The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others Without Losing Yourself

By: Dr. Mike Bechtle

Narrated by: Mike Bechtle

Length: 5 hrs and 17 mins

Publisher's Summary

We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people-pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. The most common advice we hear - Start putting your own needs first! - doesn't work, because we do love helping other people!

Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser's "problem" isn't to fundamentally change who you are - it's to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In this freeing book, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you'll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is actually a strength.

©2021 Mike Bechtle (P)2021 eChristian

Serving others as a Healthy People Pleaser!

As a life-long PEOPLE PLEASER, I was delightfully surprised that I too could become a healthy and confident, self-controlled pleaser! Yay! A pleaser, who is no longer controlled by what others think and no longer willing to jump through flaming hoops to meet their needs.

As Dr.Bechtle stated in his book, “there is a big difference between “serving people” and “wanting to be seen as someone who serves people”. I didn’t know there was a difference.

The Quiz at the beginning of the book, was super helpful in understanding what kind of People Pleaser I was…. and why! Armed with a new understanding, Dr. Bechtle then digs in and presents 10 building blocks needed to form a new healthy foundation. This new foundation allows you to choose and use your people pleasing skills in the healthiest possible way and positively impacting the lives of others around you.

Thank you Dr. Bechtle! Excited to put what I have learned to use!

Loved it!

It came at a pivotal time for me. I’ve been needing to make some changes and this book has been helping me to see clearly what are my motives behind each decision I make. I’m going to buy the actual book to go through it again. This will be a process but I’m grateful for the help to see more clearly.

What is a good fit worth reading?

It is a good book.
That was good information. I think I would recommend it to be worthwhile to read.

Fantastic read for someone wanting to change

Take the time to read this audible. The book is so insightful and will push you to change day by day.

worth the read

Was a good read/listen. insightful and relative. Will listen again. Thanks fir sharing your knowledge.

l loved it

It's been the first book i've listed to from this author and I love it. There is a lot of powerful information and advise here. I recommend this book. :)

Life changing

I'm reading again today. It was like it was straight up written for me. Now to do the work. Thanks for this book!!!

Worth the Listen or Read!

The author lists some very practical tips for people pleasers! I will be purchasing the actual paperback after listening to the Audible version.

So helpful!!

Loved this positive, encouraging and resourceful book. It gives insight to the challenges and strengths of a people pleaser and then a plan to bring about healthy change and perspective! I am sure I will be returning to the material to listen again as change is implemented!