In today’s episode, we begin with a compelling excerpt from Dr. Gregory Serfer’s book, "I Am Still Right Here". Nicole and Bella sit down with Dr. Serfer to have a healthy conversation about his book and his experience of being in a relationship with a person with BPD (pwBPD). They reflect on ways to destigmatize BPD and provide advice and encouraging words to a pwBPD and their partners, friends, and family.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Guest:

• Dr. Gregory Serfer

Email: contact@gregoryserfer.com

Book: I Am Still Right Here: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT

Qoura: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-Serfer

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro
• 0:58 Trigger Warning
• 1:21 Excerpt of Chapter 1 of I Am Still Right Here

(Beginning of Interview)

• 6:38 Introduction of Dr. Gregory Serfer
• 11:04 The Creation of I Am Still Right Here
• 15:30 Qualities/Traits of BPD in Relationships
• 23:09 Practitioners' Attitude towards BPD and Personality Disorders
• 24:38 BPD Doesn't Define a Person
• 26:03 Idolization, Invalidation, and Disregard in BPD
• 37:03 Understanding Transient Feelings
• 45:08 Resilience in BPD
• 51:06 Suggestions for Stressful Medical Environments
• 1:04:16 Love Letter to BPD
• 1:06:40 Final Thoughts
• Dr. Serfer's Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 1:14:33 Outro
• 1:18:03 "Thinking Less" by Sinead Harnett Music: https://tinyurl.com/SineadHarnettMusic

Connect with the Hosts:

Bella Zimmerman

Email: bellagzimmerman@outlook.com

Website: holistichealingbeautifulbirths.clientsecure.me

Nicole

Email: presspause4grace@gmail.com

Website: https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Bella Zimmerman and Nicole

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole

Research Team: Nicole & Tamar Brignolle

Website Resources:

Bi-weekly Support Group (Wed): https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain

Support The Show:

Pandora, Amazon Music, Samsung Podcasts, iHeartRadio, Listen Notes

In this episode, we discuss the inception of our podcast title, "I Can’t Even Kill Myself Right," and feature an interview with our host, Nicole (AKA Sasha Fearce), conducted by her friend of 35 years Aseelah El-Amin. Nicole shares her journey as a BPD warrior, shedding light on the stigmas surrounding BPD, and how the diagnosis can impact personal journeys and relationships.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro
• 1:11 Sensitive Content Warning
• 1:21 BPD Episode: Crying in the Parking Lot

(Beginning of Interview)

• Intro
• How Did You Come Up with the Title, I Can’t Even Kill Myself Right?
• Who is Sasha Fearce?
• Misdiagnosis and Confirmation of BPD
• The Origin of BPD Diagnosis
• Does the Diagnosis Matter?
• Is There a Way to Prevent BPD?
• How Can You Decipher Between BPD Episodes and Everyday Emotions?
• When Do You Disclose BPD in New Relationships?
• Once You Disclose, What is the Ideal Response?

(End of Interview)

• BPD Daily Mantra
• Podcast Outro
• Music feature “Free” by Stephanie Mills: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QF4k5qPy-eM

Episode Resources:

- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

- Bi-weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain

- Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3

- Crisis Hotline - Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby

Email: presspause4grace@gmail.com

Website: https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Aseelah El-Amin and Nicole Darby

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Editor: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Tamar Brignolle

Support The Show:

Spotify:

Apple Podcast:

YouTube: Coming Soon

Website: ​​https://www.showmegrace.org/coming-soon-01

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