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The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family | [Eleanor Payson]

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family

This ground-breaking book offers hope and help to those who have been drawn into these devastating relationships. She includes illuminating case studies that identify the problems that occur in the different types of relationships, from co-workers, to friends, to parents, to lovers. Listeners employing these insights and skills will find new abilities to identify and protect against the narcissist's manipulations and take back control of their lives.
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Publisher's Summary

Every day, headlines are filled with examples of narcissistic individuals in positions of power who are nothing more than impostors plundering and wrecking havoc on the lives of others. From the financial barons of Wall Street to our elected officials, we are confronted daily with narcissists and the self-serving systems that enable them. Helping people reclaim their lives from this sinister exploitative force is the mission behind Eleanor Payson's The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family.

Using simple metaphors from the American classic, The Wizard of Oz, Payson illustrates how Dorothy's journey captures all the seductive illusions and challenges that occur when we encounter the narcissist. Empowering the listener with the ABCs of unhealthy narcissism and the unique problems that occur when a person becomes involved with the narcissist, Payson gives step-by-step practical tools to identify, protect, and heal from these destructive relationships, which are largely un-addressed in the psychology and self-help literature.

This ground-breaking book offers hope and help to those who have been drawn into these devastating relationships. She includes illuminating case studies that identify the problems that occur in the different types of relationships, from co-workers, to friends, to parents, to lovers. Listeners employing these insights and skills will find new abilities to identify and protect against the narcissist's manipulations and take back control of their lives.

©2002 Eleanor D. Payson (P)2012 Eleanor D. Payson

What the Critics Say

"For Some Time I have looked for a very readable book on living with narcissism that also had clarity about addiction and codependency. Eleanor Payson has written an easy to understand guide to navigate one's way out of the labyrinth that narcissism makes...Four stars for a readable, useful book therapists can give their patients." (Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. author of Out of the Shadows)

"You will recognize the narcissistic personality disorder so well described by Payson as an all too common affliction among those who wield great political and corporate power in contemporary society. This book is a useful guide to recognizing and confronting the reality, which is a first step toward nullifying the power and influence of the afflicted over our lives." (David C. Korten, Ph.D. author of The Great Turning: From Empire to Earth Community and When Corporations Rule the World)

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    Sonia Barton, Australia 12-03-12
    Sonia Barton, Australia 12-03-12
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    "A gem,a must read, it fulfills all expectations"
    If you could sum up The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists in three words, what would they be?

    The best book on Narcissism


    What did you like best about this story?

    Everything, the contents, the outline, the depth of knowledge and the vignettes not over reaching but just right. The advice, the summaries at the end of each chapter. The therapeutic approach. It is not a 'tell' book but a didactic and therapeutic work out. I felt healed in so many ways. I had aha! moments. This book went beyond expectations. It was as if I was sitting with a therapist.


    Have you listened to any of Cathryn Bond Doyle’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    No, I have not. But I will look for other books.


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists?

    First and most it was a wake up call in terms of identifying narcissistic traits in myself that interfere with my personal growth. No human being is immune to certain narcissistic traits. Specially if one was brought up by parents or carers with extreme narcissistic traits. This is a book that offers a brilliant opportunity to self-reflect and further grow up into a mature and self assured individual. Above all it is a book that helps to heal the wounds inflicted by narcissistic personalities.

    Second, it assisted me no end to identify by name, characteristics and the typical narcissistic traits that typify what Doyle calls the the 'Narcissistic Personality Disorder' (NPD). This was a major aha!

    Third, it provided me with the reassurance that it is never late to regain one's lost personal power to the NPD individual. I learned about personal strategies which I am memorizing to be able to incorporate them as I deal with the NPD. One example of this is about building boundaries to fend against the corrosive attacks from the NPD individuals I deal with on a regular basis.

    I highly recommend this book!


    Any additional comments?

    This book together with 'In sheep's clothing' is the top 5 books ever read. Thank you to Cathryn Bond Doyle!

    11 of 11 people found this review helpful
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    Die Falknerin 12-12-13 Member Since 2008

    Painter, musician, bibliophile...

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    "Goodbye, Yellow Brick Road"

    There is narcissism with a small "n" and there is narcissism with a capital "N" as in "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" or NPD. Our culture is one becoming ever more narcissistic in the first sense of the word. But this book is about something far more serious:

    "The word narcissism in its most fundamental sense means a tendency to self-worship. For the narcissist, his excessive self-absorption is a protection against unconscious but powerful feelings of inadequacy. Seduced by the narcissist's camouflage of outer charm or confidence, you are eventually drawn into the nightmare side of this relationship. By the time you realize that something is wrong, the cumulative effects can range from bruised self-esteem to severe depression." Eleanor Payson

    You're a very lucky creature if you have never been involved with someone who has NPD characteristics. But if you have, Eleanor Payson offers much to help you here. Catherine Bond Doyle's narration imbues the author's work with an additional feeling of compassion.

    Updating the Greek myth of Narcissus, Payson uses the metaphor of "The Wizard of Oz," hence the title. In dealing with a narcissist, there is only one road, and that is the road that leads to them.

    She introduces the book with a discussion of NPD, including variations on its definition and diagnosis, and a discussion of overt and covert types. After establishing a broad foundation, she goes on to discuss various relationships, from parent-child dynamics to narcissists in professional and social life. The section on "love" relationships --- and I use that word advisedly in this context --- is particularly enlightening.

    May you find healing, comfort, and peace as you bid the Yellow Brick Road farewell.

    8 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    Connie Scott, LA, United States 01-07-13
    Connie Scott, LA, United States 01-07-13 Member Since 2012
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    What did you love best about The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists?

    This book gave me healing and awakening. I always knew I was working more than my share of some of the relationships in my life. This affirms my decision to stop doing that to myself. Not done with book yet as I keep going back over information that clears things up for me.


    What did you like best about this story?

    Everything


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    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    Still evolving from the messages contained in this book.


    Any additional comments?

    If you feel you are doing all the work in some of your relationships, the reality is you probably are.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    MariAnn Purcell, ok, United States 11-22-12
    MariAnn Purcell, ok, United States 11-22-12
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    "Excellent book for dealing with a narcissist"
    Where does The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This has been my No.1 audiobook


    What was one of the most memorable moments of The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists?

    The insight to see what power a narcissist can do to your life but how to live or live without them.


    What does Cathryn Bond Doyle bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    She didn't make me go to sleep.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    A light bulb came on!


    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Nothing really matters Ottawa, Ontario, Canada 04-27-14
    Nothing really matters Ottawa, Ontario, Canada 04-27-14 Member Since 2013

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    "Very helpful information."

    I found the information in this book very interesting and helpful. It gave me insights into the behaviour of a number of my co-workers and, at times, even myself. That's what I was after.

    My only reservation was that the writing was too academic and stilted. Had this been a textbook, I'd have expected that. The writing made it, at times, hard to stick with the author and get the information. So 3 stars instead of 5 for "story".

    I like the title and cover art, btw.

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