• The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

  • A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
  • By: Mark Manson
  • Narrated by: Roger Wayne
  • Length: 5 hrs and 17 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 09-13-16
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: HarperAudio
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (74,912 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be positive all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. 

For decades we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F*ck positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is f*cked, and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is - a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mind-set that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. 

Manson makes the argument, backed by both academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited - "not everybody can be extraordinary; there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault". Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. 

There are only so many things we can give a f*ck about, so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives. 

©2016 Mark Manson (P)2016 HarperCollins Publishers

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A book for 20-somethings, but not me

I think The Subtle Art... might have had more impact upon me if I was 20-something instead of 59-years-old. The language isn't really an issue (it just becomes another word that doesn't even seem to have much meaning); it's more that Manson is repetitive and doesn't offer anything original that most people haven't learned for themselves in a few decades of experience. For me, the same ideas are expressed much more elegantly, cogently, and thoroughly in The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking by Oliver Burkeman.

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AKA common sense, and buddhism reframed

Is there anything you would change about this book?

No

Would you recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck to your friends? Why or why not?

Not really, most are smarter than that

What aspect of Roger Wayne’s performance would you have changed?

He was the best part about the book

Did The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck inspire you to do anything?

It inspired me to disconnect from my Social Media

Any additional comments?

This is really basic, simple shit. I can imagine if you have no familiarity with the basic principles of Buddhism and Taoism, you might dig this. Its basic philosophy rephrased with significantly more uses of the word Fuck.

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NGAF - Not as simple as it sounds

Part of me bought this book because I thought it was funny and quirky, part of me bought it because I was sick of giving a f*^k about so many little things that ate up my day, I didn't have any energy for the things that really mattered.

This book isn't about throwing everything to the wind and turning in to a useless blob. It's about giving f^*ks where f^*ks deserve to be given, placing your f^*ks where they're going to do you good instead of drag you down. I highly recommend it, but if you pass on it, I really don't give a f^*k.

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average

a bit pointless really. the first chapter quite interesting but then devolves in to irrelevance.

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Shallow self help book for bros

If you prefer your self improvement advice packaged in vulgarity and frivolous stories of the author's sexual prowess, then this book is for you.

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Cheap

Take an intro to philosophy class instead...read Plato...something with depth. This book is watered down bs...not worth the time or money.

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Targets 20-somethings

Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

Probably not. It has an interesting premise, and a lot of the points the author makes are useful and logical, but as a 34-year-old woman, I found it hard to relate to a lot of what the author said. It seems he's garnered most of his wisdom from years of partying and traveling. Both of those are things I haven't done extensively and don't really do now. The principles still hold true, but I probably didn't need a whole book to learn them. I think a simple blog post would do.

Which character – as performed by Roger Wayne – was your favorite?

I really liked the narrator. Even when the book became repetitive, I was able to pay attention to him, which is saying something for me.

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He takes one concept and beats it to death for several hours

This must be a book for the intellectually challenged. He takes the Buddhist concept of suffering being the central element of life and the acceptance of this in the 21st century then hits you on the head with it for many hours. This epiphany comes after many years apparently getting it wrong and now at the sage age of 30 he rediscovers it like an undergrad sophomore and should perhaps reread his book again. Anyone who purports to get it, doesn't get it.

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Read with caution!

What did you like best about The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck? What did you like least?

He puts a few things in perspective. That is it.

What was most disappointing about Mark Manson’s story?

I really think his message could be dangerous for some type of minds. I initially liked his approach, but at the end of the day he seems to be putting a damper on wanting life to be great. He makes life seems as though it will suck most of the time so you need to find joy or "feel goods" in the most simplistic aspects of life, therefore, lower your expectations and have less stress until you die. He has a refreshing take on some things in the beginning, but then it fizzles bad to me after chapter 4. I will admit that my take is probably extreme, but in all, it's still accurate. He says some good stuff, but there is nothing wrong with striving for success and trying to be the best you possible.

Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Roger Wayne?

Roger Wayne was a great narrator.

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Didn't find value in the content

I feel like the book assumes the reader is a pessimistic looser. I constantly found myself getting pat on the back to tell me life doesn't have to be that bad. I'm my case I'm really optimistic and I didn't find value for me in this book . This book however could be a really good read for people that see the glass half empty

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-24-17

changed my life

its not for everyone, dont know if its right for me, but it made me hopefull, and thats somerhing I havent fellt in a long time

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  • P. Healey
  • 03-30-17

First half interesting, second half meh

The first part of the book, with its slight over use of vulgar language, gives a different perspective on how to approach life. I liked the description of where best to place your "f**ks to give".

Unfortunately the second half of the book descends into waffle about the authors life experiences, which are not particularly interesting.

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  • Kts
  • 03-11-17

Just ok

There are a couple of good points in this book and it is funny sometimes, but there is nothing new and I got bored by the end.

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  • C A
  • 08-11-17

Generic self help book with lots of swearing

I struggled to get through this although the narrator did a good job. The writing style and all the swearing really started to grate after the second chapter.

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  • A.Leon-Joyce
  • 01-05-17

Good, but with some tiresome problems.

Any additional comments?

Honestly, this isn't a bad jumping off point for kicking off some deeper thinking. However, it is pretty damn sexist in places, and straight up lazy in others. Mark is definitely someone who, despite all his self work, hasn't really thought that some of his readers might be, y'know, um.. women. Still it doesn't take away from what is being said most of the time, just a shame no one in the whole editing process pointed out some of his goddawful lazy stereotypical ideas might want to have an equality update. From the smallest things (like calling men, well 'men' but women the infantilizing and unequal 'girls') to the glaring fact that he maybe shouldn't put on an array of mock squeeky 'girl voices' when quoting words of women.. ... .. Yep. That really happens. Definitely not intended for women listeners, which is a shame as I don't think the ideas behind this apply to any one gender alone.

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  • Alberto Rizzoli
  • 06-22-17

Awful narrator

The book contains many self praising statements and anecdotes where the author glorifies himself to sometimes cringeworthy levels, but the message is agreeable. The book could have the same effect as a 20 page essay, most of it seems to be filler and personal anecdotes.

What absolutely ruins the experience is the narrator. With the most condescending voice, he emphasises curse words like an edgy teen like the rest of a sebt and mimics the voices of women in falsetto

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  • Glen
  • 05-25-17

Great

Loved it, gives you an honest take on self improvement and life. Uses some concepts found in 'the chimp paradox ' and 'the 7 habits of highly effective people ' with a comical honesty.

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  • m
  • 12-08-16

a bit overrated

lots of swearing and immaturity initially followed by patronising generalisations. profanity masquerading as wisdom. disappointing but good in small parts. sorry for non use of capitals. I'm being lazy and don't give a f#ck

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 01-16-17

Light hearted with a lot of truth.

The reason I love this book is because it doesn't take itself too seriously, it's written for the average joe who worries to much about daily life. If you're uptight/snobbish you probably won't enjoy this but if you're just a normal person stumbling through life I believe there's a lot you can take away from giving this a listen/read.

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  • Bwilson
  • 06-27-17

Odd

After scintillating start, I found it developed into a collection of uncorrelated ramblings . I hoped for instruction and less observation. Maybe I'm missing the point.

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  • AU Pete
  • 03-01-18

Great hook, great narrator, little payoff

This starts out really punchy, with great humour. But it soon descends into cookie-cutter self help preaching. Ironic that it points out the problems with exceptionalism early on, then goes on to base lessons around the stories of exceptional people. The book may offer some perspective for younger adults, but if you're pushing middle age you've already learned what's worth giving a f*ck about.

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  • Dwayne
  • 03-04-18

WTF

Just another self-help book that has you nodding in places but leaves you empty. The fuck word is completely unnecessary but obviously used to boost sales. In a nutshell you're going to die, so make sure you care about the important things in life.

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  • Leonie Mitaxa
  • 03-23-18

Self-help for beginners

Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

Yes, it's a good, simple book for those who've never undergone any cognitive behavioural therapy.

What was the most interesting aspect of this story? The least interesting?

It's a simple overview of self-help tactics that appear in more technical/academic books.

Which character – as performed by Roger Wayne – was your favourite?

Same character the whole time. At times he came across as a little obnoxious, but that was a true performance of the material within the book.

Was The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck worth the listening time?

Yes, it's shorter than other books that cover similar points - I listened to the whole thing on a six-hour drive.

Any additional comments?

If you liked this, I recommend The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-02-18

A great piece of the puzzle..

Prior to reading this book I had herd conflicting reviews. I personally found this book to be quite refreshing and thought provoking. Whilst this book is by no means a silver bullet I feel it's a fantastic piece of the puzzle. I think this is perhaps a book that gets mixed reviews depending on where in life that particular person may be. If all aspects don't particularly appeal to you at this stage, reread it in the future when your circumstances or mindset starts to change.
The book is not a shallow as the title may suggest, I have definitely recommend it to my friends and family.

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  • Curtis Palmer
  • 03-18-18

Great listen!

The book is a great listen and has an interesting take on life and priorities

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-04-18

Almost didn't read, SO glad I did!!!

wow.
At first I wasn't going to read past chapter 1 as it just didn't resonate with me... or was it challenging too much of my own beliefs or being.. values?
I kept reading, through doubts.... and I am so happy I sat through my uncertainty as this book is AMAZING!
Definately learnt many valuable lessons!

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  • Elizabeth
  • 03-16-18

Great Sense Of Humour!!

I love Manson’s different perspective!! Smacking you right in the face with the truth in language that’s down to earth and no frills!! Well done to Roger Wayne for a fantastic delivery!

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  • Lara
  • 03-13-18

READ THIS! You will be thankful.

It changed my perspective on life. I had to rewind some pieces, to really make sure I took it in. The advice is simple and clear, exactly what everyone needs to hear.

The piece on using activity before motivation, then motivation as a reward (you will understand when you get to it) has helped me in my studies. Very thankful I read it.

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  • Gillian Searle
  • 03-23-18

Just stupid

Not even interesting in any way. It’s just the random ravings of an attention seeker. Saying nothing new at all.

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  • Saxen49
  • 03-04-18

Refreshing, if a little decohesive

This book has a lot of hype to live up to (ironic, given its thesis) and it is a refreshing read. Particularly if you're the kind of person (most of us?) who never knew what you wanted to do with life and felt the desperation of being at the fringes of the dream/passion pursuit culture.

However, the content sometimes felt contradictory with a lot of me saying "what?" and hitting rewind. Also, the first and second parts don't sit naturally together. They feel like they're from two completely different books. After I finished and did some research, my theory is that this is because at least some of the content comes from the author's blogs.

Overall it's worth a read. The above mentioned issue frustrated me and lessened the impact though. Maybe I'll listen to it again in a year or two.

2 of 3 people found this review helpful