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Publisher's Summary

A mental-health expert sheds light on "gaslighting" - the manipulative technique used by sociopaths, narcissists, and others - offering practical strategies to cope and break free. 

He's the charmer - the witty, confident, but overly controlling date. She's the woman on your team who always manages to take credit for your good work. He's the neighbor who swears you've been putting your garbage into his trash cans, the politician who can never admit to a mistake. Gaslighters are master controllers and manipulators, often challenging your very sense of reality. Whether it's a spouse, parent, coworker, or friend, gaslighters distort the truth - by lying, withholding, triangulation, and more - making their victims question their own reality and sanity. Dr. Stephanie Sarkis delves into this hidden manipulation technique, covering gaslighting in every life scenario, sharing: 

  • Why gaslighters seem so "normal" at first 
  • Warning signs and examples
  • Gaslighter "red flags" on a first date 
  • Practical strategies for coping 
  • How to co-parent with a gaslighter 
  • How to protect yourself from a gaslighter at work 
  • How to walk away and rebuild your life 

With clear-eyed wisdom and empathy, Dr. Sarkis not only helps you determine if you are being victimized by a gaslighter - she gives you the tools to break free and heal. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2018 Stephanie Moulton Sarkis, PhD (P)2018 Hachette Audio

Critic Reviews

"Sarkis clearly knows her material inside and out...this book will bring gaslighting victims and survivors out of the darkness and into the light, helping them heal." (New York Journal of Books)

"A succinct, useful self-help guide to responding to an all-too-common but under-discussed personality type." (Publishers Weekly)

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This book helped me through the toughest of times

I was in a place that I was starting to doubt my integrity because of a gaslighter. Everything I shared with this person, intimate or even silly stuff was used against me in a way I never realized. I used to have a good relationship with this person (or so I thought). This booked helped me recognize the deep manipulation I had suffered and still suffer people who are closed to this person. I never thought I could put into words what I was going through, until I heard this audiobook. Thank you to the author for writing about this. You have no idea how much you saved me, in so many ways.

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Well worth a credit and cash.

Thank you for the time you put into this book! This book is giving me a light out in my situation!!!! I listen to this at work where the gaslighters are.

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Pop psychology trash

This author is irresponsible beyond contempt. She demands neuroses instead of solutions, arrogance and suspicion instead of healing, and over generalizations instead of nuance. Do not read.

Gaslighting is a serious problem with a difficult and serious solution; build community. Manipulators do not survive long in strong communities.

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nope.

Repeats herself over and over again with the same information. Gaslighting is a means for manipulation not a psychological condition. I thought this would be more insightful. I'm disappointed that it's not.

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Gaslighting nearly slayed me

I forgive you my covetous sociopathic gaslighter. The information from this psychologist counselor helped me cope with gaslighting, regain some sanity, distance myself and forgive the person!

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Political views not needed.

The book was okay. Gaslighting is not a disorder in and of itself but a symptom of many other “disorders”. I think the author wants to create another “pathology”. She also has a political agenda to push and I found it very annoying and unnecessary—made me start to tune out after a few chapters. She ruined her book with the politics.

Nothing here you couldn’t find on U tube videos for free.

Poor choice, don’t bother.

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don't waste your time

basically catch all term for everything bad in human nature. this is not a psychological trope, more like moral trip from point of view of author peppered with quotes without a context.

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Lightweight and unconvincing

Perhaps the timing of my listening to Ms. Sarkis' book was to blame, as I had just completed the books by serious clinical experts such as Dan Siegel, Thomas Boyce, and Matthew Walker - but came across as extremely superficial. Narration didn't help. I found listening to the book to feel like like pulling teeth, and despite my best attempts and starting new chapters simply couldn't immerse in it.

The author uses scare tactics throughout most of the book. "Beware", "run away", etc. There is not a slightest attempt to explain the gaslighting phenomenon and its pathogenesis - rather an assumption that there are these evil monsters all around and the rest of us should tread carefully. Ultimately, this approach may work with children, but not with reflective adults who have had a chance to observe these manifestations in others and have attempted to develop an understanding - including why they are prone to falling prey to such attachments. The author seems to use an opportunity presented by the lack of an accepted diagnosis for "Gaslighting" in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) to supplement her therapy income with a book which is clearly intended to be the "least common denominator" for the masses. Will attempt to return.

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Some of this book is portraying anti-Donald Trump opinions and personal feelings versus professional facts.

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Feels rather personal...

without question, this topic is personified in the extreme and will assuredly step on one's toes. I'm halfway thru and the topic read akin to one seeking cathartic release by way of writing. good stuff, but I think I've gleaned what is possible from this book.

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