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As a young Christian man, Matthew Vines harbored the same basic hopes of most young people: to someday share his life with someone, to build a family of his own, to give and receive love. But when he realized he was gay, those hopes were called into question. The Bible, he’d been taught, condemned gay relationships.

Feeling the tension between his understanding of the Bible and the reality of his same-sex orientation, Vines devoted years of intensive research into what the Bible says about homosexuality. With care and precision, Vines asked questions such as:

  • Do biblical teachings on the marriage covenant preclude same-sex marriage or not?
  • How should we apply the teachings of Jesus to the gay debate?
  • What does the story of Sodom and Gomorrah really say about human relationships?
  • Can celibacy be a calling when it is mandated, not chosen?
  • What did Paul have in mind when he warned against same-sex relations?

Unique in its affirmation of both an orthodox faith and sexual diversity, God and the Gay Christian is likely to spark heated debate, sincere soul search­ing, even widespread cultural change. Not only is it a compelling interpretation of key biblical texts about same-sex relations, it is also the story of a young man navigating relationships with his family, his hometown church, and the Christian church at large as he expresses what it means to be a faithful gay Christian.

©2014 Matthew Vines (P)2014 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

"For anyone who wants to know why some evangelicals find that the Bible does not condemn same-gender marriage, Matthew Vines’s book answers the question. Christians who oppose gay marriage should consider what he has to say." (Tony Campolo, professor emeritus, Eastern University; co-author of Red Letter Christians)
"Many people believe you can either hold a high view of Scripture or affirm gay relationships, but not both. Matthew Vines proves them wrong. Provocative and relentlessly Bible-focused, God and the Gay Christian offers hope and insight for Christians who have felt conflicted on matters of sexuality." (Justin Lee, author of Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate)
"A must-read for all Christians, but especially parents. Matthew Vines brings great insight and wisdom to the conversation so urgently needed by today’s church. God and the Gay Christian has the information I was searching for when my son, Tyler Clementi, came out to me. This book will have a great impact on families, freeing parents of misunderstandings about their LGBT children while letting them hold securely to their faith." (Jane Clementi, co-founder of The Tyler Clementi Foundation)

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The revisionist side of the discussion

Matthew Vines is gay and is a Christian. This book tells his story of coming out and trying to reconcile his Christian faith with his local church, friends, family and his physical/emotional attraction to the same sex. While I don't agree with his conclusions or interpretations of scripture, I completely empathize with the hurt, rejection and self-doubt he and others like him have to endure with same-sex attraction. I can't say I understand how he feels, I am not attracted to other men, but I can feel his pain and understand (and identify with) his desire to find a way to reconcile his faith with his identity as a gay man.

What he writes is often painful to read and it is sad that our society treats people who are different poorly, many of those doing so identifying themselves as Christian. What he writes about is his journey and studies in reconciling his faith with his identity. Where he ends up is, in my and other's opinion, contrary to where he said (and concludes) he is going. He ends up offering views and conclusions which do not treat the Bible the way orthodox Christians do, as a whole written by God using human agents. He claims a lot of cultural influence in the Bible which he claims twist and alter God's intended meaning. He is definitely not holding to a High view of the scripture.

I don't want to belabor this and I know folks will disagree with my views/interpretation.

Regardless of which side you are on, YOU SHOULD READ THIS BOOK. It offers a clear perspective of this side of the discussion.

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truth

a true look into Gods heart for all his kids. take the time to read.

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You'll Find What You Want in this Book

You will find what you are looking for in this book. For those in the Gay Community, you will latch on to the Author's justification in the passages. For those "non-affirming" (his term for Christians who don't accept the concept of Gay Christians), you will see his lack of being honest with the context. He reads his viewpoint into the scripture and comes out with conclusions which are skewed. There are some interesting points, but I would not take this stand into a debate. It's one thing to take a position and quite another to have it tested by opposing viewpoints. I agree with James Pyle's review (which see) for the most part. For those of us Christ followers who have spent decades in His Word, we find it interesting how he came up with some of the conclusions. I read the book to see what positions are out there in this world that I should know about. For that reason alone, some should read this book. I wasn't convinced by his scholarship, only by his sincerity. One other point is that he acknowledges no sin on his part in causing a church split. That, along with other points along the way, tells me he is more interested in justifying his position than anything else.

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Not for the elite minded

THIS book/audio was recommended to me by my mother. She being the more spiritual one in my family, asked me to give this book a chance since I am conflicted with my sexuality and my belief in god. This book is not meant to criticise or attack Christian but to offer another point of view along with asking to review the passages in the bible. Matthew Vine does not try to bait one in a petty argument but tries to get one engaged in a dialogue.

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based on scripture!

loved it! What a great book based on scripture! This is a good book for every Christian read!

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Praying for Matthew Vines' Soul.

“and although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭1:32‬

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excellent thanks for the information.

excellent book could not put it down had to hear it from beginning to end. thank you

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amazing book

this is a wonderful book for everyone and anyone to read no matter what age. I wish I would have found this book when I was 10 years old.

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Refreshing

The walk through of in depth study is a wonderful source for sharing with friends and family; from specifics to study, to testimonies, to related material that can help show the stance for being gay and being Christian even beyond this book. It is a great place to start.

Thank you for writing this.

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Evangelical Christians must read

Read by the author with a gentle, clear voice; Matthew's is a welcome voice for Christians to lovingly reason together. He is absolutely uncompromising in treasuring the Bible, and refuses to undermine its authority. He admits when there he is not sure of the meaning of certain passages, but asks us to weigh these uncertainties against the tragic consequences "traditional" anti-gay teaching. He describes the fruit of these teachings, in the lives of individuals and in the life of the Church. This is ugly, toxic fruit, and it bears no resemblance to the beauty and love gifted by God when we follow Him wholeheartedly.