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New York Times best seller • The founder of the first female-focused recovery program offers a groundbreaking look at alcohol and a radical new path to sobriety.

"You don’t know how much you need this book, or maybe you do. Either way, it will save your life." (Melissa Hartwig Urban, Whole30 co-founder and CEO)

We live in a world obsessed with drinking. We drink at baby showers and work events, brunch and book club, graduations and funerals. Yet no one ever questions alcohol’s ubiquity - in fact, the only thing ever questioned is why someone doesn’t drink. It is a qualifier for belonging and if you don’t imbibe, you are considered an anomaly. As a society, we are obsessed with health and wellness, yet we uphold alcohol as some kind of magic elixir, though it is anything but.

When Holly Whitaker decided to seek help after one too many benders, she embarked on a journey that led not only to her own sobriety, but revealed the insidious role alcohol plays in our society and in the lives of women in particular. What’s more, she could not ignore the ways that alcohol companies were targeting women, just as the tobacco industry had successfully done generations before. Fueled by her own emerging feminism, she also realized that the predominant systems of recovery are archaic, patriarchal, and ineffective for the unique needs of women and other historically oppressed people - who don’t need to lose their egos and surrender to a male concept of God, as the tenets of Alcoholics Anonymous state, but who need to cultivate a deeper understanding of their own identities and take control of their lives.

When Holly found an alternate way out of her own addiction, she felt a calling to create a sober community with resources for anyone questioning their relationship with drinking, so that they might find their way as well. Her resultant feminine-centric recovery program focuses on getting at the root causes that lead people to overindulge and provides the tools necessary to break the cycle of addiction, showing us what is possible when we remove alcohol and destroy our belief system around it.

Written in a relatable voice that is honest and witty, Quit Like a Woman is at once a groundbreaking look at drinking culture and a road map to cutting out alcohol in order to live our best lives without the crutch of intoxication. You will never look at drinking the same way again.

©2020 Holly Whitaker (P)2020 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

"An unflinching examination of how our drinking culture hurts women and a gorgeous memoir of how one woman healed herself. It will change your relationship with alcohol - and it has the power to change your relationship with your entire life." (Glennon Doyle, number one New York Times best-selling author of Love Warrior and founder of Together Rising)

"A funny, fast-paced, and bracingly candid dispatch from the realm of the self-actualized, but Holly Whitaker is no polished model of self-help evangelism, nor is her memoir-manifesto selling a one-size-fits-all solution. Her story is a messy human one and all the more convincing that sobriety is a feminist issue." (Melissa Febos, author of Whip Smart and Abandon Me)

"As a culture, we have a weird and often dysfunctional relationship with alcohol. This thoughtful, moving book will help a lot of people get to a healthier place." (Johann Hari, author of Chasing the Scream and Lost Connections)

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Just as women have spent the past few decades being marketed wine and cocktails as uniquely suited to their lifestyle, many are now questioning narrow treatments for alcohol abuse and proposing another way. The growing genre of "Quit Lit" runneth over with audiobooks, memoirs, and podcasts specifically for women—and whether you’re detoxing for Dry January, moderating, or trying to quit for good, they could be exactly what you need to hear.

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you had me until the last chapter

this book is utterly life changing, but the last chapter left me not wanting to recommend this book to anyone. I'm so sick of people, especially other white women, telling white straight women that they need to feel bad for their quote unquote privilege. it's not my fault I was born a female who is sexually attracted to men. it's not my fault I am white. I am so sick of this nonsense. completely unnecessary for this book. sadly, I cant recommend it all the way through. however, if you have found that AA doesnt work for you, like it didnt work for me, holly does a fantastic job of explaining WHY that is for many women. I came to this book with 2+ years of sobriety and found that the message sums up exactly how I feel about traditional therapy for alcohol. they dont work for me, at all. I also dont believe there is such thing as an alcoholic. many of her truths come from Allen Carr, who personally got me sober. it's worth the listen, but if you dont want to feel bad about being a white woman, skip the last chapter.

edit: I echo the other one star reviews that talk about Holly's utter hatred of anyone not extreme left. I consider myself a democrat and I was so turned off by her political nonsense. the more I think about her book, the more I wonder if she is actually better when she clearly hates so many people. two stars.

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Good message sans the politics...

This book has some good messages, but the authors political views were just too much.

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If you question your drinking in anyway, I highly recommend.

This is a lot to unpack, but done very, very well. I’ve been craving a study of the history of alcohol in the US, its place in our culture and the science of alcohol. I was thrilled to find out the author was writing this, because I enjoyed her blog writing back when it was Hip Sobriety. There is a lot of information out there on this subject as medical views in alcohol are slowly changing (see WHO) and more people are “sober curious”, but this packages all of that so well. This was well researched and also asks some very poignant questions.

I stumbled upon the author three or four years ago through her blog, and thought she was on to something and liked her writing style. I’m happy to see that she continued down a path of exploring why we even drink in the first place and why we are so obsessed with alcohol as a culture.

This is also a great push to recovery if you are a woman struggling with alcohol and are open and ready to hear some truth. This book is like having a deep dive of her blog all in one spot. I read Holly’s blog back in the day when I knew alcohol just had to go, and it was truly the first thing that ever made real sense. This book would have been wonderful to have back then, but it doesn’t hurt to hear again and reaffirms that a holistic approach to sobriety works, because it did for me. FYI, you don’t have to hit some crazy “rock bottom” to question the role of alcohol in your life.

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Thorough, Real, Exuberant

Super epic feast for the senses. Whitaker has talents galore in writing, speaking, researching, and recovering. I've been a fan of hers since finding her bold, outspoken blog back in 2015 and then moving onto her groundbreaking podcast Home. I'm glad more voices about addiction are coming to the table in the 21st century-- because clearly the problem is as raging as ever and needs all hands on deck. And finally, finally, finally a plethora of known and respected addiction recovery thought leaders all drive home the idea of unaddressed trauma as spurring the need for numbing in the first place. The war on drugs is fundamentally a war on adults with unhealed childhood wounding and subsequent failing coping skills to mask it. My God, we might actually be getting somewhere with traction and momentum if we figure that bit out.

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More about feminism than sobriety

This book became extremely "gaggy" somewhere around the 8th chapter. There was more complaining about women's rights than anything else and the only takeaway I got from this is that I'm not a feminist...

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Worth the listen; many insights

Tons of very sharp insights about our drinking culture and the difficulty of stepping out of it. I likely would have rated the whole book "excellent" if I had read it rather than listened to it. The author has enough vocal fry to occasionally annoy the ear -- but it's not so extreme that I couldn't listen.
She writes frankly of the insidious social pressures of drinking. These can be difficult to present in a persuasive manner, but Holly Whitaker does a great job illustrating of how drinkers respond to the non-drinker -- often in patronizing, objectifying ways. She's also dead-on in her reactions to how we've got it twisted -- that it's not normal at all to imbibe poison in the form of ethyl alcohol, but it's considered "defective" if a person "can't handle" or "moderate" her intake of a lethal substance.
I really like her take on A.A. and the patriarchal approach it takes -- teaching the humility that many men need, but also expecting it of women, whose very humility and expectations are already suppressing their health and well-being.

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A Must Read

One of the most poignant reasons to read the book is stated in Chapter 2 (slightly paraphrased for length): “We read labels. We shun gluten, dairy, processed foods, and refined sugars. We buy organic, use natural sunscreen, and worry about fluoride in our water and smog in our air. We do yoga and run, SoulCycle and Fitbit, we do Paleo and Keto, we juice, we cleanse. We follow Goop and drop $40 on an exercise class because there are healing crystals in the floor. We are on an endless and expensive quest for wellness. … And we drink f***ing rocket fuel.”

Does that speak to you? The Fitbit-obsessed label-reader in me feels very called out. QLAW is well-researched and includes information on a variety of topics, from neuropathways and the importance of nutrition to navigating complicated familial relations and the impact of the cultural marginalization of women and other groups such as POC and LGBTQIA+ communities. (Yes, drinking is a feminist issue. If you wanna stick it to the patriarchy, start here.)

That said, regardless of your gender or relationship with alcohol, if you want to have a balanced, healthy life, aware of the marketing and cultural messages you're bombarded with about alcohol, this book is for you.

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Holly Whitaker, role model

I was so happy to get this long-awaited book this morning! I listened to it all day!

She didn't disappoint, embodies an aspect of every woman in all of us, funny, sensitive, intelligent, vulnerable - and brave. And she meets the challenge of alcohol head on - while remaining relatable. I look forward to more of her works and reading (which is gentle and pleasing to listen to)

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Read by an Angry Woman on a Mission

This books has a couple really good insights and recommendations- but mostly it is read by an angry feminist on a mission. Her tone was abrasive and upsetting at times - and her recommendation for moms when trying to quit was basically to pass them off to other people and focus on yourself. If you’re looking for an amazing book that shares the same information with joy and grace, try the Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Katherine Gray.

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Perfect for any rehabilitation of any kind.

I wouldn’t say I was an alcoholic, maybe drinking once or twice a week with friends. However, I noticed my mental state and moods were being affected and I couldn’t figure out why. I tried this book because I thought it was the drinking, however, it wasn’t just drinking. It was a multitude of things. This book helped me identify them and work through it. If you’re struggling with anything in your life NOT just drinking. I highly highly recommend!!!

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