Them Before Us

Why We Need a Global Children's Rights Movement

By: Katy Faust, Stacy Manning

Narrated by: Katy Faust

You probably have a pretty good idea of the adult viewpoints on marriage, infertility, reproductive technologies, same-sex parenting, divorce, and adoption.

But have you ever considered the kids’ perspective?

Them Before Us blazes a new trail through the difficult terrain of marriage and family issues. It’s the only book that filters the complexities of marriage, familial relationships, and reproductive technologies through the lens of a child’s right to be raised by both their mother and father.

This book features the real-life stories of children by the hundreds, and every story makes the irrefutable case that a child’s mother and father are critical to their mental, physical, and emotional well-being.

Them Before Us dispels prevalent myths concerning children’s rights, such as:

• Kids only need love and safety - moms and dads are optional.
• Love makes a family; biology is irrelevant.
• Marriage is a vehicle for adult fulfillment - it has nothing to do with kids.
• Children are resilient and will “get over” divorce.
• Studies show that kids with same-sex parents fare “no different” than kids with a mom and dad.
• Sperm and egg donor kids are fortunate because they are so wanted.
• Surrogacy is a great way to help wannabe parents have a baby.
• Reproductive technologies are no different than adoption.

This well-researched book identifies the wide-ranging harms resulting from mother- and father-loss, and it provides a roadmap for effective children’s rights advocacy. Whether you’re seeking to make sense of your own fractured childhood, or yearn to prevent similar struggles for the next generation, Them Before Us will equip you to be the adult who should have advocated for you as a child.

By defending children’s rights, we protect the heart of every child and set a course that will decimate a myriad of the social ills currently plaguing our world.

©2021 Katy Faust, Stacy Manning (P)2021 Black Hills Audiobooks LLC

Excellent book

Well written back up with data for well round view of both the science and the lived experience! as a midwife seeing the impact of big fertility this is the great human rights travesty of our time! Marvellous book and insights would highly highly recommend!

well...

While I would probably nuke my social life by saying this, she did have some good points. She definitely threw in some snark which could be off-putting attimes. I understand trying to throw in some humor, but the comments about career women waiting too long to have kids and being a victim of their own choices were just weirdly sexist and came off like she had a major chip on her shoulder. In spite of this, I think it's important to consider children's perspectives when our culture often considers it hate to question anything an adult desires. I do still support gay marriage because I don't think marriage is fully defined by having kids. We need to remember that these kids grow into adults too, and I think there should be a balance of needs. I would say yes, let's prioritize the kids in general, but I don't want their parents to live a totally miserable life either.

Opened my eyes

I have always considered myself pro-life, but I had never heard or thought about how so much of what is done to have children hurts the children. A much needed book in anyone’s library who wants to do what is right, even if not popular.

Everyone should read this!

Thank you to Katy and Stacy for bringing such important issues to light and for your passion for children. I will never look at marriage, divorce, same-sex marriage, adoption, or surrogacy the same again. We must put children first.

life changing, very informative.

I have an idea why I opposed some things but affirmed others. Somehow I couldn't put into words exactly what I meant and why I believed exactly these ideas were valid. them before us authors put into words, action and real life scenarios all of my ideas and cause them to materialize. they were empathetic and very emphatic on every point and really give children the voice that has been stolen from them. their words were not empty phrases of fanatics but they gave proof to back their ideas, the reasons why their ideas was not only valid but necessary for the survival and well-being of all children.