Rae Monet (@raemonet_), a Denver poet, speaker, spiritual healer, artist, and podcast host of the Sol Series Podcast, joins me today!

We had a conversation about:

* how our work as spiritual healers and artists taught us to value our own words and worth,

* finding and defining our version of "getting there" and what that means for our goals and mental health,

* learning that your purpose is just as vibrant even when you're not creating,

* loving ourselves as multidisciplinary artists instead of feeling "unfocused" by our different goals.

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About Becoming Enough:

The Becoming Enough podcast teaches you how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs and worthiness wounds.

You’ll find discussions that validate your internal experience as a black sheep and dive deep into the journey of self-actualization and sovereignty.

Roshni, your host, wholeheartedly believes that high self-worth is your ticket to true liberation. If you want to regain your power, this podcast is for you.

Ready to leave your low self-worth behind for good? Visit ⁠⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience.com⁠⁠⁠ to learn how you can work with Roshni one-on-one through ⁠⁠⁠self-worth coaching sessions⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠tarot readings⁠⁠⁠ and finally step into the most powerful and confident version of you.

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About this episode:

We're wrapping up eclipse season, and the topic heavy on my heart this week is self-abandonment.

If you've ever felt completely disconnected from your intuition or lost and purposeless, it may be because you were taught to abandon yourself.

Even if you feel rooted in your purpose, you may find it difficult to trust yourself or the world around you when things don't go your way. This immediate shift into fear and self-doubt is another sign that you're afraid you may abandon yourself (again).

This episode explores why black sheep have a unique relationship to self-abandonment because of the homes that we were raised in, and how that can manifest in many different ways as adults.

You might be the black-sheep-turned-perfectionist, who is constantly seeking control and order and turns to shame and criticism when things go awry.

Or you could be the destructive black sheep who defies rules and authority but often tends to cut people off too soon and walks a line of hyperindependence and self-sabotage.

You could even be the Fixer-Upper black sheep who is ready to jump into fix-it mode when it comes to everyone else's life, but is way too stubborn to be present with your own issues.

This is one of the most important episodes I've released this season, and I hope it inspires you to answer the call within.

About Becoming Enough:

The Becoming Enough podcast teaches you how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs and worthiness wounds.

You’ll find discussions that validate your internal experience as a black sheep and dive deep into the journey of self-actualization and sovereignty.

Roshni, your host, wholeheartedly believes that high self-worth is your ticket to true liberation. If you want to regain your power, this podcast is for you.

Ready to leave your low self-worth behind for good? Visit ⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience.com⁠⁠ to learn how you can work with Roshni one-on-one through ⁠⁠self-worth coaching sessions⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠tarot readings⁠⁠ and finally step into the most powerful and confident version of you.

⁠⁠Download the FREE Bye-Bye Binary Thinking Workbook⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book Self-Worth Coaching with Roshni⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book A Tarot Reading with Roshni⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Face the Stillness is a 5-week, 1:1 coaching program to guide you through the fears, feelings, and beliefs you've been avoiding.

As Black Sheep and survivors of trauma, we can hold onto the need to escape. Running away has come easy to me because of my past, but I've never been able to run fast enough to escape my demons.

I know how hard it is to face those inner voices. I know how much your life is arranged around avoiding them.

The constant music and shows and podcasts (lol) in your ear, the ridiculously-busy schedule, the partying, the effort you put into making sure you're alone or in a silent space truly creeps up on you.

Soon enough it's been weeks, months, or even years since you've slowed down long enough to hear your thoughts or feel your feelings.

My goal is to provide you with a sense of safety, guidance, and nervous system regulation tools to help you open the door to these thoughts and emotions without feeling overwhelmed. Learn more and complete your application by April 19th.

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Let's talk about how to coach yourself from a place of feeling stuck, stagnant, anxious, or just generally having a breakdown to a lesson that changes your life.

It's possible and something I've been doing for years. I walked through this exact process today and uncovered a hidden trigger. Uncovering this truth about myself led me to feel so empowered because now I know how to better advocate for myself and make decisions that support the wounded parts of myself.

I break down the entire process for you in this episode - be sure to grab your journal so you don't miss a thing.

Get comfy, baddies - we're introspecting!

About Becoming Enough:

The Becoming Enough podcast teaches you how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs and worthiness wounds.

You’ll find discussions that validate your internal experience as a black sheep and dive deep into the journey of self-actualization and sovereignty.

Roshni, your host, wholeheartedly believes that high self-worth is your ticket to true liberation. If you want to regain your power, this podcast is for you.

Ready to leave your low self-worth behind for good? Visit ⁠BlackSheepExperience.com⁠ to learn how you can work with Roshni one-on-one through ⁠self-worth coaching sessions⁠ or ⁠tarot readings⁠ and finally step into the most powerful and confident version of you.

⁠Download the FREE Bye-Bye Binary Thinking Workbook⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠Book Self-Worth Coaching with Roshni⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠Book A Tarot Reading with Roshni⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠Black Sheep Experience Website⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience TikTok⁠⁠⁠

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Let's talk about HYPERINDEPENDENCE!

Hyperindependence is a survival mechanism for many black sheep. But as we age, it becomes a form of self-sabotage.

Your sensitive inner child had to fight for control and learn to survive around people they didn't trust. They had to learn how to rely on themselves - and only themselves - for almost everything.

As we get older and escape our troubled homes, we realize that chosen family and community is a new method of survival. But this contradicts almost everything we've learned in our past.

This episode dives into hyperindependence, where it stems from, how to recognize it, and how to heal from your wound of isolation and hyperindependence.

If you enjoyed the episode, don't forget to leave a review!

(Approximate) Timestamps:

1:00 - 12:30 What childhood experiences create hyperindependence?

12:30 - 22:00 How hyperindependence becomes a pattern in adulthood

22:00 - 32:00 Qualities of someone with hyperindependence

32:00 - 36:30 Hyperindependence in my relationship

36:30 - 52:43 Actionable steps to heal from your hyperindependence

About Becoming Enough:

The Becoming Enough podcast teaches you how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs and worthiness wounds.

You’ll find discussions that validate your internal experience as a black sheep and dive deep into the journey of self-actualization and sovereignty.

Roshni, your host, wholeheartedly believes that high self-worth is your ticket to true liberation. If you want to regain your power, this podcast is for you.

Ready to leave your low self-worth behind for good? Visit BlackSheepExperience.com to learn how you can work with Roshni one-on-one through self-worth coaching sessions or tarot readings and finally step into the most powerful and confident version of you.

Download the FREE Bye-Bye Binary Thinking Workbook⁠⁠

⁠⁠Book Self-Worth Coaching with Roshni⁠

⁠⁠Book A Tarot Reading with Roshni⁠⁠

⁠⁠Black Sheep Experience Website⁠⁠

⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience TikTok⁠⁠

⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience Instagram

Welcome to this guest episode with Dominiece Clifton!

In this episode, Dominiece and I discuss:

• How your intuition and nervous system go hand-in-hand in guiding us towards our alignment and manifestations - and how that often comes with feeling a deep sense of fear. 
• How a feeling of uneasiness or difficulty doesn’t meant that you’re not “healed enough,” it can actually be a sign that you’re challenging yourself and growing in a really beautiful way, and how
• Working on your nervous system allows you to move past the fear and ‘negative’ emotions to commit to the bigger plan of your life.

Dominiece shared so many wonderful nuggets of wisdom with us in this episode, and I hope you're able to take away as much knowledge and inspiration as I did!

About Dominiece:

Dominiece Clifton is on a mission to guide others to find healing and to re-writing their narratives.  A student of the school of life, she is always learning, evolving, and shedding layers.  Dominiece is a spiritual guide and healing vessel, passionate about inspiring women to live heart-led lives.  As a yoga, meditation, and breathwork facilitator, she promotes an integrated approach to healing that prioritizes emotional well-being for the mind, body, and spirit. Today, Dominiece is the founder of Move And Still, Nourish Wellness Collective, host of The School of Healing Podcast, and author of Hold Space to Heal.

Find Dominiece's Instagram here and find her book, podcast, her oracle deck, and more here!

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I am so excited for this episode because I brought my partner on the pod for the first time!

In this episode we talked about relationship myths, why so much of what we're taught about relationships in media is fake, and how navigating a real, loving relationship will always get messy.

Because I researched common relationship myths in society, many of these myths do touch on hetero stereotypes, but much of the advice we shared can be applied to LGBTQ+ relationships as well!

We touched on:

• navigating hyper-independence as a black sheep and why you should feel comfortable needing your partner,
• being co-dependent vs. being dependent on your partner in a healthy way,
• the myth that if you're in a long-term relationship and you're not married, that you're not a "real" or valid relationship,
• why it's important to understand and value your partner's mental health overall and validate their mental health struggles,
• taking accountability in relationships, and
• how believing "men are trash" can be a tricky belief when you're actively dating and looking for a male partner.

BTW - If you're struggling with believing a lot of the myths we shared in this episode, I highly recommend downloading my FREE PDF titled "Bye-Bye Binary Thinking!"

This free workbook will walk you through the all-or-nothing beliefs that you hold, and you can tailor your journaling to the black-and-white beliefs you uphold around dating & relationships. Releasing your black-and-white thinking and creating more room for nuance will make your brain a much softer place to be.

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YOUR BLACK-AND-WHITE THINKING IS KEEPING YOU STAGNANT!

Feeling like you won't date someone unless they're perfect, or that you'll get fired for making a single mistake at work, or that your friends hate you because they didn't show up in the way you expected are all examples of black-and-white thinking.

This frame of mind holds you back from SO much in your life because you're projecting past experiences on future ones, and the projections are SO extreme (all-or-nothing) that you give up on your desires altogether.

But this is NOT what we do around here!! Black Sheep have big goals, and we're only going to reach them if we leave the black-and-white thinking in the past.

Download the FREE 'Bye Bye Binary Thinking' PDF!

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SOURCES:

https://psychcentral.com/health/all-or-nothing-thinking-examples

https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/traumaptsdblog/2019/1/finding-gray-in-black-and-white-thinking-in-complex-ptsd

https://psychcentral.com/health/how-does-black-and-white-thinking-impact-us

https://themighty.com/topic/mental-health/childhood-abuse-splitting-black-white-thinking/