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Publisher's Summary

Alan Cumming grew up in the grip of a man who held his family hostage, someone who meted out violence with a frightening ease, who waged a silent war with himself that sometimes spilled over onto everyone around him. That man was Alan's father, Alex Cumming.

Alex was the dark, enigmatic heart of Cumming family life. But he was not the only mystery. Alan's maternal grandfather, Tommy Darling, had disappeared to the Far East after the Second World War. The last time Alan's mother saw her father she was eight years old. When she was 13, the family was informed that he had died in an accidental shooting.

Curious to explore this second mystery, Alan committed to filming an episode of the BBC's Who Do You Think You Are? Then out of the blue, his father, who Alan and his brother had not seen or spoken to for more than a decade, called. He had a secret he had to share, one that would shock his son to his very core and set in motion a journey that would change Alan's life forever.

At times suspenseful, at times deeply moving, but always brave and honest, Not My Father's Son is a powerful story about embracing the best aspects of the past and triumphantly pushing the darkness aside.

©2014 Alan Cumming (P)2014 Canongate Books Ltd

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This book is honest and touching

This books explains abuse and the effects of abuse in the most honest way. It sheds light on the dark places. It exposes and reveal the unspoken in the most beautiful and strangely caring way. The scariest thing about abuse is the silence that follows. It's the silence that makes it commonplace and acceptable. Allan Cumming is a courageous man

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Wonderful

A wonderful moving book that navigates the pain of abuse and the joy of love, life and family. I have loved Alan Cumming as a character actor I now love him as a person. A beautiful book.

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A really great book, from start to finish

What a heartfelt story. Mary Darling - such a beautiful beautiful name. Thank you Alan.

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Something in this book for everyone

This is a book for anyone who has grown up with an abusive parent, anyone who loves a mystery, all those researching their family history, and everyone who has despaired and found the way back or is still looking for the way back. And for anyone who just likes a well-written entertaining read, with tears and laughter along the way. Congratulations to Alan Cumming for so openly documenting the milestones in his life, from his harrowing childhood to his eventual discovery of what is best left in his past and what he can take into the future. The story is beautifully told, the ‘then’ and ‘now’ format perfect for unfolding the inevitably converging dramas, introducing new facts as they come to light in the ‘now’ chapters, all the while maintaining the tension in the build up to the denouement. The book is all the better for being narrated by the author who conveys all the emotions associated with the story, and his soft Scots accent is delightful. Thanks, Alan, I suspect a lot of readers will be inspired by your story.

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Enjoyable

I really enjoyed this book. Alan's voice is very easy to listen to and as I didn't know much about his life, I was surprised at each new chapter. I only really knew him from The Good Wife

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  • ML
  • Queensland Australia
  • 07-03-15

Very inspiring and moving

This book is brave, difficult and inspiring. The difficulty lies in the experiences described and the powerlessness experienced. The bravery and inspiration arises from Alan Cummings responses in coming to terms with this trauma. This is a book worth reading.

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Loved it

Fantastic story, beautifully written and read by the man himself. Only criticism I would make is that it feels a bit like a narration of an episode of who do you think you are but of course there are added dimensions. Really enjoyed this book and the insight into such an interesting person.

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  • Katherine
  • 11-06-14

An extraordinary memoir

Where does Not My Father's Son rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

One of the best ever.

What did you like best about this story?

This is no showbiz memoir, although the revelation that Patti Smith has a tendency to spit had me in stitches. It's a heart-wrenching story of Alan's painful childhood, his fraught relationship with his father, intertwined with the slow unfolding mystery of his grandfather's abandonment of his family after the Second World War and subsequent death in Malaysia. Above all, it's a powerful, honest story and a wholly intriguing yarn, more fascinating than fiction.

Which character – as performed by Alan Cumming – was your favourite?

Alan has a particular talent for bringing to life the women in his family: his mother, the formidable and clearly-adored Mary Darling, and his charming, wickedly funny granny. He has the most beautiful voice, too.

Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

It's a deeply emotional story, and I laughed out loud and wept unashamedly in turns.

Any additional comments?

Quite the most astonishing audiobook (or indeed publication of any kind) I've heard in ages. More than anything, one comes out of the experience with deep respect for Alan Cumming as a human being, someone who refused to back down until he had found the truth he needed to begin healing.

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  • Colin
  • 08-16-15

A heartbreaking, and yet heartwarming story...

This really is an extraordinary book. I should probably start by saying that, if you’re looking for a ‘My Fabulous Life’ type of biography packed with anecdotes of famous chums and exotic locations then keep moving; this is not one of those books. Instead Alan Cumming has taken two key events from his life and, via a series of ‘Then and Now’ sections, begins to see links and parallels between them.

Alan Cumming is asked if he wants to be the subject of one of the BBCs ‘Who Do You Think You Are’ TV shows, in which the BBC delve through a celebrities family history to see if there are any skeletons in cupboards. As it happens Cummings is interested in his maternal grandfather, Tommy Darling, who disappeared after WWII and never came home again, and so he agrees.

But thinking about what the show may discover Cummings is reminded (as if he needs to be) of his traumatic childhood where he lived under the threat of his bullying fathers explosive temper, enduring a constant stream of criticism and sarcasm that nearly always erupted into violent beatings. Try as he does to please his father nothing he does is good enough, and Alan and his brother Tom are constantly reminded of how worthless their father considers them both to be. And so, as the BBC filming progresses and the story of grandfather Tommy Darling unravels, Alan often travels back to his childhood and the key events that help forge the man he is today.

As a parent I found some of these passages very difficult to listen to, especially when the father seems to take pleasure in preventing his sons pursuing any interests they may have. But the worst for me was when Alan retells the story of a particularly savage beating he endured over some minor chore not carried out to his father’s satisfaction. The anger and sadness that wells up when you listen to this story is palpable.

An amazing book, and one that leaves the listener speechless afterward.

Very well done Mr Cumming, dreams can indeed come true…

10 of 10 people found this review helpful

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  • lewis
  • 12-04-14

Inspiring!

Where does Not My Father's Son rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

At number 1!

What other book might you compare Not My Father's Son to, and why?

This book is unlike other celebrity autobiographies. The writing is fantastic, the story touching! And the performance brilliant!

Which character – as performed by Alan Cumming – was your favourite?

Alan of course!

If you made a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

Honesty Pays!

Any additional comments?

A very touching story, told brilliantly by the man himself! This book will have you laughing, crying, and taking a step back to look at life properly. A story of: hope, pain, joy, and inspiration.

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  • ReadingWild
  • 11-21-14

A truly wonderful piece of work

If you could sum up Not My Father's Son in three words, what would they be?

Brave, witty, moving

What was one of the most memorable moments of Not My Father's Son?

Hearing the author read his own work is an intimate experience that makes the work immediately accessible, vital and very moving

Which character – as performed by Alan Cumming – was your favourite?

He performs himself so...?

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Alan remembering his reaction to the news of his Grandfathers death and his constant concern for his mothet

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There have been many (too many) books about rotten childhoods but this is different, this is a book about an adult experiencing the revelations of his pass and refusing to go under, and finding a way through it...the link he makes between PTSD and abusive childhoods is more ground breaking than Alan realises...despite the subject matter this is a funny, warm and ultimatly triumphant and honest book...I'm sure it will dazzle and help many...so much more than a poor me book. I'd like to shake the authors hand.

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  • Patreesha
  • 11-30-14

So Very Very Good

Would you consider the audio edition of Not My Father's Son to be better than the print version?

I don't know. I never read the print version.

Who was your favorite character and why?

It was written and narrated by Alan Cumming and is a book I was really glad I listened too.

Which scene did you most enjoy?

I suppose - I don't want to spoil it because if I said which scene it would spoil it.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

The same scene. It was quite amazing and so glad it happened the way it did.

Any additional comments?

What an extraordinary man. He holds nothing back and this isn't a usual celebrity kind of autobiography because he hardly mentions any celebs but it was truly riveting and I have to admit that I heard it in one sitting and started it at around 11.00 pm intending to listen to an hour of it and stayed up all night listening. What a man is all I can say.

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  • Sally Alp
  • 11-24-14

A must read! It explains so much

Would you consider the audio edition of Not My Father's Son to be better than the print version?

I haven't read the print version, but I think I will now

What did you like best about this story?

How Alan has come out the man he is. How all that he went though hasn't damaged him as much as maybe it should have, if you get what I mean!!!! If this hadn't happened I wonder where he would be. if his father didn't abuse him but loved and nurtured him as a father should have.

What about Alan Cumming’s performance did you like?

No other narrator could have done justice to this book!!!!!

Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

I cried, swore, sorry!!! I wished his mum had done something, but violence within a home paralyses everyone.

Any additional comments?

I don't normally read biographies. They are normally self serving but this one isn't.

3 of 3 people found this review helpful

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  • Ms D Larowska
  • 11-22-14

Excellent memoir

Would you consider the audio edition of Not My Father's Son to be better than the print version?

Oh god yes! Alex Cumming's beautiful voice reading his own story is perfect

What other book might you compare Not My Father's Son to, and why?

Wolf at my table ... Another father and son themed memoir

Which character – as performed by Alan Cumming – was your favourite?

Himself

Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Laugh, cry, smile, worry, everything

Any additional comments?

I couldn't stop listening to this, engrossing, entertaining, heartbreaking and ultimately uplifting. It does what all good memoirs do, shine a light on your own life and experience by sharing the author's personal history.

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  • Kaggy
  • 08-06-15

A very fitting memoir

Alan Cummings does not spare us any details of his father's cruelty and vindictiveness but this is a tale of triumph and so is ultimately uplifting. In addition there is the fascinating unravelling of the mystery of what happened to Alan's maternal grandfather. People who have viewed Alan's episode of the genealogy programme 'Who Do You Think You Are' will be familiar with the factual backdrop. This book extends this by detailing the emotional impact on Alan and his family as Tommy's tale is revealed.

I like to think that Alan's story this gives proof to the belief that love will always prevail, but whether or not this is true, it certainly shows that it is well worth investing in.

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  • Ailsa Bigham
  • 04-28-15

A must read

Inspiring, moving and in parts a familiar story of children suffering at the hands of someone who should be a loving protector.

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  • MEG
  • 04-28-15

Well worth a read

What a brilliant story. So moving and brilliantly read. Your an inspiration to us all, Alan. Recommending to all my friends.

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  • Susan
  • 02-17-16

Don't think twice! Buy this book!

Loved every second of it. Gutted its finished. Incredibly well written, read & produced. So beautiful!

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  • ally burgo
  • 12-06-17

Interesting and beautifully narrated.

Quite an interesting story. Allan Cumming has a gorgeous way with words and a beautiful accent which helps the story. The bit about his grandfather added to the story and Allan’s grace and empathy shines through from start to finish. I’m not particularly a fan but was recommended the book and now I want to go back and watch his back catalogue ;-)

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  • Alex
  • 11-16-17

A real life story

Alan Cumming has a story and he tells it well!
Thank you for your heartfelt story. Thank you for sharing your life with us, the readers.
Recommended highly.

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  • Sarah
  • 07-24-17

Loved it!

I love this man. I've seen his live show and now read the book and listening to his story truly touched my heart.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-19-17

The Best

Bold, brave and heart-warming. Perfect listening experience narrated by the man himself. I'm in love.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 03-13-17

Alan Cummings makes me happy

I loved that Alan Cummings puts his story out there warts and all.
the emotion in his narration makes this audiobook, you can feel the love he has for his mother Mary darling. you hear the panic, the terror, the sadness throughout​. The humour and the quick side stories of his fabulous everyday excistance.
highly recommend

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  • Jami
  • 01-05-17

tragically beautiful and raw.

not just another celeb bio. heart and soul revealed red raw. hope for the future and spreading awareness of an all too common story of families all over the world

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  • Vanessa Fardon
  • 12-23-16

Eye opening and refreshingly honest

Alan's story keeps you wanting to read/hear more and gives you such insight to his life experiences. I cried and laughed along the way, thanks for sharing.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 10-24-16

Fantastic

A strong and emotional story of Alan's life, augmented by the fact that he reads it himself. I don't believe that anyone could read this story as well as the author, so it is a fantastic experience.

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  • V. Stacey
  • 10-01-16

inspiring

Just goes to show everyone has a story and it's how we learn to deal and acknowledge and move on that makes us all unique! thank you Alan for sharing...