The Four Things That Matter Most 10th Anniversary Edition

A Book About Living

By: Ira Byock MD

Narrated by: Barry Abrams

Four simple phrases - "Please forgive me", "I forgive you", "Thank you", and "I love you" - carry enormous power to mend and nurture our relationships and inner lives. These four phrases and the sentiments they convey provide a path to emotional well-being, guiding us through interpersonal difficulties to life with integrity and grace.

Dr. Ira Byock, an international leader in palliative care, explains how we can practice these life-affirming words in our day-to-day lives. Too often we assume that the people we love really know that we love them. Dr. Byock demonstrates the value of "stating the obvious" and provides practical insights into the benefits of letting go of old grudges and toxic emotions. His stories help us to forgive, appreciate, love, and celebrate one another and live life more fully.

Using the Four Things in a wide range of life situations, we can experience emotional healing even in the wake of family strife, personal tragedy, divorce, or in the face of death. With practical wisdom and spiritual power, The Four Things That Matter Most gives us the language and guidance to honor and experience what really matters most in our lives every day.

©2014 Ira Byock, MD (P)2017 Tantor

All of us will one day be faced with our goodbyes.

For all caregivers, the medical community, the nursing home workers and especially Hospice .
For husband's, wives, children, grandchildren.
For significant others, close friends.
Now is the time to say the four things that matter.

Words for everyone to live by

Maybe we have all heard and hopefully shared these words with our loved ones but the reminder is great. Please forgive me. I forgive you. Thank you. I love you and finally goodbye

Part of the Palliative Care System

For someone very sick, this was an incredibly difficult listen but very valuable. It has helped me adjust my journey forward, family and friends relationships. A very positive important message that hit home.

A Must Have

Aide yourself and other who are experiencing anticipatory grief. Great tool to have in your praxis or toolbox as a doctor, therapist or even a pastor / chaplain. Highly recommended!

Must read

The 4 things are a must. Take time to read this book. You won’t be disappointed.