Dirty Laundry

Why Adults with ADHD Are so Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help

By: Richard Pink, Roxanne Pink

Narrated by: Richard Pink, Roxanne Pink

Length: 4 hrs and 2 mins

Publisher's summary

Brought to you by Penguin.

If you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships.

Do you feel crippling shame because you struggle with cleaning, personal hygiene, or time-keeping? Do you always feel misunderstood by the people close to you and find that they get frustrated by your behaviour?

DIRTY LAUNDRY is an unfiltered look into the chaos of real life with ADHD. It will transform your self-hatred into self-acceptance, with simple tips that actually work for your brain. It will also help to educate partners, parents and friends, to help them move from frustration to patience, understanding - and love.

Learn how to:

• Stop believing you are fundamentally broken
• Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world
• Communicate your struggles to those who love you
• Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them
• Be compassionate rather than judgemental
• ...and much more.

From the husband-and-wife team behind social media phenomenon @ADHD_Love, whose viral videos have been viewed more than 200 million times, comes a fearless, often outrageously funny, account of life, learning, and growing with ADHD. They share the strategies they have used to reduce shame, improve communication, and find happiness in their neurodivergent household.

Filled with heartbreak and humour in equal measure, DIRTY LAUNDRY is an invaluable resource both for neurodivergents and the people who love them.

©2023 Richard Pink and Roxanne Emery (P)2023 Penguin Audio

absolutely loved it!

great from being to the end. I now know I'm not alone. thank you

I’m not alone, and I can’t stop crying

I believe I’m undiagnosed, but everything. I mean everything in this book I can relate too, and this book has moved me to wanting to find therapy. Thank you rox, for giving words to my world.

A pleasure to listen to!

The romantic partner dynamic is what pulled me into listening to this great book! It helped me to understand myself and how my very compassionate partner feels about me sometimes. It also helped me to better understand my daughter and sisters with adhd. I highly recommend it!

I cried all the way through!

As an adult woman with adhd, I’ve spent my whole life battling shame. Even knowing I had adhd for most of my life, it was still a deep point of shame and something I only talked about almost in a whisper. This book pulled my struggles out into the open and shed glorious light onto all the hidden parts and let them simply… be. All the tips were spot on and frankly practical. Every little bit I would burst into tears again because there was hope. This was real. Not some excuse I came up with to get out of things. (Something I was constantly accused of by parents, partners, and educators over the years.) Realizing my brain is not bad, it’s just got some major differences, felt so validating. I cannot recommend this book enough! And it was a pleasure to listen to. Richard and Rox bring their signature sound and humor to every moment so that listening to this book is like getting to hang with them over coffee. I will be pulling this one out to listen to over and over. Well worth the credit!

Best book on ADHD ever!

I laughed and cried on and off through the entire book. Never before has a book made me feel seen, didn't even think that was possible. Now only to persuade my so to listen to it as well 😅 Really glad you read it yourselves, you guys are so great and I truly love following you on SoMe 🥰

Please get it translated to Norwegian as well so I can buy copies for my entire family

Brilliant funny relatable educating

This book meant so much to me this is the first Audible review I have done in 10 yrs and over 350 books. After researching how to write a review (because that’s what we do) I am still at a loss. Rox & Richard tell the story of living w/ ADHD & living w/ someone who has ADHD. They tell it with compassion grit honesty & humor. I laughed, I cried & I related to Rox as a late dx ADHDer. I also learned a lot from Richard because I live w/ ADHDers . Absolutely brilliant!

Useful and concise, a light read

Excellent book on what life with ADHD is like and how to support those with it. Just as delightful as their TikTok videos. A quick listen that will help the person WITH ADHD to see their difficulties in a new light.

man i love this book!

Just the intro alone was so impactful! It makes me feel so understood and sad at the same time. Thank you for this creation!

Codependency at its finest

Having been diagnosed with ADHD as a child in the early 1990s, before it was cool for girls to have it, I know how she feels. What I don’t understand is how she simply just crumbles into herself when she’s lost or fails to act. That’s not a symptom of ADHD. That’s a personality trait. I have time
Blindness and get lost but don’t let those moments run my life. I will NOT back down and I will not be afraid. Even when I scared and overwhelmed. I’ve learned coping skills like strict routine adherence and making “safe” places for my important items. And to do things “right now”. I still am the boss of task avoidance. I wish they’d have focused more on the uncontrollable thoughts and how forgetting isn’t just you losing you keys. It’s forgetting a change you made at work, forgetting if you locked your car so you have to check 300x. Forgetting to eat, then over eating. I hope this dynamic works for them and overall it’s a great book. It’s just, she needs to woman up. I’m 42 years old and every single time I catch I’m having an adhd moment, I woman up. I’m not going to back down in the face of this beautiful but stressful gift I’ve been given. And also, stop focusing on how she’s not a gifted child. That makes it seem like all adhd kids aren’t really gifted kids. She probably actually IS gifted and has robbed herself of that. I was actually a gifted child. And I push myself everyday to see how much more this super smart ADHD brain can absorb.

I feel so... normalized 😭

Never in my life have I felt so understood. This has been refreshingly life altering. God bless you both!