For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle - from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.
©1994 Celestial Arts (P)2012 Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy
"I couldn't stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives...a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends." (Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One)
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"The Ethical Slut" is an excellent, well written book to learn about different relationship types outside of monogamy while also respecting monogamy.
If you are looking at this book, you are probably curious about the many topics of relationships. You will find a lot of good tips in this book whether monogamous or considering open, polyamory, or more. This book can actually help enforce a lot of positive communication techniques for yourself and your partner(s). At its center, the book is all about honesty and trust which is the building blocks of every relationship.
The book is also extends the idea of what sex really is. If you think you know, listen to the first half of this book and see if you still define it the same way.
The authors read the book and they do an earnest job. The fact that they switch between the authors to accent parts is nice. Also it helps that they both practice what they are explaining so can provide personal experiences, emotions, and really relate the content.
The book gets a few down sides that keeps it from a 5 star.
The book feels it is geared largely to women and couples even though they try to cover all sexualities and relationship types. Single men can get quite a lot but some examples or exercises are difficult to relate to.
Also the second half of the book drags a little and the dual voice use takes a little bit of a hit that kept it moving so well the first half.
Finally, it can almost be an overload of information. You might need a few listens to get the full use of the book.
Overall, for anyone who ever "what ifed" or want to consider a different type of relationship in an open and honest way, this well written and dense book is for you!
This is an amazing book for anyone and everyone engaging in relationships or exploring sexuality. It provides advice, ideas, guidance, and an incredibly sane, healthy perspective for connecting with others and ourselves, in contrast to a culture that associates shame with so much of that exploration.
The open mindedness, sex positive approach, and enthusiasm was enjoyable.
Good solid read, with enough examples to use in everyday life.
Having a younger, more modern adaption would have enhanced my experience. Their performance was good, my extreme reaction was more toward the grandma-like reading from Hardy and Easton - describing hardcore sex acts in detail to 20 and 30 something’s leaves a little bit to be desired.
Hire a much younger staff and make it relevant to our modern time.
I don’t want anyone to misinterpret this review, this book is great! – all the information herein is solid, well delivered, and 100% on point. I have been in a relationship for 8 years where my wife and I love to take women home for 3 way sex, bondage and discipline, top/bottom sex – or whatever you want to call it. This book is specifically geared to relationships like these. Some of the ladies we hook up with end up staying around for a while because it just works - some don’t. This book is very good at looking at the dynamic of relationships like these and also very good at offering advice for this type of situation.My critique lies in the delivery, and approach. No offense to the authors who also speak the audio commentary (read the book to you), but the experience is like having my hippy grandmother tell me very detailed stories about how her and all her old friends used to get it on back in the day. A lot of the material doesn’t translate well to someone who is, say in their 20’s or 30’s; it just doesn’t – I feel our generation is way more open than those of the past. So even though, all the information in the book is absolutely great advise for a kinky relationship or a vanilla relationship. They push good, open values that stress on the importance of communication, it's just weird having it told to you by an older person. So I would suggest this book to everybody – just be ready to have it read to you by a nice old woman who loves to use terms like cunt, cock, & ass fucking.
No, I do not think their viewpoints and spectrum of knowledge are helpful to me.
The chapter on sex parties and group sex were the most useful.
At a mere 10 hours, you would think it would have been easier to handle. But I found this book to be a trudge through monotone voices and delusional sexual utopia.
I really looked forward to this book. All the reviews and feedback from friends and colleagues, I expected a revelation and what I got instead was a book that was constantly telling me to refer to another chapter for more information. (A little hard to do when you are listening to an audio book.)
The authors speak a lot about their own personal lives and their existence within a sexual utopia where there is no jealousy and everything seems to fit like a glove. It is a hard lesson to simply tell someone, "You're feeling jealous? Well don't."
If it was that easy I would simply choose not to feel that and save myself the credit for "The Two Towers" by Tolkien. At least that will not be constantly sending me back on an adventure on page 69 to find out more.
highly releatable !
I liked hearing the book in the writers voice. it was great.
while I am not practicing in an open relationship, I was curious as to how this would be written. The book explores multi-partner relationships, polyamory and open relationships in an interesting way in its intention, but I didn't feel like it give specifics or anything else that I didn't already think about or know. A good book if you're curious, but you can pretty much guess the content. Borrow it for free before you buy it.
Yes, in order to spread the honest, respectful way of love
the 2 authors who are also the 2 readers, because their words & voices are heart-felt & true.
Tone,intonation, tempo... and other characteristics of the voice medium of communication.
The Brave New Exploration of Our Inner Space
Deeply appreciative to the authors for their brave, honest and simple statements that reached me --and will probably reach many others-- in the very acceptable notion of accepting to take risks to attain a richer more honest life.
I think this book is a good primer for polyamory but also a great resource for relationships of all kinds. It did strike as a little hippy dippy with regard to sex/sexual energy being anything/everywhere, but if you get past those opening pieces, the majority of the book is more concrete and focused. I also like the illustrative stories included in many chapters, as well as the exercises.
"Fantastic Don't Let The Title Put You Off!"
Read it cover to cover. Be you whatever gender and whatever status there is ultimately something here for all. Even those not seeking the title of the book. Wise words and ones to live by, be free and be happy read this book and keep an open mind before you do!
"Great guide to not being a dick when multi dating"
Beautiful! Real and practical guidance for loving love mindfully. How to have your cake and eat it without being a dick.
"A wonderful book - and perfect as an audiobook"
Much of the writing is done as if you were being spoken to. So naturally, when narrated as an audiobook, you often are being spoken to directly. A wonderful book and the perfect subject of an audiobook.
Listening to the narrator describe how she fell in love with a woman who at first intimidated her.
I very often laughed out loud in public. Quite embarrassing.
A great book. Even though it may be targetted at women, there is no reason a man cannot enjoy it and glean a great deal of wisdom from it.
This has opened my mind and changed my perspectives. My sincere thanks to the authors and the brave pioneers of open sexuality.
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