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Publisher's Summary

From the best-selling author of Americanah and We Should All Be Feminists comes a powerful new statement about feminism today - written as a letter to a friend.

I have some suggestions for how to raise Chizalum. But remember that you might do all the things I suggest, and she will still turn out to be different from what you hoped, because sometimes life just does its thing. What matters is that you try.

In We Should All be Feminists, her eloquently argued and much admired essay of 2014, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie proposed that if we want a fairer world we need to raise our sons and daughters differently. Here, in this remarkable new book, Adichie replies by letter to a friend's request for help on how to bring up her newborn baby girl as a feminist. With its 15 pieces of practical advice, it goes right to the heart of sexual politics in the 21st century.

©2017 Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (P)2017 HarperCollins Publishers Limited

Critic Reviews

Praise for Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie:
"The book I'd press into the hands of girls and boys, as an inspiration for a future 'world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves'." (Books of the Year, Independent)
"A writer with a great deal to say." ( The Times)
"Here is a new writer endowed with the gift of ancient storytellers." (Chinua Achebe)
"Adiche [has] virtuosity, boundless empathy and searing social acuity." (Dave Eggers)
"Adichie is terrific on human interactions.... Adichie's writing always has an elegant shimmer to it.... Wise, entertaining and unendingly perceptive." ( Independent on Sunday)
"[Adichie] is recording the history of her country. She is fortunate - and we, her readers, are even luckier." (Edmund White)

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This book is incredible!

I am going to have a daughter soon, so I bought this amazing book. I think once in a while I will have to listen to it again, just to memorize all the incredible suggestions the author gives!

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Given me plenty to think about

An ambitious list, even for those not raising a baby girl to be a feminist. I am a twenty six year old woman and even I have questions about whether I’m feminist enough or the right kind of feminist or worry that these are the wrong type of questions to be had in the first place. The suggestions in the book have made me question some of my existing patterns of thought and brought up more than a few things that I now look at with a different perspective.

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Lovely book and a must read for both women and men

This book has been a fantastic read and a first step into broadening my horizons not as a woman but as a human being.

Often feminism has been marketed as a women-only movement, as something that benefits women while lessening men. I never agreed with that so I ended up thinking feminism was not for me.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie gives us a peak into a way of thinking that is much more modern and more into the idea of equality of all. I grew up in a small city in the centre of Italy and I was shocked finding out how much this book speaks to me about my upbringing.

I will definitely recommend the book and probably buy some copies for my friends and family for Christmas.

January Lavoy did a fantastic job reading the book.

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A letter I will always treasure

A letter i would gladly share with my daughter. Just wish that Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie herself read the audiobook. I am sure if she did it would carry the weight it deserves.

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  • Margaret
  • 04-12-17

Just one thing missing

It was a bit disappointing as a Nigerian to listen to this particular book being read by an American woman who made little to no episode to pronounce names or places correctly but otherwise content wise and the tone and pace of the reading was excellent

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  • Cheryl-Jane
  • 04-18-17

Love the advice

Love, love love this book. I will be revisiting it each year and passing on the lessons to my daughters. My only comment with the audible version is that I wish they had found a narrator with a more Nigerian accent.

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  • denise elliot
  • 01-17-19

brilliant, still needed

loved this. messages as relevant now as before worldwide. Would have loved a reader with a Nigerian accent as in Ameriicanah.

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  • ife a.
  • 11-22-18

Awesome Book!

I listened to this in 1 night!! Needless to say, the narrator did a good job at passing Chimamanda's message. well done, I say...

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  • Irene Reid
  • 09-20-18

Compulsory Reading For Parents

This is a book you should own.
Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, is a letter she wrote to a close friend who has just given birth to a daughter. The friend has asked her to describe how to raise the daughter to be a feminist in Nigeria, a male dominated country.
This book with its compelling and frank voice, lifts the lid on how easily and without deep thinking, we enter into the parenting and rearing of our children. We do not think of the long term effects of what or how we are parenting. Beautifully and sensitively written and read, with both humour and and honesty, this story challenges a parent to be deliberate in how they raise their children, especially girls. It challenges parents to think about the values, stereotypes and culturalised discriminatory practices we practice without even knowing it.
"Teach her that the idea of 'gender roles' is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl.
'Because you are a girl' is never reason for anything. Ever."
"If we don't place the straitjacket of gender roles on young children, we give them space to reach their full potential."

Let's be deliberate in bringing up our children. Firstly to know and love themselves as they are, secondly to treasure all of humanity and thirdly to live a values driven life contributing meaningfully to the world.
“Teach her to love books. If she sees you reading she will understand that reading is valuable. Books will help her understand the world, help her express herself, and help her in whatever she wants to become.”
Read it.
You will be forever changed.

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  • Chioma Favour Ezeogu
  • 07-31-18

this is a very authentic and pure book.

love it. i would recommend to all aspiring mothers. it represents true perception of the igbo culture about societal view of women.

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  • Anesu
  • 07-01-18

Undeniable and concise

Chimamanda speaks in a way that is undeniable and concise. forces you to put your ego to the side and soak up game, essential reading for men and women. the ONLY issue is that I wish it was read by Chimamanda or another African lady however this narrator did a fine job so I gave the performance 4 star

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  • mamabieu
  • 05-26-18

A very thoughtful book

Thank you for writing such a thought provoking book. I am a mother of 3 beautiful girls and I often wondered, where do I start to bring my children up in the exact opposite way to the way I was brought up. This book has given me a head start. I have a lot to think about. Thank you

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  • Ayo
  • 05-02-18

Great words of wisdom, narration wasn't too bad

Ms Adichie can do no wrong in my opinion, every work of her's has either been inspiring or enjoyable, as with this one. The narration wasn't too bad but you really need an indigene for authenticity, some pronunciations grated.

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  • Olivia T Mutonono
  • 04-11-18

Good advice at times

The narrator was excellent. The structure great, but I do not agree with all ideas. However, I am very glad I listened to it. It revealed to me what I believe and don't believe.

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  • Melinda - YarnderWoman
  • 03-13-18

A must-listen for every human

Fantastic. Specific examples of how all people can live with equality for all. (Because feminism is, of course, about equality for women and men.)

I definitely recommend it.