The Defining Decade

Why Your Twenties Matter - and How to Make the Most of Them Now

By: Meg Jay

Narrated by: Meg Jay

Length: 7 hrs and 11 mins

Publisher's Summary

New York Times best-selling psychologist Dr. Meg Jay uses real stories from real lives to provide smart, compassionate, and constructive advice about the crucial (and difficult) years we cannot afford to miss.

Our "30-is-the-new-20" culture tells us the 20-something years don't matter. Some say they are a second adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist, argues that 20-somethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialized what is actually the most defining decade of adulthood. 

Drawing from almost two decades of work with hundreds of clients and students, The Defining Decade weaves the latest science of the 20-something years with the behind-closed-doors stories from 20-somethings, themselves. The result is a provocative listen that provides the tools necessary to make the most of your 20s, and shows us how work, relationships, personality, social networks, identity, and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood - if we use the time wisely. 

The Defining Decade is a smart, compassionate and constructive book about the years we cannot afford to miss. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2012 Meg Jay (P)2021 Hachette Audio

Really enjoyed this as a parent too.

I really appreciate this book. The points brought up by the author were great and my son really enjoyed this book and he gained a lot of confidence about big life decisions and he told me about the book so I read it also. I hope my next 2 kids read it too. Highly recommend.

EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ THIS BOOK!

This book tells you how to get your life together! it is a must read for every graduating senior, 20 something year old and people in their 30s! READ IT!

You can’t afford not to listen to this

If you are a 20 something year old, or going to be. This book will truly make sure you don’t live life with regrets. So insightful

Mind opening

I’m turning 21 soon and was heading in the same direction of some these 20 something year olds. Made me really put my life into perspective.

I really needed to hear this

I'm about to turn 25 and I feel like this is exactly what I needed to hear. I felt anxious and worried because of all the uncertainty about the future. This made me feel like I had no clue about what decisions to make and I kept procrastinating. This book helped me a lot and I have a much clearer idea of what I should focus on and try.

Highly recommend!

This was an incredible book! Well written, engaging, and helpful! It was narrated by the author, which I loved.

a must read

This book is crucial in delivering well a message for 20-somethings, those about to be 20-something, and those who care about them. It also has tremendous wisdom for those who made it into their thirties without much thought or preparation for that time in life. Highly recommend!

I needed this book 5 years ago.

I loved this book. It gave me different perspectives and made me wonder if there is anything I need to change while I am still in my 20s.

Pretty good for young adults

The book is very thought provoking and sets a good guideline for things to think about.

Life Changing

Wow! Meg slapped me around so many times with this book. I was dating someone who “had his life together”; looking at him and thinking that I will do the same eventually. This book brought back memories that /i should 100% take my 20s more serious than I do. We’re not getting any younger!

Interesting

I’d recommend the book if you feel lost in your 20s or are working a dead-end job, but, otherwise, it’s not necessarily a must-read.

Jay is good at motivating people to get started with their lives but you will probably already have heard a lot of what she’s saying about careers.

Still, the book is catchy and I listened to it in a couple days. Jay uses a lot of client stories which kept me hooked.

The only really great part of the book is the one about love. It made me think a lot and gave me guidance as to how to approach relationships in my 20s. The sources and facts Jay mentioned were of great quality.

I've gone back to this 3 times

this is the only audiobook I've relistened to several times. I'm 25 and every listen gives me more to think about but I also finish the book feeling like I have more control over the direction of the twenties.

don't usually write reviews, but this is solid and the stories make sense.

Mind Blowing

So so so much to absorb, think about and process as a twenty something myself...

Would recommend this 100%

A must read for anyone in their 20s and parents

I love love this book. I wish I read it sooner! It is a very thought provoking book and it is a must read for anyone in their twenties! it is useful for parents as well as they can use this to give their children advice as they grow up.

Great book for yound adults!

This book changed my life. Because of it I started thinking about my future life seriously and without procrastinación.

Very good read

Beneficial, but I would say that the themes are more relevant to a 20-something from the western world and of that culture.