If Only I'd Known!

How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth

By: Chelsey Brooke Cole

Narrated by: Chelsey Brooke Cole

Length: 6 hrs and 20 mins

Publisher's summary

This therapist-written and recommended 3-part audiobook will help you understand the inner workings of a narcissist, heal from narcissistic abuse, and experience sustainable post-traumatic growth.

In relationships, have you ever found yourself:

• Feeling like something is "off," but not being able to explain why?

• Leaving conversations feeling more confused than when you started them?

• Constantly ruminating on how to "make sense" of what you feel and what's happening?

• Feeling "not enough" no matter how hard you try?

Narcissistic abuse creates a tidal wave of confusion, hypervigilance, and overthinking. You have trouble thinking clearly, remembering things, or taking in new information.

And because these changes are happening to you, you begin to wonder:

What's wrong with me?

Why can't I make this relationship work?

Am I fundamentally broken?

And that's exactly how narcissistic abuse works—it happens so subtly that you believe the insecurities you're experiencing are "you" instead of "what's happening" to you.

You think there's something wrong with you.

You think you need to change or get better.

You think no one else understands.

Narcissistic abuse is a multilayered attack on your sense of self—a dismantling of who you are and what you believe you're worth.

This audiobook covers unique information related to narcissistic abuse, including:

• How different narcissistic types love bomb

• Cognitive, emotional, behavioral, and physiological warning signs that you're being abused

• How and why narcissistic trauma bonds form and the process to untangle yourself from these binding relationships

• How to set boundaries even if you're highly empathic

• The most common reasons you stay stuck and how to get "unstuck"

If you've ever wondered:

• How did I get into this relationship?

• I'm such a people pleaser—how can I set better boundaries?

• What if healing isn't possible for me?

• I feel so lost and broken—where do I even start?

This audiobook is for you!

©2023 Chelsey Brooke Cole, LPC-MHSP, CPTT, RPT (P)2023 Chelsey Brooke Cole, LPC-MHSP, CPTT, RPT

This book is amazing.

It was an amazing experience to listen to this audio book. The narrative is so close to the audience, that made me have a perfect understanding all the way from the beginning to the end. I found a profound connection with the author that I am seriously considering on sharing my story. Before I listened this audio book, it was hard to find a good resource of support for people like me. A man who was a victim of narcissistic abuse is not a common thing. All the programs out there are made for female victims. I recommend this book 1000%.

Losing yourself and need a roadmap? This is for U!

If Only I'd Known paints the picture so clear there is no way to deny the impact of this type of abuse, if this is what you are experiencing.

Do you feel stuck? Do not recognize yourself? Constantly questioning yourself? Feel you are not enough...YOU are not ALONE!

Chelsey has the knowledge, expertise, experience and real-life strategies to help you become armed with information that can lead to healing which leads to a way out to an abundant life that you so richly deserve. You owe it to yourself to educate yourself especially with a licensed therapist like Chelsey who has also had firsthand experience of Narcissistic Abuse.

Dealing with a Narc? Then this is for you

This book gave me the information, insight and courage I needed to realize I’m married to a narcissist. never feeling good enough and always believe they will change for the better, this book sums it up in soluch a great way. I am so grateful for the information from Chelsey. I feel anyone who thinks they are dealing with a narcissist should have this book,

Fantastic Book!

What a fantastic book. It felt so good to be affirmed and put an explanation to the years of emotional and psychological abuse that I endured. I highly recommend!

The Survival Manual for Victims of NPD Abuse

I first found and followed Chelsey on FB- her insight and breakdown of NPD behaviors is so accurate that it makes you want to keep reading. Her empathy and understanding towards survivors of these toxic behaviors helps us know that we are not alone. This book is a deep dive from what she shares online, and it really helped me understand more about the subtleties of the trauma bond, as well as the intricacies of the different types of narcissists (among other things- there is so much more). It is a great book- it is on my shelf, right next to "Stop Walking on Eggshells..." possibly the foremost text on surviving BPD people. I consider this book to be of the same caliber. Thank you Chelsey, for this, and for the generosity you show in your online content. This world is a better place because of you.

Thank you!

I plan to listen to this beautiful book once a year as a reminder of my strength as a survivor of a narcissist mother and husband

mind blown

we have learned more about the Pilgrims in life than we do about narcissists and narcissists have had a massive impact on my life whereas pilgrims have not. this book should be required reading for everyone on the planet. for me it has been the instruction manual to my life. finally it all makes sense. read this and change your life.

Thank You So Much!

This book was exactly what I needed! Thank you so much! I so grateful! I am going to order the hard copy, too. The book is one of the best books on healing from narcissistic abuse. I absolutely recommend 👌. I am glad the author was the narrator. I felt the compassion and sincerity in her voice. I plan to use the tips to heal myself from the nightmare of my marriage to a narcissist.

Sooo helpful

This book gave me the information, insight and courage I needed to make my decision to quit taking the abuse. After 30 years of trying to justify and explain away the myriad of abuse I was taking this book helped me realize it was never ever going to get better, it was not my fault and in an odd way not my partners either really. I am so grateful for the information and support. I feel anyone who thinks they are dealing with a narcissist should have this book, I have read many books on the subject but none compare.
Lisa

This book could have saved decades of my life

I wish I would have read this book decades ago; it could have saved decades of my life. I missed all of the warning signs. Chelsey's book has really helped my heart heal, helped me feel not so alone, and know that this too shall pass. One thing really struck me when she said don't give him any space in your head. That's exactly what I needed to hear! I immediately stopped giving him any space in my head because he never deserved to be there in the first place. My mind is clear, and my thoughts are surrounding healing and self-care. Thank you for writing this AMAZING book and for speaking up for Women that are married to abusive narcissists.

Now that I know better, I can be better, and do better.