Dirty Laundry

Why Adults with ADHD Are so Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help

De: Richard Pink, Roxanne Emery

Narrado por: Richard Pink, Roxanne Emery

Brought to you by Penguin.

If you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships.

Do you feel crippling shame because you struggle with cleaning, personal hygiene, or time-keeping? Do you always feel misunderstood by the people close to you and find that they get frustrated by your behaviour?

DIRTY LAUNDRY is an unfiltered look into the chaos of real life with ADHD. It will transform your self-hatred into self-acceptance, with simple tips that actually work for your brain. It will also help to educate partners, parents and friends, to help them move from frustration to patience, understanding - and love.

Learn how to:

• Stop believing you are fundamentally broken
• Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world
• Communicate your struggles to those who love you
• Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them
• Be compassionate rather than judgemental
• ...and much more.

From the husband-and-wife team behind social media phenomenon @ADHD_Love, whose viral videos have been viewed more than 200 million times, comes a fearless, often outrageously funny, account of life, learning, and growing with ADHD. They share the strategies they have used to reduce shame, improve communication, and find happiness in their neurodivergent household.

Filled with heartbreak and humour in equal measure, DIRTY LAUNDRY is an invaluable resource both for neurodivergents and the people who love them.

©2023 Richard Pink and Roxanne Emery (P)2023 Penguin Audio

I’m not alone, and I can’t stop crying

I believe I’m undiagnosed, but everything. I mean everything in this book I can relate too, and this book has moved me to wanting to find therapy. Thank you rox, for giving words to my world.

A pleasure to listen to!

The romantic partner dynamic is what pulled me into listening to this great book! It helped me to understand myself and how my very compassionate partner feels about me sometimes. It also helped me to better understand my daughter and sisters with adhd. I highly recommend it!

absolutely loved it!

great from being to the end. I now know I'm not alone. thank you

I cried all the way through!

As an adult woman with adhd, I’ve spent my whole life battling shame. Even knowing I had adhd for most of my life, it was still a deep point of shame and something I only talked about almost in a whisper. This book pulled my struggles out into the open and shed glorious light onto all the hidden parts and let them simply… be. All the tips were spot on and frankly practical. Every little bit I would burst into tears again because there was hope. This was real. Not some excuse I came up with to get out of things. (Something I was constantly accused of by parents, partners, and educators over the years.) Realizing my brain is not bad, it’s just got some major differences, felt so validating. I cannot recommend this book enough! And it was a pleasure to listen to. Richard and Rox bring their signature sound and humor to every moment so that listening to this book is like getting to hang with them over coffee. I will be pulling this one out to listen to over and over. Well worth the credit!

Best book on ADHD ever!

I laughed and cried on and off through the entire book. Never before has a book made me feel seen, didn't even think that was possible. Now only to persuade my so to listen to it as well 😅 Really glad you read it yourselves, you guys are so great and I truly love following you on SoMe 🥰

Please get it translated to Norwegian as well so I can buy copies for my entire family

Book even more helpful than their Reels

I find both Roxanne and Rich to be charming, authentic, and helpful. This is an easy listen and packed with insightful and reassuring info for ADHDers and folks who love them.

Incredible Introduction to Inner Healing

I wish I had known about this book sooner. By the time of reading this I have already been together with my ADHD wife for 9 years before the diagnoses was made. Similarly she was 36 when "that makes sense" shoe dropped.

While her experience of life is somewhat different to that of Roxy, I can say I often empathised with Rich. I'm proud to say that we figured out many things as described in this book. From the point of diagnoses we have made massive life improvements within just one year. Reading this has motivated me to keep going and keep growing.

For anyone still lost, stuck, full of confusion and fear, this book is an excellent starting point in bringing awareness to the unnecessary shame. It won't exactly give you all the tools to further your inner healing, but it sure will crack open the door. Supplementary support is likely necessary. But as an entry point to the subject, this book is all it needs to be

Lighthearted, fun, vulnerable, insightful, short and sweet. A good read for ADHDs too.

Well done to you both to go from TikTok channel to published book. Amazing stuff.
All the best.
Dean

good

definitely a good look at how adhd effects people and their loved ones. i follow them.

Useful and concise, a light read

Excellent book on what life with ADHD is like and how to support those with it. Just as delightful as their TikTok videos. A quick listen that will help the person WITH ADHD to see their difficulties in a new light.

Codependency at its finest

Having been diagnosed with ADHD as a child in the early 1990s, before it was cool for girls to have it, I know how she feels. What I don’t understand is how she simply just crumbles into herself when she’s lost or fails to act. That’s not a symptom of ADHD. That’s a personality trait. I have time
Blindness and get lost but don’t let those moments run my life. I will NOT back down and I will not be afraid. Even when I scared and overwhelmed. I’ve learned coping skills like strict routine adherence and making “safe” places for my important items. And to do things “right now”. I still am the boss of task avoidance. I wish they’d have focused more on the uncontrollable thoughts and how forgetting isn’t just you losing you keys. It’s forgetting a change you made at work, forgetting if you locked your car so you have to check 300x. Forgetting to eat, then over eating. I hope this dynamic works for them and overall it’s a great book. It’s just, she needs to woman up. I’m 42 years old and every single time I catch I’m having an adhd moment, I woman up. I’m not going to back down in the face of this beautiful but stressful gift I’ve been given. And also, stop focusing on how she’s not a gifted child. That makes it seem like all adhd kids aren’t really gifted kids. She probably actually IS gifted and has robbed herself of that. I was actually a gifted child. And I push myself everyday to see how much more this super smart ADHD brain can absorb.