Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline

The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict into Cooperation

By: Becky A. Bailey

Narrated by: Emily Beresford

Have you ever opened your mouth to discipline your child, and your parents' nastiest words tumble out? In an era when most parenting books focus on the child, this book supports parents in dealing more positively with themselves, as well as their toddler-to-school-age children, offering specific tools to stop policing and pleading with kids and start being the parents we want to be.

Based on Dr. Bailey's more than 25 years of work with children, this book explains that how we discipline ourselves is ultimately how we discipline our children. Her "Seven Powers for Self-Control" dramatically increase our ability to keep our cool with our children. These correspond to "Seven Basic Discipline Skills" we can use with our children in conflict situations. As children internalize these skills, they naturally learn "Seven Values for Living," which include integrity, respect, compassion, and responsibility.

©2007 Becky A. Bailey (P)2016 Tantor

Critic reviews

"Bailey's underlying message is positive and hopeful, supported with humorous anecdotes and helpful solutions to even chronic discipline problems." ( Publishers Weekly)

Wonderful work, annoying voice

This stuff is revolutionary both as a parent and teacher. You will learn a lot. The voice is kind of painful though

I am angry and that's Ok.

If every parent read this book there would be no need for Alternative programs or jails ;)

Narrator was PAINFUL to listen to!

It took FOREVER to finish because the narration was downright painful to listen to! I had to go back to the same parts OVER AND OVER because I just couldn't keep my focus on what she was saying. But the content seemed good, and it was highly recommended so I persisted. I'm glad I did. It was good information. I HAAAATE to read, but I'm gonna have to get the print version to go over the pertinent parts because I just can't listen to that again. There are SO MANY good voice over artists. I just don't understand why anyone would hire someone who sounds like a bored robot. Try MacKenzie Koppa next time, guys. Her voice is delightful!

Practical tools for emotionally healthier kids

This book gives practical tools to help adults help children to learn or increase key skills for life like processing emotions, having a positive self-image, and living with self-control and self-discipline. But the author knows that you cannot teach what you do not know, so she extends these research-based concepts for a better life to include the adults themselves. Has been helpful to me personally and is helping me help my “kids” (my clients as an occupational therapist) as well.

Great parenting/ person book

This is a great book. Not just for parenting but for self-improvement as well! I had learned a little about this approach so I wanted to hear the whole thing. I read the negative reviews, and I think that if people say that the first chapters are a waste of time, then they are not really interested in changing themselves. This approach really helps as you practice it and learn to use it. I am speaking as a parent of several children and as a preschool teacher. Working on self composure, assertiveness, setting clear boundaries, taking responsibility and encouraging confidence. Highly recommended

Life-changing

Loved this book, i recommend it to all of my friends who are parents and use it in my practice for children AND adults

Best Parenting Book I've Read

This book addresses a very real issue in parenting struggles: the parents' behavior. Kids pick up on our mood, and if we become calm, they will too. I love the overall teaching that discipline is teaching, not punishment. I also like that consequences are a good thing, just the right type of consequence. This book has taught me how to think in the perspective of the child and to consider how to talk to my kids differently. Since reading this I have rarely yelled anymore and we no longer use time-outs (and don't need to!).

Great content.. too much whispering

Narrator whispers too much making it hard to keep the volume consistent. Geat book though!

A Must For Every Parent

Provides actionable steps and guidance to becoming a better person then being a better parent. A great guide to revisit.

Every parent should listen to this book!

I wish every parent understood the concept that discipline means to teach. This book has so many helpful ways to teach children to self discipline. This book is worth your time!