Jayson talks with Dr. Peter Levine about the subject of trauma. Peter shares the harrowing story of what happened when his father testified against the mafia and explains why he decided to get vulnerable about his trauma in his latest book, An Autobiography of Trauma: A Healing Journey. Jayson and Peter discuss how the perception of trauma has changed recently, the danger of retraumatizing people, the process of healing trauma, and why you should be careful about who you choose to share your trauma with. Don’t miss this powerful episode.

Timestamps:

• 4:05 - Why Peter decided to get vulnerable
• 11:39 - Is it important to tell your story?
• 18:15 - Testifying against the mafia
• 26:22 - Healing from trauma by sharing
• 34:29 - Relationships and trauma
• 40:46 - Trauma and association
• 50:07 - Retraumatizing people
• 59:21 - Action step

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• https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/
• https://traumahealing.org/
• Healing Trauma With Peter Levine - Peter Levine - 328
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What’s the #1 mistake people make after getting their feelings hurt? Jayson discusses how to handle hurt feelings, his experience with shutting down after experiencing hurt feelings, and how to work through hurt feelings. Tune in to find out how you can turn hurt feelings into an opportunity to grow into a more resilient, self-respecting, and confident person.

Timestamps:

• 3:09 - The mistake people make when their feelings get hurt
• 6:18 - Jayson's experience with hurt feelings
• 10:18 - Feel your feelings
• 14:47 - Takeaway

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Ellen Boeder interviews Johannah Reimer to find out how women can help teen girls. They discuss the unique problems that teen girls face today, the evolutionary mismatch between the environments we evolved in and modern life, the importance of doing hard things and Johannah’s Girls Group Facilitator Training, “Pathways to Womanhood”which is about guiding and supporting girls on their journey to womanhood.

Johannah is a soulcentric educator, ceremonialist, teen mentor, and an artist of many trades. Trained as a Waldorf teacher, Johannah has been working with children of all ages for over 20 years and holds a particular passion for tweens/teens striving to meet their developmental needs for mentorship and initiation in a culture that has forgotten how to do so. An apprentice of visionaries: Sage Hamilton and Melissa Michaels of SOMA Source, Johannah has worked for many years as a Waldorf teacher under the guidance of her elder Sage, and as an embodied leader for international youth in movement based Rites of Passage with Golden Bridge & Golden Girls Global.

Timestamps:

• 5:33 - Johannah's path to becoming an educator
• 13:19 - Why create girls' groups
• 26:56 - Evolutionary mismatch
• 30:20 - The value of doing hard things
• 34:22 - Becoming an entrepreneur
• 37:55 - What will people take from the training?
• 43:26 - Advice for teenage girls

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• Free Workshop on Becoming a Village Auntie
• Pathways to Womanhood ~ Girls Group Facilitator Training
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Jayson opens up about his recent prostate cancer diagnosis. He talks about the causes of cancer, letting people’s care in and his recommendations for how men should monitor their health as they age. This episode is a PSA for men over 40, if you haven’t been screened for cancer, now is the time.

Timestamps:

• 2:16 - Jayson's experience
• 6:34 - Causes of cancer
• 9:01 - Letting people's care in
• 12:15 - Recommendations for men over 40

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IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn:

• To see your partner as a sacred mirror and sanctuary for the growing your greatest actualized self
• The true characteristics of a long-term partnership
• How your partnership is the optimal container for complete transformation of yourself into the highest possible version imaginable
• How to fall in love and why this is more important than being married
• How to take radical responsibility for being loved in every moment of your life
• How to actually get your needs/wants met in a partnership
• How to know if conflict in your relationship is driving you toward or away from more magnificence

There’s a ton in this episode so dive in and go slow.

And, Here’s a great question from Annie to ask yourself if you are trying to decide to stay or leave:

Is the person I’m being called to become by what my partner’s asking me to become (if you take on the growth-development framework), will you become a more extraordinary version of yourself? If who they are asking you to become is a constricted, small, tight version of you, then this is probably not the person you want to be with.

However, if you identify as the smaller version of you, then, you are going to hear your partner’s feedback as criticism and blame and might make them wrong in the process. So, pay attention to these finer points.

Timestamps:

• 1:47 - What are we getting into when we say yes to long-term relationships?
• 6:04 - Becoming the best version of yourself
• 9:49 - Annie's story
• 16:48 - Taking responsibility when we don't feel loved
• 21:35 - Getting out of your victimhood
• 30:34 - When to leave

Links:

• Annie Lalla – Love Coach for Singles & Couples
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Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. Gabor Maté brings some very grounded, practical examples of how relationship stress can impact our lives. The result of stress can be seen throughout the web of our life and it’s up to us to learn how to relate and attach well to our fellow humans. I love how this man turns such complicated topics into common sense. If you want a deeper cut about your marriage, children, or any stressful relationship, this episode is a must listen.

SHOWNOTES

• What happens when Gabor’s wife forgets to pick him up at the airport. [8:30]
• How our partners are perfectly suited to help us grow. [10:35]
• What happened in Gabor’s childhood that makes his wife a perfect match for him now. [13:00]
• The long-term cost of not dealing with stress. [15:00]
• How parents can be compromised by raising their children. [17:30]
• The link between our relationship health and our physical and mental health. [19:30]
• What’s the best way to deal with our own relational and attachment issues? [29:00]
• Why relational healing modalities are so effective. [30:00]
• What we can learn from pygmy cultures about parenting and relationships. [32:30]
• How relationship can most effectively be taught to children. [34:00]
• The effect of Facebook and Internet on kids. [38:00]

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Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process.

Timestamps:

• 2:01 - Couples not making progress
• 7:36 - Doing the work
• 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples

Links:

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Irka and Eugene join Jayson to talk non-monogamy. Is monogamy inherently restrictive? Do people in polyamorous relationships have boundaries? Is non-hierarchical polyamory possible? What role does sexual exploration play in a polyamorous relationship? Is non-monogamy for you? Whether you’re monogamous or not, you’ll find plenty of wisdom in this insightful conversation.

Timestamps:

• 8:45 - Definitions and terms
• 11:40 - Boundaries
• 19:52 - Thirds
• 34:09 - Is monogamy inherently restrictive?
• 37:39 - Sexual exploration
• 42:27 - Is non-monogamy for you?
• 51:03 - Communication
• 53:51 - Advice for high school kids
• 57:45 - Links
• 59:15 - Action step

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• Covalent Life
• Ethical Monogamy
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