The Defining Decade

Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now
By: Meg Jay
Narrated by: Meg Jay
Length: 5 hrs and 28 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (23 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Contemporary culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Clinical psychologist Dr Meg Jay argues that this could not be further from the truth. In fact, your 20s are the most defining decade of adulthood.

The Defining Decade weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with real-life stories to show us how work, relationships, personality, social networks, identity and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood.

Smart, compassionate and constructive, The Defining Decade is a practical guide to making the most of the years we cannot afford to miss.

©2016 Meg Jay (P)2012 Hachette Audio

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  • 01-13-20

Good but more needed!

This book is great for people in their late teens and twenties and motivates one to get on with their life... however more information and help on how to start and go on forward after knowing this information would be helpful.

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Life changing

This book was honestly life changing. From someone in their 20’s wow. I needed this

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Amazing

Every single 20 something should read this! Be intentional is what I take away from this, and many, many more lessons!

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  • 08-03-20

amazing

One of those books where I feel like contacting the author and thanking them. I'm 25, half way through my defining decade - and although I'm not behind I'm definitely not ahead. This book has given me a lot to think about and I would recommend it to anyone, I wish I'd listed to it as a teen

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-24-20

Blame and fear aren't that inspiring

All the actually good thoughts there got completely lost for me in the assertive tone of voice. Meg Ray has very strong opinions of what is 'right and wrong', and the entire book felt very black and white to me in its judgements, like there is nothing in between. I believe in good intentions of the author but oh boy, was there any self-help book that made me feel more guilty about my decisions - which aren't even bad at all - than this one? I doubt so.

I am 25 and I was coming for some inspiration but the book left me angry and disappointed. Even more, I can imagine how this book might be harmful for people who are depressed and lost in their life. There are so many amazing sources out there that can help understand yourself, your brain, your emotions. Sources that give you practical advice on how to be a better and happier human instead of making you feel like you're already too late after 30 if you weren't thoughtful and productive enough. If you're anything after 22 and you decide to read this book, use it with some criticism and remember the book is just an opinion, either way. Challenge it!

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  • Finlay Matheson
  • 06-21-20

Every 20 something needs to read this book

Gives incredible insight into what your 20s are all about, and all the lies we've been made to believe that we're "living the glory days". Incredible.

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  • Akila Sultana
  • 06-02-20

Life changing

Every 20 something or 19 year old like myself needs to listen to this. Grateful I found it and gave it a thorough listen. Thank you Meg Jay.

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  • Tina Zivojnovic
  • 05-19-20

Great book

I like her voice very calming. Great book. Puts things in perspective to be honest.

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  • 05-12-20

this book will change your 20s

I listened to this book during the covid lockdown as a way to pass time and it has absolutely changed my life. Whether you think you need guidance or not this book will touch on every aspect of your life and make you realise that your behaviours now my actually have a much greater long term impact than you first imagined. It is not at all preachy and negative but it instead makes you think about the footprints you’re leaving in the sand about the direction these are taking without you realising. If you or someone you know is just beginning to enter the world of adulthood they need to read this book.

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  • Mary
  • 04-24-20

A must read if you're in your 20's!!

so many relatable points. And puts a lot into perspective. I definitely recommend everyone give this a read/ listen.

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  • Ana Tshuka
  • 02-23-20

Extremely BORING

I am 25 years old and I was really interested in reading this book given that I am in my twenties but this book is extremely boring - the tone of voice puts you to sleep. Given that I have read most of it with only an hour left I haven't really picked up much from this book apart from date with purpose (I think). It is not very clear how we (us in our twenties) should make the most of this decade. I do not recommend at all

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  • Nathan L.
  • 02-12-20

Important

One of the most important books for young people, the ways it widens your scope and become more informed about life, the only negatives being it could of been longer and perhaps more reference to those not living traditional lives such as young business owners as it was very career oriented.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 02-11-20

Great listen if you haven't got direction now

Very interesting thoughts and arguments made by the author, worth a read if in your 20s and feel a bit stuck and not sure what to do. Most interesting part for me was how the brain has a second development during the 20s years and this explains lots of behavioural choices. Book is very anecdotal, which isn't a problem, but primarily focuses on the theme of: people stuck in a rut with no direction and people who think they can wait until they're 30 to start living 'properly', whilst these themes are understand for perspective, it would have been interesting to see the perspective of someone doing well in their 20s but with the challenges that come with that, to see both perspectives. Overall if your in your 20s its worth a listen, good few lessons to be found and the author comes across genuine and easy to listen to.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-06-19

Scary but needed advice for your 20s

Scary but needed advice for your 20s. At 29 I felt like I should have listened to this earlier.

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  • 05-31-20

Very much worth a read if you are in your 20s

Very much worth a read if you are in your 20s. Learnt alot from this one

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  • 02-05-20

Therapy in Audiobook form

I have listened to this 3 times over the last 2 years, when I feel "stuck" or "lost" and there are tid-bits in the different chapters that really help.
I'm a very self aware person, so listening to these facts and theories helps me reframe where I am at, and then be able to think about moving forward.

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  • 01-17-19

Amazing

The advice was life affirming and direct, yet gentle and understanding. It felt tailor made to me, it addresses to many of my concerns about life. Incredibly engaging.

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  • Jayne Mc Laughlin
  • 06-25-18

eye opening

Thoroughly enjoyed the content of this book. It also got me thinking and forced me to to take some action. Although, the narrator gets some getting used to.