Attached

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

Narrated by: Robert Petkoff

Length: 7 hrs and 4 mins

Publisher's summary

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read, and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or—as in my case—even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse." (Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American)

"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures—finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on 25 years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader." (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)

Best relationship book I've read

Almost finished the entire thing in one sitting. There are ridiculous amounts of books on relationships. They usually end up with "pray more, compromise more, don't give up!". This book helped me understand SO MUCH about myself and the relationships around me. 100% recommend. Will read again.

Insightful

I’m thankful for the tools to empower oneself to be true to ones needs without shame or guilt.

I’m shaken !

I wish , I wish I had listeners to this book not at 54 but 24! I hope it’s not too late for me , but I’m so glad I bought/listened to it now!!

A must read for anyone fascinated by interpersonal and romantic relationships

I wish I had discovered this book before dating my last partner. Scientific research, case studies, realistic behavioral solutions, tips for identifying attachment styles - this reads like a manual for how to seek and maintain an emotionally mature and rational relationship with your significant other. Really loved the questions raised, tests and diagrams provided with this audio book as well.

Good information

it's a good listen, it helps you understand yourself and your partner better. Provides better ways to improve yourself.

Life changing

This book has given me a totally new perspective. Thank you to the authors. Amazing.

excellent read

to the point and well set out to learn and be better. Great work
thanks

Incredibly Insightful

I found myself discovering many nuances to my attachment style while also being able to connect more with the style and logic of my former partner. The information in this book really delves into the psychology of why we respond to various things in our life/relationships based on the attachment style that you may or may not know that you have. The book also gives a number of case studies where you listen to how real couples fared based on their attachment styles and newly understood needs.

Moving forward, I’m using this book and The 5 Love Languages as a means to connect with anyone I want to pursue seriously and as the authors noted, take finding love from being left to chance.

Awesome!!!!

This book is simply OMG!!! I've learned so much from this book!!! Definitely a must read!

Clarity in Understanding Relationships

This book helped me be better to others because I understood their needs. It helped me be a better friend, a better daughter, a better step-mother and a better spouse. I highly recommend this book. All The Best, Natalie