A Single Revolution

Don't Look for a Match. Light One.

By: Shani Silver

Narrated by: Cherise Boothe, Shani Silver

Shani Silver is not an advocate for singlehood. She’s an advocate for single women feeling good while single - and there’s a difference.

A Single Revolution is one book for single women that won’t approach you like you’re unfinished. It’s for those who are exhausted, frustrated, confused, or angry - who want relationships but don’t deserve to be miserable in the meantime.

A grueling dating grind isn’t a prerequisite for partnership. You can be happily single and still meet someone - that’s allowed. It’s possible to value your single time so much that you refuse to give it up for anything less than the amazing relationships you deserve. It’s also possible to stop searching for them so relentlessly that you ignore every other aspect of your valid, beautiful life. This isn’t a book about dating. It’s a book about living.

You can choose how you feel about being single. You can choose to feel wrong, or you can choose to feel free. A Single Revolution isn’t about changing yourself - it’s about changing your mind.

©2021 Shani Silver (P)2022 Shani Silver

Wonderful

Super validating and helpful. I think every woman should read (or listen to) this book.

Stop everything you’re doing and devour this book.

THANK YOU SHANI. Thank you. I needed every word. I talk about this book like a crazy person to everyone I encounter. It is ESSENTIAL. Force the men in your life to read this book, too. For their own sakes, for their mom’s sake, for your sake, for their daughters’ sakes. THANK YOU SHANI.

Great Book

I really enjoyed this book and I looked forward to beginning my mornings with a new chapter.

Buenas ideas para habitar la soltería mientras llega la persona adecuada

Me encanta que no aboga a favor de la soltería como si fuera una opción mejor a la de la vida en pareja.
Brinda ideas prácticas para cambiar la mentalidad propia.

You will be heard

A fast-growing number of us are living happily independent and alone, yet we continue to be ostracized and stigmatized by mainstream societal standards for not settling for any romantic relationship just to fit in. Most of us work hard and contribute positively to our communities, yet we are seen as unworthy and treated like we aren’t equals, or “fully grown adults”, simply as a result of being single. Nobody knows the plight of a single woman better than a woman who has lived it for years and years. Shani is that woman. She has been able to verbalize the mostly silent issues we face, including the constant discrimination embedded in our language and culture, along with the double standards heterosexual women face in the dating world. Shani is brave, brutally honest, and eloquent. The main message is that contrary to this traditional mainstream mentality, we aren’t wrong or lesser than for being single. This is something we have been internalizing, and we need to examine its roots. Shani uses her experiences to connect to her reader and so many of her experiences are our shared experience. The second half of the book provides suggestions for how to live your best life as a single person right now. This humorous and fun read brings to the surface some very important issues and the only way to resolve them is to make them visible, discuss them, educate the couple-normative world, and to deny the status quo. Shani does that successfully.

An ode to self-worth

I've enjoyed Shani's podcast and her Medium essays, so was eager to read her first book. I must say, it definitely didn't disappoint! The book celebrates female single hood as a time of joy and made me question my internalized need to end it so my life would feel complete. I'm just sad Shani didn't narrate her own book as I find her voice lovely and expressive.

Excellent Perspective on Single Hood

As someone who has lived a very different life from Shani Silver, it’s amazing how much I can relate to just about everything she says. As a mature single person for many years I am so glad that she was able to “flip the script” on singles being happy. She gave me the confidence to tell my friends and others that think it’s sad that I’m single the truth, and that is I am SO happy now. I realized that society has made people feel like they have to be coupled to be happy and that is absolutely not true. I now have firm boundaries and I have never been as happy, as I am being single. Although she addresses this, it is not what her message is in her book, she addresses all different sides of the subject and is not at all against partnership and dating but gives people in that space a different way to reframe it. I now follow her podcast on Patreon and it’s fabulous. I can’t wait to listen to her next book. The narrator was good, but I hope that Shani is the narrator of her next book on audible as I enjoy listening to her voice. This does not deserve less than 5 STARS!

All good reminders

In a world filled with dating apps and couples, it was refreshing to hear another POV

I loved it!

Lo que más me gustó es que no propone "recetas" ni "técnicas" (a excepción de algunos consejos muy prácticos y concretos), sino que invita y acompaña a los lectores a mirar las cosas desde una distinta perspectiva. Muy bueno!

Feeling seen and empowered

Thank you, Shani for putting this out into the world. With so many things having changed in just a short amount of time (in culture in general and how that affects the dating scene) it can be easy for women to get sucked into yet another manifestation of the tired narrative that something is wrong that we need to fix about ourselves. Thank you for your fierce love evident in these words and for the encouragement to enjoy life now.