Gaslighting

Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People -- and Break Free
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Publisher's Summary

A mental-health expert sheds light on "gaslighting" - the manipulative technique used by sociopaths, narcissists, and others - offering practical strategies to cope and break free. 

He's the charmer - the witty, confident, but overly controlling date. She's the woman on your team who always manages to take credit for your good work. He's the neighbor who swears you've been putting your garbage into his trash cans, the politician who can never admit to a mistake. Gaslighters are master controllers and manipulators, often challenging your very sense of reality. Whether it's a spouse, parent, coworker, or friend, gaslighters distort the truth - by lying, withholding, triangulation, and more - making their victims question their own reality and sanity. Dr. Stephanie Sarkis delves into this hidden manipulation technique, covering gaslighting in every life scenario, sharing: 

  • Why gaslighters seem so "normal" at first 
  • Warning signs and examples
  • Gaslighter "red flags" on a first date 
  • Practical strategies for coping 
  • How to co-parent with a gaslighter 
  • How to protect yourself from a gaslighter at work 
  • How to walk away and rebuild your life 

With clear-eyed wisdom and empathy, Dr. Sarkis not only helps you determine if you are being victimized by a gaslighter - she gives you the tools to break free and heal. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2018 Stephanie Moulton Sarkis, PhD (P)2018 Hachette Audio

Critic Reviews

"Sarkis clearly knows her material inside and out...this book will bring gaslighting victims and survivors out of the darkness and into the light, helping them heal." (New York Journal of Books)

"A succinct, useful self-help guide to responding to an all-too-common but under-discussed personality type." (Publishers Weekly)

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This book helped me through the toughest of times

I was in a place that I was starting to doubt my integrity because of a gaslighter. Everything I shared with this person, intimate or even silly stuff was used against me in a way I never realized. I used to have a good relationship with this person (or so I thought). This booked helped me recognize the deep manipulation I had suffered and still suffer people who are closed to this person. I never thought I could put into words what I was going through, until I heard this audiobook. Thank you to the author for writing about this. You have no idea how much you saved me, in so many ways.

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Well worth a credit and cash.

Thank you for the time you put into this book! This book is giving me a light out in my situation!!!! I listen to this at work where the gaslighters are.

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Gaslighting nearly slayed me

I forgive you my covetous sociopathic gaslighter. The information from this psychologist counselor helped me cope with gaslighting, regain some sanity, distance myself and forgive the person!

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nope.

Repeats herself over and over again with the same information. Gaslighting is a means for manipulation not a psychological condition. I thought this would be more insightful. I'm disappointed that it's not.

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Political views not needed.

The book was okay. Gaslighting is not a disorder in and of itself but a symptom of many other “disorders”. I think the author wants to create another “pathology”. She also has a political agenda to push and I found it very annoying and unnecessary—made me start to tune out after a few chapters. She ruined her book with the politics. Nothing here you couldn’t find on U tube videos for free. Poor choice, don’t bother.

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I can not stress how much this has helped me

I have been in the what I thought at the time was the worst feeling ever when I first realized I had overlooked how the father of my kids was capable of going bend my back and turning my family against me or made them the the other way when I would need them the most. My mom thought I was on drugs because he was calling her and telling her I have been going out every night and he doesn’t know where I am (but I never go anywhere and when I had ran into a old friend we would hang out but I would go to my only friends to do out laundry but did not like it ) So when I had an assumption that something was off I began to call and worn my mom that he might call her and tell her lies because ro was planning to leave him little did I know he had already got to her and my aunt told them he’s worried about and scared to leave me alone with our kids. Smh my mom had just found out that she had Leukemia and was going through chemo at the time so I was doing everything in my power not to drag her into this stress her out knowing it and we didn’t have anybody else but so I broke down and called her she started telling me I was delusional I need to get help go to rehab and then I’m not thinking straight. Smh I could not believe this and felt defeated because he had been doing this for a while now and I never thought this to happen I felt I was in a movie when the plot switches and you weren’t expecting it and then the rest of the movie began time fall into place and it just gets more shocking Th we more you think back how it was happening when did they do this. He even ha sky sister turn against me. I had planned to go to a shelter and leave him the apartment with last month rent paid. I made the mistake of trying to be civil for out kids sake and he already turned my family against me no one was answering my calls. There was a coworker that even gave me the idea to go to the shelter and she was coming to pick me up and take me when he stopped her in the when she pulled up yelled and cussed her out telling her she’s helping me take the kids from me and he got a restraining order on me didn’t know this until he was beginning to scare me and the kids and was being unpredictable telling me I’m never going to see my kids again and he’s going to get custody i called the cops to help me remove him for the apartment as he was begging to show anger and I didn’t know what else to do. The cops case and served me with a restraining order he went and placed on me earlier that day an the cops said I need to stay to myself and not threaten him or they’ll come back to arrest me. I was still getting what felt like at the time punched in the stomach by his continuous betrayal. I could not let him have the chance to lie and say I was threatening him it didn’t have to be true he wanted to control me with it and thought he could. I went and got a Uber with my kids and got a restraining order on him the same commissioner was there that approved his order but she said he was acting weird and that she was not sure about his story and when she read my statement she felt bad and apologized to me she felt manipulated by him because he seems to be so upset and its not a good feeling when you realize someone had just played with your kindness and you fell violated by them it’s not her fault he did it to me but we went to court and he had letters from my aunt and sister saying I have been an using drugs and I’m unstable that he’s just trying to help me and I keep refusing his help. I’m crazy. The judge did not fall for his actions and rules in my favor he was not expecting that at all he went in court with the intent of getting my kids taken and told my family I was going to have my kids taken from by the judge and they were so confused when that wasn’t not what happened. My mom and ain’t lives in Texas far from where I live. They didn’t know what and resulted in cutting off communication with both of us because it became too much for them didn’t knew what was true or false. He does that well. I don’t believe in going to anyone and bad mouth him or dragging others into our problems but that gave him a wide window to manipulate my family and friends to not even answer or help me anymore and came to the apartment crying an saying he is done hurting each other that he wants to be with his family he loves me but I was in the very bad place and I felt like everyone had turned on me I felt betrayed by my family and he was once again back on my life knowing I now have no one left I j ugh st left my job because I was planning to be at the shelter not knowing anything about them or how they work. I had our 3 kids I hadn’t been on my own sense I was 19 and pregnant with our first son. And had no one in my life but him and he is a good dad just not a good person I made the worst mistake of my life and fell victim to him once again! No one was giving me any advice. He called cps on me and she came when to question the kids and i. My daughter had said she was scared of him sometimes because he would yell a lot and she would hear him call me names. I did not know she was coming and I was in her site the whole time never bad mouthed him in front of her to have her say that. But we went to the shelter and some one called them with a new case against me saying I’m drugs and i took test for her she made a point to let me know she spoke their father and she said he sounded very concerned for my health he just wants me to get help and she felt the need to tell me she truly believes he loves and cares for me ( I was clean of drugs ). I wasn’t surprised by this and I felt gained up in by him using his ability to cry because he knows how he is wrong and he just truly was hurt he didn’t win the order in court so yes I’m sure even after everything u asked me abc my daughter. I confided in her to help when she was the only person that might be able help me to leave him with resources very much needed help to complete me leaving him for good and she took his side just like everyone else. I was scared and hurt but i had my kids with me and I could not let them know I was I. The verge of a break down and or so close to giving up that it scared me to think about how much I have lost and how my family chose to believe him over me never not nice did any of them call me to confirm his allocations against me they new where I was and that the thing she had stressed weren’t adding Up because it was all a tactic and he played them like pawn pieces in the game of chess then left the Behind and was not Calling lien he did had Ben before. I’m very happy I had listened to this and to heard that i am not wrong about my actions and My feelings were not crazy but the author actually put this into words I would not have been able to and thought it was impossible. Thank you so much for this I have not been able to speak about this or get over the trauma that had accrued then. You have changed my way of thinking. I’m always be great full for this but I have a slightly different kind I think I am may be dealing with a new hybrid species that people are not familiar with and that is not something that can be identified as only one of the mental health issues but all of them at once

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Chapter 5 changed my life.

Stephanie knows what she is talking about. She hits the hammer on the nail. Workplace poisoning with these people.

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Hey significantly important book

Information shared in this book can help not only write individual lives but the United States. I am very grateful for this author!

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Great tool for breaking free

What a life changing book! I shared it with every single woman in my family. Even though there are gaslighters that are women, in my family (a Hispanic one) it seems to be more men than women. I think Everyone should read this book before getting married, before having children. It’s such. Great tool!

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This woman is an anti trumper

She is clueless how she has damaged her own reputation by calling trump a gaslighter and targeting Fox News, she has nothing to say about the narcissist in chief obama or the totally biased cnn or Washington post . She refers to her undergraduate in telecommunication as her big reason why she knows what she is talking about. She talks about russian hacking despite this being debunked by angry democrats . She could have written the book dangerous case of Trump . These clueless experts should be exposed to the public ! I regret that I bought this book!