• The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.

  • By: Patrick King
  • Narrated by: Joe Hempel
  • Length: 3 hrs and 15 mins
  • 4.1 out of 5 stars (110 ratings)

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The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.

By: Patrick King
Narrated by: Joe Hempel
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Stand your ground without guilt, fear, or awkward tension. Finally get what you deserve and stop letting it slide.

Who is making your life choices for you? Make sure you possess the everyday assertiveness to choose for yourself and resist the pressures from all angles of life. You’ve put yourself last your entire life. It’s time for that to change.

Stop enabling, people pleasing, and being so agreeable. The Art of Everyday Assertiveness is a guide for the chronically nice, overwhelmed, and accommodating. It is a deep psychological dive into what makes us lack assertiveness and how to systematically combat those compulsions. It’s a book that stands apart from others because of the plethora of real-life examples and solutions. 

If your problem is assertiveness, you’ll find the step-by-step answer in this book. Included is a 28-day assertiveness action plan unlike any other. Gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want.

Patrick King is an internationally best-selling author and social skills coach. His writing draws on a variety of sources, including research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience. He’s also a recovering people pleaser who knows exactly how it feels to feel unable to speak his mind.

Stop putting others first and being taken advantage of.

  • How to balance assertiveness, accommodation, and agreeableness
  • How to practice self-acceptance, prioritization, and empathy
  • The instinct to over-apologize and how to fix it
  • The reasons that keep you compliant and willing
  • How to decisively say NO and reclaim your time and energy
  • How to ask for exactly what you want, when you want it
  • Saying NO with impact and grace
  • Understanding your subconscious thought patterns and beliefs
©2018 Peter Hollins (P)2018 Peter Hollins

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standard eighties self help baloney

the narrator was monotone and dry, no excitement or enthusiasm in his voice, but what was worse was the actual content. Patrick King is in no way an authority on this topic, his advice seemed like he took what sounded good from other books and presented them here without significant change or improvement. they sound good in theory, but they don't have much value in practice. don't waste your money or time.

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  • 04-01-18

Too Macho

What disappointed you about The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.?

From reading this book, Patrick King came off a bit chauvinistic...maybe his last name has gone to his head - King. As a woman, couldn't get into his book. I think it's geared more for men. I have to say, if a man did some of the things he suggests, I would slap him. If you are a woman, I recommend The Assertiveness Guide for Woman by Julie de Azevedo Hanks

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what?

Would you try another book from Patrick King and/or Joe Hempel?

This is the worst advice anyone can give on assertiveness, it will do more harm in your interactions than good!

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Best book ever on learning assertiveness.

I have bought so many books on how to stand up for your rights and I was quite shocked that for the price of only $4 this book was the first one that is actually helping. I have both the kindle copy and the audio copy and love them both. I'm one of those people who start off by trying to help and then get stuck with that behavior with certain selfish people and family members who will take advantage of you. i get in a situations and not then not know how to get out. With the help of this book i am starting to crawl out. Hopefully in the future I will learn how not to get into those situations is to begin with.

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Great read/listen!

This book was recommended to me and it really helped me understand not just my own, but other peoples ways of communication. Which allowed me to show up better for myself and others. I Highly recommend this book!

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Sounded like a lecture

It was so monotone and repetitive with examples that don’t apply to everyone, at times it felt like a lecture I couldn’t even finish it was so bored of hearing examples

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Too specific

It gives you specific instructions, it talks to a determined group of people with certain characteristics. It may good for them but not really an "art". It isn't a good guide for "everyday" scenarios.

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great book

This book is great teaches you to be protect your self and value yourself. The example and techniques are really effective and helpful. Must read if your a big people pleasure it Time to break that habit

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Great Book

Very informative delivers strategies for overcoming passiveness and delivers great value. Listening for 2nd time!

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