Why Is It Always About You?

The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
Narrated by: Amanda Carlin
Length: 7 hrs and 13 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (47 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

In this groundbreaking audiobook, clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism - shamelessness, magical thinking, arrogance, envy, entitlement, exploitation, bad boundaries - and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. 

Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life. 

©2003 Sandy Hotchkiss (P)2019 Simon & Schuster

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Beyond Useful -Going to relisten often

Narrorator is a bit robotic sounding but the utilitly of the material is vastly important

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great help in understanding the Narcissist.

helped to understand a wayward relationship. what I considered might be my fault had nothing to do with me

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Typical subjects easily found on any media

The reading wasnt very good. And the book delt too much with the symptoms and characteristics of narc vrs encouragement o
f dealing with one.

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Good text, sad speech

The performer's voice is quite robotic, I could have used Google text-to-speech feature with similar results.

The story is interesting and engaging though, one will notice many his own traits in described issues. Sometimes author makes narcissists look like the one and only evil on the planet Earth, but it's okay if taken with a pinch of salt.

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don't blame parents so much

too much focus and blame is put on parents, research shows cluster B, Axis II disorders are very strongly genetic

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  • Mirzhan Irkegulov
  • 04-10-20

Good, but no as good as Toxic Parents

This book contains quite a few really helpful insights, but I'd recommend reading Susan Forward's Toxic Parents before reading this book.

Overall, I'm glad I read it, but the narrator, Amanda Carlin, has the most sleep inducing voice. I recommend listening on 1.5 speed.

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  • Nicole Sladden
  • 09-13-20

Enlightening

This book is for anyone who struggles to understand why a particularly difficult person in their life behaves the way they do. To understand that people with narcissistic behaviours simply don’t think the same way as you is liberating. I am so glad read this book.

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  • susan wee
  • 04-05-20

Brilliant.

I am sure that we all know at least one of these people. Learn to recognize it and how to deal with it before it it can do its damage.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-21-19

Non judgmental account with good hints

This book, unlike most others on narcissism, was not written by a hurt survivor. It therefore offers an impartial view of the disorder, without minimising its effects on the victims/survivors exposed to it. It has some good explanations of how narcissism comes about, allowing the reader to understand it, and find ways to deal with it.
It is not a guide for healing of the wounds invariable inflicted by narcissists (there are other publications more aimed at this), but rather a map for navigating relating with a narcissist in a way that avoids further damage to the victim.