• Them Before Us

  • Why We Need a Global Children's Rights Movement
  • By: Katy Faust, Stacy Manning
  • Narrated by: Katy Faust
  • Length: 9 hrs and 21 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (89 ratings)

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Them Before Us

By: Katy Faust,Stacy Manning
Narrated by: Katy Faust
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You probably have a pretty good idea of the adult viewpoints on marriage, infertility, reproductive technologies, same-sex parenting, divorce, and adoption.

But have you ever considered the kids’ perspective?

Them Before Us blazes a new trail through the difficult terrain of marriage and family issues. It’s the only book that filters the complexities of marriage, familial relationships, and reproductive technologies through the lens of a child’s right to be raised by both their mother and father. 

This book features the real-life stories of children by the hundreds, and every story makes the irrefutable case that a child’s mother and father are critical to their mental, physical, and emotional well-being.

Them Before Us dispels prevalent myths concerning children’s rights, such as: 

  • Kids only need love and safety - moms and dads are optional.
  • Love makes a family; biology is irrelevant.
  • Marriage is a vehicle for adult fulfillment - it has nothing to do with kids.
  • Children are resilient and will “get over” divorce.
  • Studies show that kids with same-sex parents fare “no different” than kids with a mom and dad.
  • Sperm and egg donor kids are fortunate because they are so wanted.
  • Surrogacy is a great way to help wannabe parents have a baby.
  • Reproductive technologies are no different than adoption.

This well-researched book identifies the wide-ranging harms resulting from mother- and father-loss, and it provides a roadmap for effective children’s rights advocacy. Whether you’re seeking to make sense of your own fractured childhood, or yearn to prevent similar struggles for the next generation, Them Before Us will equip you to be the adult who should have advocated for you as a child.

By defending children’s rights, we protect the heart of every child and set a course that will decimate a myriad of the social ills currently plaguing our world.

©2021 Katy Faust, Stacy Manning (P)2021 Black Hills Audiobooks LLC

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Interesting information but repetitive

Felt like there was a lot of anecdotes. Too many that outweighed facts and statistics.

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Incredible perspective truthfully detailed

Incredible perspective truthfully detailed, Them before Us needs to be read by all parents & those who wish to be parents in the future.

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Informative and Personal

Informative book and important subject. There are lots of personal stories that help make the subject matter come to life.

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A Thoughtful Voice Advocating for a Much-Needed Culture Shift

I have only recently been introduced to Katy and her work, and WOW - how needed it is! She speaks with a compassionate and thoughtful voice, courageously advocating for the most vulnerable in our society: children. The research she presents, compiled alongside compelling personal stories and experiences, leaves the reader aching for the injustices served to children as a result of adult desire. Katy, though a Christian and pastor’s wife, does not utilize Scripture in her defense of children’s rights; rather, she appeals to secular research, personal testimonies, and logic to state her case. Christians will know and recognize God’s natural law because He has written it on all of our hearts and revealed it in the Bible, without Katy explicitly speaking to it. I felt particularly seen and understood in the section on divorce as an adult child of divorce, and I greatly appreciated her deep dive into surrogacy, a topic which, prior to listening to this work, I had not given much thought nor formed a solid position on. I have a position now, and I am grateful to have a well rounded pro-life, pro-child perspective. I would say that this is a book every person should read as many of our societal issues stem back to the necessary need of the nuclear family, specifically with a mother and father present.

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Awesome

One of the best books I’ve read. I highly recommend it. The authors are knowledgeable on this topic that is so important.

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Eye-opening

This book gave me a whole new perspective on the damage that is caused to children when adults put their own “needs” first. This book argues that children should be protected and their rights prioritized over the desires of adults, and it convinced me. Very informative and eye-opening!

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Awesome

With this book, my convictions about the importance of marriage, children needing both their mother and father and a stable home are confirmed to be correct. I am now equipped for having hard conversations maybe with my friends who are convinced otherwise. Thank you so much to Katy Faust, Stacy Manning and all who helped make this book!
These stories deserve to be heard as stories promoting satisfying adults' wants over children's needs always increases.
This movement is what we badly need. Children deserve better!

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Eye opening

I graduated from a world class university. So, I greatly appreciate the science presented here.

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Eye-opening & Logically-sound

This book does a good job describing the insidious nature of selfishness so prevalent in our culture (myself included) and the dangerous consequences of confusing personal preferences with personal rights. For married couples considering IVF, this is a must-read. For married couples in general, this is a must read. For married couples considering adoption this is a must read. For everyone else, this is a must read. Give your mind some food for thought, read (listen to) this book

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Opened my eyes

I have always considered myself pro-life, but I had never heard or thought about how so much of what is done to have children hurts the children. A much needed book in anyone’s library who wants to do what is right, even if not popular.

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