No Visible Bruises

What We Don't Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us

De: Rachel Louise Snyder

Narrado por: Rachel Louise Snyder

An award-winning journalist's intimate investigation of the true scope of domestic violence, revealing how the roots of America's most pressing social crises are buried in abuse that happens behind closed doors.

We call it domestic violence. We call it private violence. Sometimes we call it intimate terrorism. But whatever we call it, we generally do not believe it has anything at all to do with us, despite the World Health Organization deeming it a 'global epidemic'. In America, domestic violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime, and yet it remains locked in silence, even as its tendrils reach unseen into so many of our most pressing national issues, from our economy to our education system, from mass shootings to mass incarceration to #MeToo. We still have not taken the true measure of this problem.

In No Visible Bruises, journalist Rachel Louise Snyder gives context for what we don't know we're seeing. She frames this urgent and immersive account of the scale of domestic violence in our country around key stories that explode the common myths - that if things were bad enough, victims would just leave; that a violent person cannot become nonviolent; that shelter is an adequate response; and most insidiously that violence inside the home is a private matter, sealed from the public sphere and disconnected from other forms of violence.

Through the stories of victims, perpetrators, law enforcement and reform movements from across the country, Snyder explores the real roots of private violence, its far-reaching consequences for society and what it will take to truly address it.

©2019 Rachel Louise Snyder (P)2019 Audible, Ltd

Learned so much, one bone to pick

I learned so much from this book, especially since it explains so much about the mentality of the abused. It is easy for people to say "if it was that bad, she would leave", but now I know that in most cases they stay because they are bargaining for their life and/or trying to give stability to their children. I would have never understood why the abused stay without this book. This book has given invaluable knowledge that I hope will make me better both professionally and personally. I have only one bone to pick: as a woman who owns an AR 15 and is planning on purchasing a hand gun, I hated that this book mentioned multiple times that the problem is the guns. Twice it mentions that there was a study where a guy asked 14 prisoners who murdered their spouses if they would have killed their wives if they didn't have a gun and 11 said "no". There is literally no way to prove that they would/or would not have killed their spouse without a gun, and I would take a murderer's words with a grain of salt. Also, in the afterward it mentioned that France and Spain have rising domestic violence, these two countries have some of the strictest gun laws in Europe, but don't take my word for it look it up. The problem begins with youth seeing violence and normalizing violence until adulthood, this book made that very evident. We need schools to teach the elements of healthy realtionships for both male and female adolescents. I feel empowered with my guns, and I truly believe that guns are the great equalizer. Guns can empower women if they go through training on how to use it and when to use it, especially women who have fled a domestic violence relationship and are starting their new life without the abuser. There are plenty of places that train women specifically on how to use guns, what kind is right for them, and when to use it. Other than the anti-gun agenda, I have gained invaluable knowledge from this book and will continue to reflect on all of these women's stories in hopes that one day domestic violence will have ZERO tolerance in our society. Thank you Rachel Snyder for sharing these stories and bringing light to this topic.

A must read for everyone

The statistics will blow your mind. This extremely timely book answers both questions: Why she stays and Why he doesn't leave and offers ways to help them both escape alive.

A book with the power to transform men.

Any man who truly wants to be a better man, a more supportive partner and an effective parent, but doesn't know where to begin, should start with this book.

loved it engaging interesting

I t reminds me to never get into an abusive relationshipever again.I can be miserable by myself .this book was a wake-up call for me.I t was very helpful to me.

Abuse

As a person who is a survivor of abuse, this book helped me recognize signs of abuse I have experienced. I know I’m not alone.