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If we all want love, why is there so much conflict in our most cherished relationships? To answer this question we must look into our evolutionary past, argues prominent psychologist David M. Buss. Based one of the largest studies of human mating ever undertaken, encompassing more than 10,000 people of all ages from 37 cultures worldwide, The Evolution of Desire is the first work to present a unified theory of human mating behavior.

Drawing on a wide range of examples of mating behavior - from lovebugs to elephant seals, from the Yanomamö tribe of Venezuela to online dating apps - Buss reveals what women want, what men want, and why their desires radically differ. Love has a central place in human sexual psychology, but conflict, competition, and manipulation also pervade human mating - something we must confront in order to control our own mating destiny.

Fully revised and updated to reflect the very latest scientific research on human mating, this classic work of evolutionary psychology explains the powerful forces that shape our most intimate desires.

©2018 David M. Buss (P)2018 Hachette Audio

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Interesting but not well written

Some interesting and novel concepts, but very clumsy and repetitive writing, and not scientifically rigorous. An okay read.

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  • JR
  • 07-24-19

Excellent book

Buss is a great writer and thinker. A lucid explanation of the evolutionary baggage men n women carry. It’s great society gets on men to reign in their biological drive for variety in sex partners. Economist.com had a story on how most polygamous societies also most violent and least development ...but, besides society harping on the Weinstein’s, this book highlights the baggage women have that contributes to societies ills...that seems most media keeps mum on. The best antidote is awareness, so we can work to reign these in. Highly recommend this as well as The Red Queen by Matt Ridley.

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Good, but sometimes long winded

Some good points. Some points have long explanations for simple concepts, but it's good to know they are backed by research.

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Phenomenal

The world makes a whole lot more sense now. Always a pleasure to learn about human nature from anthropology and evolutionary psychology.

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Very informative, interesting perspective

Some books allow you to step away and view things from a totally fresh perspective, this is such a book.
It is the math of human propagation, something we like to imagine doesn’t exist, yet is intuitively part of every calculation we make. It doesn’t control us, but it does set the stage for most of our behavior, culture and social interaction. To understand it is to better understand ourselves.

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Awesome, awesome book

This book was very enlightening. I learned alot about anthropology and sex and stuff. Very good 👌

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Excellent overview of evolutionary psychology!

Wonderful balanced overview of evolutionary psychology with a healthy dose of reserved speculations on human nature mixed with body conclusions on human sexuality.

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Seeing

Looks, Money, Status.

For me this book redefined how to look at things and make it even more clearly as to why it is of importance to me to focus on my career and find a close to optimal match for a partner.

Having supreme social skills is not enough
Having only money is not enough.

Both are of importance.

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An amazing, gripping, beautifully written book.

brings for the the science of mating evolution in a context that explains modern day mating dynamics. excellent.

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One of the best books what I recommend to survivor

There are few books what give you the AHA moment, and this is one of them. I highly recommend this because you will have a complete overview what is happening in planet Earth and why - if you are a human.

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  • Samedi
  • 07-19-21

A must-read.

This is a book which gives an honest appraisal of the strategies men and women use in mating, supported by an enormous tranch of studies from around the world. It debunks myths, without seeking to do so and will be a gold mine for those who wish to maintain that there are such things as biological men and women and that they are different in their evolved psychology.

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  • Kamil Roman
  • 10-26-20

A must-have for dating and pickup

This book won't teach you great pickup lines or techniques. It will give you much more - explanations of basic mechanisms in human mating. You will learn why evolutionarily humans chose to have long term relationships or casual sex and why men want beauty while women prefer strength, prestige and money. Everything backed with scientific data and research.

Definitely a great guide to better understand the other sex as well as oneself when it comes to dating, seeking partner and also being in a relationship.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-11-20

Precisely what you need to hear

Everyone has to hear this, because it confirms what all of us already intuitively know.

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  • Mr Martin Marais
  • 01-23-19

Nothing new here

Maybe, it's because I've listened to several books on evolution, but I found that this audiobook offered me nothing that if I gave it some thought I would have thought of myself. Okay the content is based on a huge amount of data, but I'm not sure whether I learnt anything any sensible person could have come up with by simply giving it some serious thought. I did not listen to the whole book, so there may have been some nuggets further into the book, but I did not feel engaged enough to continue.

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  • Ras
  • 04-24-18

wonderful review of evolutionary psychology

I have enjoyed every bit of this book. It reviews the scientific knowledge on mating in a very accessible way. The narration is also perfect as much as the quality knowledge it presents.

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  • Suzanne Clyne
  • 06-25-20

A Book That Should Be Read and Revisited Every Year by Everyone

There is so much wonderful, deeply analytical and factually supported information in this book. I will be turning to the front and starting all over again. It unravels the complexities in our behaviours to reveal the simplistic evolved motivations. Spectacular.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-16-18

Interesting facts around Male and Female desires

Truly an eye opener to make and female behaviour. never saw my own behaviour to be for any reason only that's just how things are.