The Book of Boundaries

Set the Limits That Will Set You Free

By: Melissa Urban

Narrated by: Melissa Urban

Length: 11 hrs and 11 mins

Publisher's summary

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER FROM THE CO-FOUNDER OF THE WHOLE30 • End resentment, burnout, and anxiety—and reclaim your time, energy, health, and relationships.

“Melissa Urban shows the way forward with clarity, vulnerability, and humor.”—Gretchen Rubin, author of Life in Five Senses

Melissa Urban has helped millions of people transform their relationship with food. Now, in this powerful and practical guide, she shows how boundaries—clear limits you set to protect your energy, time, and health—are the key to feelings of security, confidence, and freedom in every area of your life.

In her famously direct and compassionate style, Urban offers:

• 130+ scripts with language you can use to set boundaries with bosses and co-workers, romantic partners, parents and in-laws, co-parents, friends, family, neighbors, strangers—and yourself

• Actionable advice to help you communicate your needs with clarity and compassion

• Tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt, pushback, pressure, and oversteps

• Techniques to create healthy habits around food, drink, technology, and more

User-friendly and approachable, The Book of Boundaries will give you the tools you need to stop justifying, minimizing, and apologizing, leading you to more rewarding relationships and a life that feels bigger, healthier, and freer.

ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: Mindful

©2022 Melissa Urban (P)2022 Random House Audio

Critic reviews

* A NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER *

One of:

Amazon’s “Best business and leadership books of 2022”

SheDoesTheCity’s “10 Comforting Items For Your Winter Healing Cocoon”

“I always tell my therapy patients that boundaries create trust, comfort, and safety in a relationship, but many people struggle with how to effectively communicate what they need. In The Book of Boundaries, Melissa Urban helps you identify your boundary needs, offers actionable scripts on what to say, and shares proven tips based on a decade of experience helping people live more freely by holding their limits with confidence."—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone

“The Book of Boundaries is funny, direct, and smart, bringing you actionable tools and science-backed strategies for setting boundaries using language that feels kind, natural, and empowering. Melissa’s straightforward scripts and practical tips makes it easy to identify your limits and communicate them with confidence, so you can start putting yourself first and create a life that feels bigger, freer, and more authentically YOU.”—Mel Robbins, New York Times bestselling author of The 5 Second Rule

“Helpful as hell and lovingly direct, Melissa Urban is the boundaries big sister we all so desperately need. Through her insightful advice and easy-to-follow scripts, Urban teaches you how to stand up for yourself without walling yourself off from the people you love.”—Tara Schuster, author of Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

Boundaries For Myself

The part that I enjoyed the most was setting boundaries for myself. I had never thought about how important setting self-made boundaries would be for my mental health. I highly recommend this book and loved Melissa reading it.

Life Changing!!🙌

Set the limits that will set you free! Brilliant! A must read for anyone that wishes to improve their life.

Helpful & thoughtful

I have always enjoyed MU’s thoughts on social media and was glad to have been able to listen to her book. Even though we don’t see eye to eye on some personal things, I appreciate the value her approach adds to my arsenal of healthy living.

Well worth a listen!

A very helpful book for people who struggle to set boundaries. Has literal scripts you can follow in it to set a boundary.

One of the best books I’ve ever read!!

This book is completely transformative and practical. I’ve already started using multiple scripts and practices taught in this book. I also loved that this is narrated by the author, giving a personal touch. Listening to this honestly left like talking to my therapist, or an old friend. The information in this book is also very easy to absorb and use in daily living. Thank you Melissa Urban, you’ve helped me take back my time and strengthen my relationships!

Life Changing

This book was eye opening. I was immediately able to start applying concepts I learned as I was reading and made several bookmarks to come back to. Great book!

Best self improvement book

I love this book, and the way it teaches the importance of, and how to do, boundaries. I’ve already recommended it to everyone I talk to. I’m already seeing the positive impact of the book in my life.

Just in time

Loved this book and used what I needed. Thank you for having the book on audible.

A must read

As someone who is fairly good with boundaries but one that struggles with them in very specific areas of my life I found this book extremely helpful. the scripts were wonderful for talking through issues from your children to in-laws to spouses to friends. Most issues are covered here & I was able to recognize myself in situations that I didn't even realize I was having as boundary breaking. I have already recommended this to several friends.

Such a helpful book!

I really struggled to make boundaries in all areas of my life and this book is so helpful in guiding me to be better about that. I loved hearing the Author actually speak to it as well. Would highly recommend!