Drink Water and Mind Your Business

A Black Woman's Guide to Unlearning the BS and Healing Your Self-Esteem

By: Dr. Donna Oriowo

Narrated by: Deanna Anthony

Society was not built with the needs of Black women in mind. As a result, we learn that the only way to feel good about ourselves is to prioritize everyone else's needs over our own. We find our value in being the perfect partner, mother, daughter, employee, and friend. But that is exhausting. Instead of feeling good about how dope we are, we only feel good about what we do for others.

Supremacy culture teaches us to hate Black people, to hate women, and to especially hate Black women . . . except when they need us. So in a world where our service is required for acceptance, how could we ever feel good about ourselves while also giving the middle finger to systems of power? How can we live our best lives? The answer: Self-esteem. Self-esteem has been gatekept by the white and male supremacist delusions for far too long. It's time to put power where it actually belongs.

In Drink Water and Mind Your Business, Dr. Donna Oriowo helps listeners understand the basic foundations of self-esteem and offers real, meaningful solutions to feel like the most glorious and badass versions of themselves. Based on years of research and Dr. Donna's career as a licensed sex and relationship therapist, this book will help you set boundaries, prioritize your needs, understand your immense worth, and pursue a life that brings you pleasure and joy.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2025 Donna Oriowo (P)2025 Tantor Media

I learned something new about myself.

I normally don't write reviews, but this book deserves one. I am a very self aware person. I know me, or so I thought. I love this book. It touched on my personal struggles, my past struggles, and reassured me of some of the things I have recently changed about how I treat myself. It's has journal prompts and activities and it's real! I am suggesting it to all of the black women I know. I think it is a good read in general to be able to learn about what effects the self-esteem of black women.