End Emotional Outsourcing

How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits and Reclaim Your Life

De: Beatriz Victoria Albina NP MPH SEP NP MPH SEP

Narrado por: Beatriz Victoria Albina NP MPH SEP NP MPH SEP

From a certified somatic life coach, a feminist guide to reclaiming your self-worth and having healthier relationships—perfect for readers of Burnout and The Body Is Not an Apology.

Do you say “yes” when you mean “no”? Do you end up in lopsided relationships, feeling resentful but not sure how to speak up? Do you feel anxious, struggle with perfectionism and imposter syndrome, or feel like you’ve lost touch with your true self? You’re not alone: Thousands of people, especially those of us socialized as women, struggle with Emotional Outsourcing—a term nurse practitioner and life coach María Victoria Albina coined to describe the codependent habits that keep us stuck.

In End Emotional Outsourcing, Albina explores the origins—both personal and systemic—of these tendencies, and coaches readers through a science-backed program of thought work and somatic practices. Readers will learn to:

·Regulate their nervous systems
·Reframe their habitual thoughts and actions
·Take back their time and energy
·Improve relationships with parents, friends, and partners
·Discover their inherent self-worth and lovability

Groundbreaking, healing, and urgent, End Emotional Outsourcing is poised to change the conversation about codependency, and help an entire generation of women step into their power.

I’ll follow her forever!!

Love everything about this book and about the author. I’ve followed her since the beginning of her podcast and try to implement her teachings in my daily life. She is phenomenal!! Thank you dear lady for creating this book and hope you find the energy to write more.

You Are Safe, You Are Held, You Are Loved

End Emotional Outsourcing is exactly the book I’ve been waiting for. It is a clear, compassionate, and practical guide for those of us who struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, or codependent habits. Beatrice Victoria Albina’s no-nonsense yet deeply nurturing approach blends thought work with somatic practices, making the tools both science-based and body-centered. I loved listening to the audiobook in her own voice, and the print version is full of easy-to-find prompts, exercises, and resources (plus links to bonus downloadable worksheets!). As a longtime fan of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, I appreciate how this book compiles her best insights into a single, accessible resource. It’s already helping me personally, and as a licensed professional counselor, I’ll recommend it to my clients as well.

Albina ends the book with her signature message—“You are safe, you are held, you are loved. And when one of us heals, we help heal the world.” This perfectly captures the heart of her work. Truly a must-read for anyone ready to stop self-abandoning and reclaim their wholeness.

The marriage of modalities for this time

What a gem of a human being Beatriz Victoria Albina is! She has created the perfect blend of tenderness, accountability and evidence-based guidance. If you want to feel seen and go beyond blame, avoid patterns of over performing and unrealistic expectations of external rewards for our over performance this book is for you.

Truly a treasure chest of insight

Beatriz Albina’s "End Emotional Outsourcing" is the kind of book that lingers long after you finish listening. It’s part memoir, part manifesto, and part conversation with anyone who’s ever lost themselves in the process of caretaking, people-pleasing, or building their identity around others’ validation. Albina brings a rare mix of intellect and vulnerability, weaving her own story into a larger exploration of emotional boundaries, healing, and what it actually means to return home to yourself.

Her narration adds real intimac that's measured, warm, and honest without ever feeling rehearsed. The power of hearing her voice makes her reflections land even deeper. It feels less like an audiobook and more like a long talk with a wise friend who isn’t afraid to tell the truth.

This is not a quick-fix self-help title; it’s a call to self-awareness and agency. Perfect for anyone navigating burnout, relationships, or the quiet exhaustion of constantly performing for others. Beautifully written, deeply relevant, and full of moments that make you stop, grateful to hit pause, the playback just to think.

Everything I didn’t know I needed 🤍

I thoroughly enjoy content that encourages introspection, self-awareness & evolution - this is all that & SO much more.
Bea’s writing is a fun blend of quirky & endearing, warm & thoughtful, reassuring & confronting.
Her expertise & experience shine through in a very real way & she frames some very fraught concepts in clear, digestible terms.
The pet names & such took some getting used to, but I can tell they’re genuine & just part of her charm.
Despite all the growing I still need to do, this book helped me see so much of my life & coping skills with new layers of understanding - I’m immensely grateful to have stumbled upon it & believe it’s a worthwhile read/listen for anyone who may have patterns of perfectionism or people-pleasing!