Mate

Become the Man Women Want

By: Geoffrey Miller PhD, Tucker Max

Narrated by: Geoffrey Miller PhD

The #1 bestselling pioneer of "fratire" and a leading evolutionary psychologist team up to create the dating book for guys.

Whether they conducted their research in life or in the lab, experts Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have spent the last 20+ years learning what women really want from their men, why they want it, and how men can deliver those qualities.

The short answer: become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work and a little help.

Through their website and podcasts, Max and Miller have already helped over one million guys take their first steps toward Ms. Right. They have collected all of their findings in Mate, an evidence-driven, seriously funny playbook that will teach you to become a more sexually attractive and romantically successful man, the right way: No "seduction techniques," No moralizing, No bullshit. Just honest, straightforward talk about the most ethical, effective way to pursue the win-win relationships you want with the women who are best for you.

Much of what they've discovered will surprise you, some of it will not, but all of it is important and often misunderstood. So listen up, and stop being stupid!

Critic reviews

"Every single page has interesting information. A great resource."—Dr. Drew Pinsky, host of the Loveline radio show and Dr. Drew On Call on HLN

"The most unexpected book of the year: World-famous evolutionary psychologist meets world-famous drunken asshole. The result: A sober, solid, necessary, and authoritative guide not just to dating, but to becoming a better man."—Neil Strauss, author of New York Times bestseller The Game and The Truth

"I wish I could teleport a copy of Mate back in time and give it to my 13-year-old self, and then instruct him to read it once a year for the next decade."—Jake Seliger, author and founder of The Story's Story

"From the very beginning, this book plays it straight. It's about becoming a better person and creating positive, fulfilling relationships. This isn't a book with a predatory, pickup artist mindset."—Aubrey Marcus, founder of Onnit Fitness and the Aubrey Marcus Podcast

"A fascinating look at mating and dating from the perspective of a guy who gained fame for doing the former.... Miller's academic influence gives it some much needed credibility."—Adam Kovac, AskMen.com

Wish I had had this book when I was 18.

Not only does this book increase your attractiveness to women, in the process it shows you how to be a better person in general. Mandatory reading for all young men. This book will facilitate our evolution as better mates and persons. Read it.

I'm probably the only 17 year old who read this...

I first read this a couple of months ago as a senior in high school. I saw a lot of people saying that they wish they read this when they were 17 /18 and I decided to give this the good old college try. I'm about 2 months in now and I weigh 183 lbs, I was around 204 when I started, So I'm still not done fixing myself healthwise. I have been working out twice a day. A session of P90x3 in the afternoon and about an hour in the weight room in our basement. I'm a socially awkward loner and a virgin. Not to mention that I've never been in any type of romantic relationship in my life. I wanna see if the claims about the accuracy of this book are true. For the sake of other potential teen readers and adults, I may rewrite this review in the future as I progress. If this works it's going to be a legit zero to hero moment for me, hah.

Overall some great advice! Some things I'd argue against

Overall worth going through. I don't agree with the part about how girls don't want a guy who can't drink occasionally without relapsing. There are a lot of girls who want a straight-edge guy. I don't agree with his advice to take time off before going to college because I know many people who did that and never returned or had an opportunity to return to college. Some other parts I didn't agree with. Could have better performance. Some of the performance was okay, and some was monotoned. I expected the book to have more humor because of the cover, but it had a more serious tone. Still worth going through. There were some excellent parts and a lot of excellent advice!

Great book

One of the best books out there! Buy it without hesitation. I've read/listen to several dating books, this one is absolutely one of the best.
Must read it several times to absorb all the information within.

Two thumbs up.

Amazing book covering pre-game: what to do and how to act before even trying to game women. Of course, do it well and they'll come to you.