Validation

How the Skill Set That Revolutionized Psychology Will Transform Your Relationships, Increase Your Influence, and Change Your Life

De: Caroline Fleck PhD

Narrado por: Caroline Fleck PhD

"Warning: this book will make you a better parent, partner, colleague, and friend." —Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Hidden Potential

Unlock the secret to true and lasting change.

We all spend a lot of energy trying to get people to listen to us, and despite our best efforts, we often fail. But what if the secret to influencing others was to demonstrate acceptance?

Enter validation—communication where one accepts and sees the validity in another person’s experience. Research on validation shows that it has profound effects, from improving relationships and de-escalating conflicts to increasing one’s influence and self-compassion. In this groundbreaking book, clinical psychologist Caroline Fleck explores how validation’s unique ability to demonstrate acceptance while fostering change makes it one of psychotherapy’s best-kept secrets. More importantly, she takes us step-by-step through eight skills we can use to communicate validation and experience its power firsthand.

Full of captivating stories, laugh-out-loud moments, and actionable takeaways, Validation reveals how the science of seeing and being seen is the key to inner and interpersonal transformation.


* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF featuring visuals from the book.

Validation for this book

Dr. Fleck has written a very relevant and helpful book about the importance of validation in all of our lives. Insight regarding ways to validate others and ourselves is communicated in a very helpful &’personal manner. This is a must-read book for anyone who wants to improve relationships with themselves and others

A work of LOVE

Whilst I am not a behaviorist, Dr. Fleck offers a most practical guide for the general audience and professional alike. Highly recommended!
For almost 50 years, I always ask my patients in any encounter - “How can I help you?” and after reading this book; I will follow up by asking myself if the ask is— are my patients asking for validation or problem solving. The text is both useful and heartfelt.

Funny and relevant

Caroline Fleck is funny, humble, open, and realistic. I listened intently, and I think I should get the printed version so I can take notes and make sure this all really sinks in. I dated someone who tried to tell me a little about validation, but I didn’t really get it. So now that I understand how important it is and how bad I am at it, I wish I’d had this book years ago. I come from a long line of people who were never really validated, so I grew up focused on problem-solving, and found CBT useful, and only recently realized how much my habits of offering “support”, and worse, advice, could come off as invalidating. Dr. Fleck does a great job of illustrating what to do, and what not to do. My only (minor) quibble is the phrasing “you must feel ___”. Someone told me they didn’t like being told how they “must” feel, so I prefer to use the question phrasing, i.e. “Are you feeling ___?” Anyway, I enjoyed this book and Dr. Fleck’s reading, it’s truly a gift to the world. My heart goes out to her and her family as she’s coping with MS and breast cancer.

Authentic - relatable

Really appreciate Dr.Fleck to share her personal story, trials and her journey into her research and lifework. This helps me to connect with what she’s teaching and sharing. Her sense of humor and realness are great to make this easy to listen and learn from

Practical and Enlightening

I like this book because I now understand what I’m already doing well and where things go off the rails in my patterns of connecting. I really resonated with her book lead in.