boy). Great read, I wish it was mandatory for all Moms (and Dads) to read!
Would love it if she came out with a book of ideas of how to be engaging and totally present with each age and stage!

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One of the best books on parenting.

Book would be of interest to expecting parents and actual parents. Nurturing for parents and or caregivers.

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so good!!

loved it! so many great nuggets of information. I will listen to it again for sure :)

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Some good info, a little incongruent

Some of the info is really critical for mothers to understand, but the ending arguments claiming that all families are the same if they just recognize the losses of not having mom around... ugh why do we have to dance around this? kids need their mothers, full stop. She is way too politically correct at the end and doesn't recognize how the feminization of fathers is eroding the family unit.

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Your mom guilt will multiple

If you are a working mother (part time or full time) this is terrible. Just terrible. Do not read and let your guilt be greater than you. You are better than this. Read this and need therapy. Not criticizing the author (it’s just one persons opinion) but want to help my fellow working moms. I ended up reading Present over Perfect and that is an amazing read!