Not Drinking Tonight

A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love

De: Amanda E. White LPC LPC

Narrado por: Amanda E. White LPC LPC, Suehyla El-Attar

In this honest discussion of mental health, the founder of Therapy for Women explores our reasons for drinking alcohol—and the benefits of taking a break.

When “retired party girl” and popular therapist Amanda White admitted she was an alcoholic, it wasn’t because she’d done something outrageous while under the influence, like land herself in jail or get married in Vegas. It was because she realized three things: 1. Alcohol was making her life worse. 2. Moderation wasn’t helping. 3. She could not be a therapist if she continued to use alcohol to numb her life. Something needed to change—not just her relationship with alcohol, but her relationship with herself.

Choosing not to drink can be daunting. It’s everywhere in our culture, our socializing, and our destressing. And it can seem black or white: you drink, or you don’t (and if you don’t, people ask why). That’s where Not Drinking Tonight comes in. Judgement-free and relatable, Amanda helps you unpack your relationship with alcohol by showing you how to:

1. Find out why you drink. Whether it’s a glass of wine after work or a weekly bar crawl, your drinking habits can be the result of everything from biology to trauma.
2. Heal your relationship with alcohol. Understand how your relationships have been affecting your life, and learn how to set boundaries and create true self care.
3. Build the sober life you love. Learn what comes next—how to maintain your social life, navigate sex and relationships, and love yourself.

Not Drinking Tonight isn’t a program to stop drinking. It’s the first book to help you address the root issues that cause you to reach for a drink, and create a life you love—one that is not perfect, but is messy and real and one you are fully present for.

Reseñas de la Crítica

“Not Drinking Tonight is a wonderful guide to setting healthy boundaries with alcohol—and yourself. Amanda helps you dig into the root of your struggles to better understand why you drink and why you might want to stop--setting you up for a more fulfilling life all around, even if you don’t choose full sobriety. Readers will gain the self-awareness, compassion, and confidence to make choices that better serve them.”—Nedra Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

"Anyone wanting to change their relationship with alcohol must be willing to do some deep self-examination. Amanda White’s multi-layered approach offers empowerment, experience, and wisdom to those looking to begin their own journeys."—Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind and The Alcohol Experiment

“A knowledgeable, compassionate, and supportive guide. With a wealth of examples, tools, practices, and new ways of relating to both alcohol and the self, Not Drinking Tonight will be an accessible and revelatory balm for anyone questioning the kind of life they want to create outside of drinking.”—Lisa Olivera, LMFT, author of Already Enough

"Amanda White is a gentle and wise guide on the journey toward living a sober or sober curious life. Not Drinking Tonight is full of relatable client stories and practical tools you can begin integrating immediately. A must read for anyone reconsidering their relationship with alcohol."—Vienna Pharaon, LMFT, founder of @mindfulmft and author of Origins of You

“I truly believe that anyone will benefit from reading this book, regardless of their relationship with alcohol. This book is such a great, relatable resource that will help us cultivate more self-awareness and compassion, while gently examining our relationship with alcohol, and ourselves.”—Caroline Dooner, author of the bestselling book The F*ck It Diet

“Not Drinking Tonight is the book for anyone questioning their relationship with alcohol or other addictive behaviors. I love how this book pushes us to examine what we’ve been taught about alcohol, how it’s impacting us, and what we can do about it. This guide will help anyone who's ever felt stuck in their drinking habits, without slapping on scary labels or prescribing full sobriety.”—Whitney Goodman, LMFT, founder of @sitwithwhit and author of Toxic Positivity

Great tool for those looking to explore their drinking habits

I found so much information in this book that can be applied to more than just drinking. The tools and information within the pages are very useful and I plan on using them to help me in moving forward in my own life.

Useful In So Many Ways

This book is excellent for everyone. Whether you seek sobriety or personal growth, this book is a worthy read. Amanda has a way of saying things that make this book relatable. I have read the hard copy and listened to the audiobook.
I highly recommend it.

More great ammunition!

I enjoyed listening to this title although a few of the personal stories were repetitive. Maybe someday Amanda can talk with 50yrs + women. Thank you though for more reasons to stay sober at day 80!!

As a white woman, I felt very disrespected

Much of the message of this book really resonated. I had to stop listening in chapter 10. The way she spoke about marginalized humans and their boundaries really made me feel like I did not have the right to feel disrespected by others, because I’m not “a marginalized person”. I’m a typical middle class hard-working white woman who is not racist not angry, and not bad person. I have had experiences with trauma, having boundaries, violated, been touched without my permission, including my hair, and I’ve been in places and situations where I felt like a minority, and I felt unsafe. Just because I’m white does not mean that I can’t feel hurt, unsafe, or violated. I understand that it appears that I have all the privilege in the world, but I’ve been extremely hurt and traumatized by my own people and culture as many of us have. I have also been treated poorly by people of other cultures. I choose to look at all of the positive interactions. I’ve had with all the humans in my life and be thankful for those and based my actions and interactions on that history.

Great read

This was a great book! I felt like it was too short I wanted it to keep going. She’s a great writer and had so many amazing takeaways.

Good!!!!

This is a great book to anyone to be a better and real person! Thank you

Informative & helpful

Really loved this book. Very insightful and informative. Helpful tips & did a great job explaining alcohol overall.

Everyone can benefit from this book

So so good. Replace alcohol with anything you used to cope and you can benefit from this book. Touches on so many aspects of life and encourages along the way.

Generally good advice for living

Not judgmental and relatable women and concerns and fears. A good gentle prodding to taking a real look in the mirror and get to the real reasons for wanting to escape life and blunt stress and anxiety.

Loved it!

I really enjoyed how the author incorporated real life people and made it feel like a short scene out of therapy sessions to illustrate scenarios. Although the characters didn't hit in my exact situation, there were lessons from each that I could reate to. I enjoyed this book very much!