Love Me, Don't Leave Me

Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

De: Michelle Skeen PsyD

Narrado por: Karyn O'Bryant

Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood - fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away. If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail.

In Love Me, Don't Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you'll learn how schema coping behaviors - deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears - can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will gain powerful insights not only into your own mind but also into the minds of those around you.

©2014 Michelle Skeen (P)2016 Tantor

Reseñas de la Crítica

"[Skeen's] writing is concise and wonderfully clear, with many excellent exercises to give the reader the opportunity to make actual positive changes." (Randi Gunther, author of Relationship Saboteurs)

Good source of insight

Gives insight in different touch and theirs definitely some I agree and need to work on to improve

Wonderful guide

This book is amazing. Has lots of evaluations. The best thing is she gets to the root of what might be happening to you so you can understand why you are reacting the way you are. She gives you help literally and tells you how to recognize that you’ve been triggered and how to deal with it. How to recognize it and formulate new coping mechanisms. I’m buying this in paperback too.

resonating

So much information i was/am needing. Giving me knowledge to support the difficult decisions i need to make and stop putting off.
I will read this book many times over.

Really Opened My Eyes and Thoroughly Enjoyed!

I heard about this book a few years ago and always put off reading it but now that I have, I thoroughly enjoyed it and can recognise things that I can work on. Highly recommend it as the exercises are effective, easy to understand and helps you view your own situations with a fresh pair of eyes.

Wow

Now I’m starting to understand patterns I’ve shown in relationships & why I get into the same situations. good read &want to research more

Very Relatable & Educational

Thank you for a very relatable and educational read! It was also very enlightening with lots of information that I hadn’t been aware of until this book.🤗

Powerfully insightful

This book gives a very comprehensive look at how core beliefs share our outlook on life. Helps reader identify strategies for living a value centered life. There are lots of exercises so journaling is required. Introspective and probing yet encouraging. Highly recommended.

Life Saver

This book has given me hope for a better life, and an ability to manage my crippling core beliefs.
I was so unaware of myself before.
Thank you for creating this book!

Great content, not for audio

This book was recommended to me by a therapist almost 20 years ago. I bought it and never read it. Fast forward to 40 yo me and I’ve come across this book again. I started listening to it and was printing the worksheets out from the website but I really wished I had the content to refer back to. Something I could highlight and reread and go back to certain ideas. This is impossible with an audiobook so I’ll be finding a second hand copy. The narration sounded a little robotic to me but not a deal breaker. Would recommend the book for sure!

Helpful book by a very knowledgeable psychotherapist

This book is great for anyone dealing with triggers related to insecure attachment. I had never heard of schema theory/ therapy, but reading this book has helped me understand why and when I do the things I do. The author writes very clearly and concisely and the activities she gives are very very helpful. She also has PDFs on her website. I even emailed her and she offered to speak with me via Skype about some of my specific questions. A+ book would def recommend.