Sis, Don't Settle

How to Stay Smart in Matters of the Heart

By: Faith Jenkins

Narrated by: Faith Jenkins

Length: 8 hrs and 20 mins

Publisher's summary

Date smarter, make better decisions in love, and achieve the relationship you deserve.... It all starts with not settling!

By day, Faith Jenkins is the host of the nationally syndicated TV show Divorce Court; by night, she’s a happily married newlywed who navigated these dating streets for years before learning how to attract the love of her dreams.   

When she turned 35 without a wedding ring in sight, like most women, she started getting tons of questions about not being married. But she made a decision: I. Will. Not. Settle.  

As an attorney and arbitrator, Faith has presided over hundreds of cases, and has helped couples avoid and resolve a wealth of drama. And she’s seen it all! In Sis, Don’t Settle, she’s gathered an arsenal of love, wisdom, and advice for women on how to play it smart. 

Modern culture would have women believe they can’t have it all — and be smart, successful, strong women with authentic love to boot. Wrong. Told in her signature style — sometimes salty and sometimes sweet — Faith provides real solutions that will teach you how to thrive in relationships while avoiding common missteps and pitfalls. She delivers it straight, with no chaser, to show us how to level up, and reminds you that how you live single will set the tone for your success in relationships.

Smart, illuminating, and, often laugh-out-loud funny, Sis, Don’t Settle is the essential playbook that will help you build your confidence, generate better results in love, and land a high-value relationship once and for all. You’ll find tips on topics like:

• Strong independent women…and the men who love them
• What’s worse than a bad relationship? Overextending your stay in one
• Becoming the right person to attract the right person  
• How to release trash subconscious beliefs that keep you settling
• And much more!

Whether you’re single, divorced, or in a situationship, Sis, Don’t Settle reveals the direction and guidance you need to navigate love and take back your power.

©2021 Faith Jenkins (P)2021 Legacy Lit

Critic reviews

“Listen to Faith. This book is great!” (Steve Harvey, New York Times best-selling author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man)

"Judge Faith Jenkins is the personification of what it means to live by faith! I was honored to marry her and her husband, the legendary Kenny Lattimore, and I know first-hand that she is a testament to never settling for less especially when it comes to love. I have no doubt her story, her wisdom, and her insights will motivate every reader to never settle for less than their worth!" (DeVon Franklin, New York Times best-selling author of The Wait)

"I was relieved that Sis Don't Settle is not about "catching" a man. This easy, wise, and often funny read is about recognizing your innate worth. Read this book. Love yourself. Then, expect more love to enter your life." (Tina Lifford, author of The Little Book of Big Lies)

Modern Day Heroine

I remember Faith Jenkins when she Miss Louisiana Tech and Miss Louisiana. I was just starting at Louisiana Tech at that time. It was encouraging to see a young Black woman representing a PWI and a state steeped in racial discrimination. She continues to represent herself as a woman paving the way for others. It’s disheartening to hear of all of the failed relationships because she’s amazing; however, it is all worth it to receive the love of her life that was meant just for her. As a African American woman over 40 who has never been married, I am inspired by her story. Settling for just anyone is not an option. I’m at a point in my life that I’m happy being single and to finding a purpose partner would be the “icing on the cake”. However, even if singleness is my lot in life, I’m happy to stay single then setting for someone who is not right for me. This is a great book and a great reminder that you are a Queen and you shouldn’t be treated less than that. I will be sharing this book with my single family members and even my friends who have settled in marriages that are not best for them. Thank you so much Faith for being transparent with your struggles and inspiring us not to settle.

An OK read/listen

Nothing ground breaking when it comes to relationship advice for those who are in touch with reality and serious about relationships and making them work.
I usually like when the author read their own books but, I found Judge Faith to be boring. Her own story of love was very "fairytale". I would say use your credit on something else and rent this book from the library.

Started off like a home run!

I bought this book after watching an interview of the author on woman evolve. Who better to spell out the don’ts and red flags of dating than someone with years of experience in handling divorces. I also felt that I could relate to her, as a woman who has chosen to remain single until I find someone genuine, instead of taking up time and space with a situationship.

I liked how this book started off. You should live life on your own terms and never dim your light to impress a man. I like how she shared her dating history and how she didn’t just walk into a fairytale after the second guy.

What I disliked was that near the end of the story, it became cliche. I’m tired of books that claim to have a “recipe” for attracting/manifesting the right guy. Perhaps I’m a cynic, but I’m tired of hearing the same old “write a list” or “put it on your vision board” or “just take a break and that’s when you’ll meet him”.

I can enjoy a book that guides me in the realm of waiting between dating. I can appreciate a book from a woman who waited, dealt with long periods of singleness, and who’s honest about what dating was like before she found her person. However, I’m over the cliche love stories that most of us will never experience.

Lastly, I’d recommend this book to women who are either a) below the age of 24 and/or b) have had very little dating experience. The advice is realistic for the most part and things you’re not likely to hear unless you’ve got a supportive female family member to teach you the real ropes of dating.

Great book for singles.

Great book to read before saying I do. So many advices and things to consider

Great insight

Thank you for ur honesty in this book. I’m married however this book has taught me not to settle but continue to love on me and go for the love life I want.

Faith speaks truth!

This book has helped me in so many ways! I have to listen again and again. There are so many nuggets in it.

Yes, Sis do not Settle and you won’t after this book.

Judge Faith Jenkins (Lattimore) is an excellent author and reader. While her words are very inspirational, her voice aided in receiving the message. This book will help adult women of all age’s that want a healthy, loving and respectful relationship. I recommend it highly!

Brilliant!

Funny, profound , brilliantly done !
excellent book. Wonderful , and absolutely educational. Thank you so much for being humble and transparent to help others. . And congratulations on your marriage. 

Inspiring!

Thank you for writing this book.
The message was clear and uplifting. Women love yourselves first!
It was the best book I have read in 2023!

She touches on every part of a relationship

This book is everything! She touches on every part of a relationship including with ourself. I love that she pointed out red flags and reminds us to be a high valued woman. What really got me was when she talked about women not wanting to be pinned as “An Angry Black Woman” and how it causes us to put with far more than we should. I was like YEEEESSSSSSSS, THAT PART!

If you want guidance on how to have a healthy balance with oneself and being in a relationship this book has all that and more!

No sex before marriage

I honestly could not take this woman seriously. It 80% of men are no longer virgins then why not make a book catering to them? The religious talk was off putting.

Brilliant

Worth the read, defo helped me maintain my standards in love, I’m ready for my husband. thankyou!

BEST BOOK I HAVE READ SO FAR 2023

Loved the book
Great read and definitely recommend
5 stars ⭐️
It’s an all rounder
Great story

A must read for all women

I loved this book so much that I recommended it to many other ladies , this book blessed me so much . I loved the honesty, the candid advice and the humour
I found myself cackling out loud so many times as I listened to this book . I honestly didn’t want it to end

Empowering

I have learned a lot from this book and its helping me check myself and inspired me to grow into the women I want to be.

So practical and informative

A must read for anyone at any stage in their relationship but I am super grateful that I read this now (as a singleton) because my choices are now so much wiser

Just what I needed

As a woman in her 30s still waiting for her one, this is the advice I have been looking for. So many gems! I am encouraged and have renewed hope to keep going and not settle!

Loved this book. Thank you Faith.

I’ve learned a lot from this book. I need to go back make notes so that I can apply the principles. I really liked the author’s authenticity.

Informative , witty and real

Great deal of information about how to manoeuvre through being single and to prepare for marriage

A great synopsis of what we all know articulated in such a beautiful way

Such an insightful message from someone who seems to know all the scenarios we’ve all been through and have had to make sense of.
The conclusions are spot on and I look forward to experiencing the benefits of using this approach.