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Publisher's Summary

Have you ever opened your mouth to discipline your child, and your parents' nastiest words tumble out? In an era when most parenting books focus on the child, this book supports parents in dealing more positively with themselves, as well as their toddler-to-school-age children, offering specific tools to stop policing and pleading with kids and start being the parents we want to be.

Based on Dr. Bailey's more than 25 years of work with children, this book explains that how we discipline ourselves is ultimately how we discipline our children. Her "Seven Powers for Self-Control" dramatically increase our ability to keep our cool with our children. These correspond to "Seven Basic Discipline Skills" we can use with our children in conflict situations. As children internalize these skills, they naturally learn "Seven Values for Living," which include integrity, respect, compassion, and responsibility.

©2007 Becky A. Bailey (P)2016 Tantor

Critic Reviews

"Bailey's underlying message is positive and hopeful, supported with humorous anecdotes and helpful solutions to even chronic discipline problems." ( Publishers Weekly)

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Best Parenting Book I've Read

This book addresses a very real issue in parenting struggles: the parents' behavior. Kids pick up on our mood, and if we become calm, they will too. I love the overall teaching that discipline is teaching, not punishment. I also like that consequences are a good thing, just the right type of consequence. This book has taught me how to think in the perspective of the child and to consider how to talk to my kids differently. Since reading this I have rarely yelled anymore and we no longer use time-outs (and don't need to!).

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The book about parenting I was looking for

And if you are a highly sensitive person, it gives wonderful advices and practices, for example you can't please people and set limits at the same time.

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extremely useful for kids and adults

this book had lots of examples to demonstrate effective methods for getting kids (or yourself) to do what needs to be done. The policy of attributing positive intent really does make my kid want to help me out.

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great book

what you focus on you get more of such a great statement I feel that they focus too much on what you shouldn't do.

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Great content.. too much whispering

Narrator whispers too much making it hard to keep the volume consistent. Geat book though!