Children of the Self-Absorbed

A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents
Narrated by: Lisa Reneé Pitts
Length: 7 hrs and 3 mins
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Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent. The second edition of Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfull your needs and expectations.

©2001 Nina W. Brown (P)2011 Tantor

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uninspiring

I was annoyed at the compromising attitude of this book. Basically it understates a very serious form of bad parenting and child abuse.

Narcissism, is a serious form of Personality Disorder and is a lesser form of Psychopathy. Such people are grossly destructive by choice and should in no way be indulged! Infact, like the Terminator, they can't be taught, or bargained with. Use the propositions in this book 'they will be back'! Oh the pain....

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Good information

This is a very good book if you had a narcassist parent ... there are plenty of good information ... yet if you only had to read one book on the subject then skip this one ... watch out for the narrator .. she got on my nerves

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Good info but ...

This book could have been so much better if the woman who read it didn't read like. Every. Word. Is. It's. Own. Sentence. And. Over. Enunciate. Every. Single. Syllable. And. Inflection.

Her reading is so annoying that I could only listen to this book in small doses. However, there is good information within ... just buy the print version.

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content good

Although the content is really helpful and well thought out the way it is written is dull and requires you to do alot of paper work. I prefer a format that delivers the message through story/case study and places less emphasis on questionaires. However the content truely is helpful and good to work through. Ok Naration.

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horrible narration

the book had a lot of good points and was highly informative. unfortunately I don't know if the narrator had an accent or a lisp, but enunciation would have definitely made the read more enjoyable

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Not good

The narrator's accent distracted from the content which was way too much detail for an audio book. The exercises might be helpful, but I'd have to get a hardcopy to review. Not worth the time trying to listen to this.

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GREAT BOOK

Where does Children of the Self-Absorbed rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

It help me answer all the questions, that I countn't dot the i about.

What other book might you compare Children of the Self-Absorbed to and why?

no

What do you think the narrator could have done better?

slow down a bit

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

yes, it help me understand, that I was a victim.

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Very revealing

What did you love best about Children of the Self-Absorbed?

This book was very helpful in understanding why we feel so responsible for our parents unhappiness. The book gives suggestions that overcome this automatic response.

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Good for facts

It is a really good book that describes narcissism and what it looks like if you’re. It sure that is what you are dealing with in a parent. The ideas though on what to do with that situation seem a bit shallow and there is a lot of what just seems like arts and crafts activities to “discover yourself”. It was great for describing narcissism but beyond that.

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Just like my whole family

To the author: did you know my family when you wrote this? Lol

The book is spot on addressing this sort of behavior.
Well written and thought out. I love that it gets to the point.

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  • Rhian
  • 09-20-16

Really helpful!

Somewhat of a robotic performance but the information is very helpful. Make use of the bookmarks as you'll want to repeat some bits.

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  • Mrs pleased
  • 01-04-20

Need a hard copy to be useful?

Has great information about narcissistic parents and any underdeveloped tendencies you may also have inherited. The exercises sound good but you can’t do them as there is so much to get or write down, that you need a hard copy. They should provide the exercises in a pdf with book for you to access. So disappointed with the support to use the book and the performance is a tad robotic, but I’m quite used to it as I use dyslexia reading software.