Can't Forgive

My 20-Year Battle with O.J. Simpson
Narrated by: Kim Goldman
Length: 8 hrs and 2 mins
Categories: Biographies & Memoirs
4 out of 5 stars (64 ratings)

$14.95/month after 30 days. Cancel anytime.

OR
In Cart

Publisher's Summary

When Kim Goldman was just 22, her older brother, Ron, was brutally killed by O. J. Simpson. Ron and Kim were very close, and her devastation was compounded by the shocking not guilty verdict that allowed a smirking Simpson to leave as a free man.

It wasn't Kim's first trauma. Her parents divorced when she was young, and she and Ron were raised by their father. Her mother kidnapped her, telling her that her father didn't love her any more. When she was 14, she was almost blinded from severe battery acid burns on her face during an automobile accident, requiring three reconstructive surgeries.

But none of these early traumas compared to the loss of her brother, the painful knowledge that his killer was free, and the fact that she could not even grieve privately. Counseled by friends, strangers, and even Oprah to "find closure", Kim chose a different route. She chose to fight.

©2015 Kim Goldman (P)2015 Tantor

More from the same

Narrator

What members say

Average Customer Ratings

Overall

  • 4 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    37
  • 4 Stars
    11
  • 3 Stars
    9
  • 2 Stars
    4
  • 1 Stars
    3

Performance

  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    38
  • 4 Stars
    12
  • 3 Stars
    4
  • 2 Stars
    3
  • 1 Stars
    1

Story

  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    38
  • 4 Stars
    9
  • 3 Stars
    7
  • 2 Stars
    2
  • 1 Stars
    2

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    3 out of 5 stars

Interesting to learn about her experience

I am glad I listened to this book. I appreciated getting a fuller picture of her experience. As others have said, the title is misleading a bit. I have that uneasy feeling that many do, that there is something about the way that Kim and her dad keep their anger alive which is totally understandable, but which appears unhealthy. It seems unexamined, and I thought this book would be more of a wrestling with what it might mean for her to forgive. (Not that they are obliged to us to grieve in any particular way, of course.) I thought she had a right to explain the story of the "If I Did It" book and I agree with her that we never knew the whole story. I also thought her early experience with her mom explains something of how she has reacted to Ron's death.

She feels Oprah humiliated her. Really?

If I'm to be an armchair psychologist, I think Kim over-identifies with her dad, which is understandable, as he's been a great dad. They seem a little locked in a pattern, but that doesn't change the fact that she seems a very decent lovely person.

I skipped the last 3 chapters because it appeared it was going to be a list of every man she ever dated. I do have sympathy with her dilemma about how to broach the topic with people when she starts to get close to them.

Overall, interesting if you're a bit obsessed without the crime, as I am. Otherwise, nothing compelling.

3 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars

Very Touching Story

I followed the story and trials from beginning to the present time. The story uncovered nothing new as it pertains to Ron Goldman, but it really drops the kimono on Kim. It’s sad she has been so tormented (but entirely understandable) and how it has impacted her personal relationships in life. She’s trapped — from not having a caring mother in Sharon, her brothers murder, and idolizing her father, Fred. That’s a hell of a lot of emotional baggage to carry around. And, it never goes away, as the anniversary of his death is a constant reminder. I don’t know too many men who could handle her delicate psyche. That’s what makes me sad for her. Constant male rejection. I wish her the absolute best of success going forward. She needs caring, loving companionship. She deserves it!

1 person found this helpful

  • Overall
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    3 out of 5 stars

Not about OJ

This book is a memoir of Kim's life, it doesn't have a ton to do with OJ. I was not expecting to learn about the life of Kim Goldman. I do think she is a strong person, but I was expecting something different based on the title

1 person found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Relatable

I thought she was very candid and real. Thanks to Kim for sharing her story.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Fantastic

Great book and although a sad story it is engulfed with a tremendous bond between father and daughter and son and daughter.

  • Overall
    1 out of 5 stars

Selfish

Truly a tragedy, but the author is to selfish, self absorb, and needs to realize she is far from the only one who has experienced loss. Save your money.

5 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars

Can't Forgive

If you could sum up Can't Forgive in three words, what would they be?

sad, heroic, hope

What did you like best about this story?

Kim's ability to own her weaknesses and failure and how to move forward.

What about Kim Goldman’s performance did you like?

Very truthful in how she told her story.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

No, but no book does that for me. I enjoy listening in my monring drive and evening commute.