Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Trauma Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship

Narcissistic Relationship Recovery, Book 1

By: Lauren Kozlowski

Narrated by: Stephanie Murphy

Length: 1 hr and 37 mins

Publisher's summary

"If your relationship is so bad, why don't you just leave them?"

"If you were in such an abusive relationship, why did you stay with them for so long?"

"If you knew you were in a relationship with such a toxic person, why didn't you ask people for help?"

If you've ever been asked these questions, aside from being ignorant and hurtful, you'll know it's beyond frustrating. The answer to the above questions, whilst it's complex and often confusing, can be given with two words: trauma bonded. If you find you're in a relationship that you know is so toxic that it's crushing your very being, but you can't bring yourself to leave, you may be in the clutches of a tight trauma bond.

If you're constantly feeling on edge, forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and feel like you're constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior, then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way.

If, in the same breath, it breaks your heart to even consider leaving them because you can't imagine life without them, then I can understand that feeling too - because I was trauma bonded to my abusive ex.

From my own personal experience and from the experiences other survivors have opened up to me about, this book will cover the following:

• What trauma bonding really is
• The seven stages that lead to you becoming trauma bonded
• The parallels that Stockholm syndrome has with trauma bonding
• The five stages you go through when you come to accept you're trauma bonded - the cognitive dissonance a trauma bond can cause
• Breaking free from the traumatic bond

This book will also include my own experiences and I'll draw upon those to help you really understand trauma bonding, and let you know that you're not alone in being shackled by this emotionally crippling bond. More importantly, this book will help you understand that the invisible chain that tethers you to your abuser can be broken.

©2020 Escape The Narcissist (P)2020 Escape The Narcissist

Superb!

This audiobook has been completely terrific in explaining the insanity of the trauma bond… I will refer this to so many people that I help, in hopes that It will bless them with its knowledge and assist them in escaping their abuser. Thank you!

Thank you for sharing

Thank you to the author, for advocating for people who are stuck in long-term abusive relationships. This is helping change lives ♥️

My healing journey

Almost 3 months into leaving, and seem to always be questioning myself. My anxiety eats me alive sometimes still and this book gave me some things to consider and a better understanding of what’s going on inside of my head.

Thank you

Loved it, really helped me understand past abusive ex behavior. its like pieces of a puzzle as I listened. Thank you.

Get your proper weaponry to escape!

This is a well written and understandable book. It is a foundation of knowledge on the how and why did I get here. Read it a few times!

Too many things

Liked very much and it closely related to my situation I am going through now

I love it 💘❤

It brought me back memories of when I was with the Narc. I can just picture myself beging his validation attention affection. His breadcrumbs like if I was a lab rat. I am so glad I am out January 14, 2021 is going to be a year i decided to leave. I did when back one final time only for him his ultimate betral to take me court and try to take my son. Is so hard to do no contact since we have a son. I am strong I am getting their I am just discovering it day by day my worth my strengt and my deserving love to myself. We got this ladies.

Excellent information for someone coming out of an abusive relationship

This was just the information I needed to begin my journey on cutting off a toxic trauma bond relationship. My abuser found me in a very vulnerable time in my life and took full advantage, even convincing me to divorce my husband of over 20 years. It’s taken me nearly a year of an extremely emotional roller coaster ride to finally realize I need to be done and work on myself. This was just what I needed to hear.

Thank you

I am on the road to recovery. I have finally after 10 years figured out how my brain works, and how my brain was manipulated. Thank you for validating me. It’s what I’ve been searching for for years. This book was amazing and I’ve shared it with several friends that are going through the same thing. Please keep up the good work.

this book read me my whole life

This book was s blessing!! The way it was written was so organized, and informative
It felt good to confirm my thoughts and feelings. Hearing someone speak from experience helped me have more confidence that I will make it to the other side of this relationship being in my past for good this time.