Does the fear of disappointing others keep you attached to people pleasing and perfectionism tendencies? This episode explores why disappointing people is key, if you want to make choices that feel true to you, as opposed to ones that just fulfil everyone else’s expectations.

Key takeaways from this episode:

• You’re not doing anything wrong when you disappoint people in your life and their reaction isn’t a sign you need to go against yourself.
• Moving away from people pleasing and perfectionism will require disappointing people - as icky and conflicting as it will feel initially, your mind and body will eventually come into harmony the more you practice making choices that come from within.
• The more willing you are to connect to you, your body, wants, needs and desires. the more likely disappointing others will happen. Anchoring into your intentions and why is key, especially when faced with their reactions.

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Ep 5: Is external validation the main ingredient or the cherry ontop of the cake?

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Book - Women Who Work Too Much

Substack post - The Courage to Disappoint

External validation isn’t a ‘bad’ thing, but is it keeping you attached to people pleasing behaviours? In this episode, I speak on the power of external validation and being affirmed by those around you, but also how being attached to people’s validations can be unhelpful, if you’re clinging onto what they say before understanding what you think and believe about something.

Key takeaways from this episode:

• External validation will always be based on someone else’s beliefs, views of the world and what they value.
• Being attached to people’s validation may hinder you from evolving your opinions, ideas and creative practice
• External validation gets to be cherry on top of the cake as opposed to a key part of the main ingredients.
• Asking yourself what you value, think and believe about something before is an effective practice to detach from external validation

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Connect with me on IG, I’d love to get to know you: @rakhisachdev_

Email me: hello@rakhisachdev.com

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Ep 3: Is the ‘perfect body’ actually about pleasing others?

If I said that your perfectionist and people pleasing tendencies have links to your relationship with your body, how does that land? In this episode I talk about the connection between these tendencies, how you’ve learnt to relate to your body and the notion of the ‘perfect body.’

Key takeaways from this episode:

• What you’ve learnt about what your body should like, doesn’t just come from the messages you’ve received, but also what you’ve observed with the close women in your life
• The very human want and need to feel like you’re accepted, loved and like you belong manifests in needing this ‘perfect body’
• Perfectionism and people pleasing are very closely linked -the 'perfect body' can be about wanting to elicit a response from the people around you, to ‘please’ them.
• Taking time to connect with your body on a deeper level then how it looks will help you come off this exhausting hamster wheel of perfection and people pleasing.

Connect with Rakhi:

Connect with me on IG, I’d love to get to know you: @rakhisachdev_

https://www.instagram.com/rakhisachdev_/

Email me: hello@rakhisachdev.com

Related episodes

Ep 1: A journey of a thousand miles: my people pleasing and perfectionist story