The Anxious Hearts Guide

Rising Above Anxious Attachment

By: Rikki Cloos

Narrated by: Rikki Cloos

Length: 5 hrs and 33 mins

Publisher's summary

It’s been three days with no call or text back...you can’t eat, sleep, or work. You’re going to die alone in your bed, gripping your phone, waiting for a response; or at least that’s what your brain keeps telling you.

There’s a common flaw that people who chase partners all have in common. Are you an anxious attacher? If you’re still holding your phone hoping they’ll reply then drop it now and pick up this book.

Stop the self-fulfilling prophecy of worrying that your relationships will all end in disaster. Take a deep dive into healing your anxious attachment, learn how to boost your self-esteem and independence, and build a foundation for healthy love. The Anxious Hearts Guide is a collection of years of psychology research, book recommendations, and strategies to help supercharge your relational health and stop pushing potential partners away. It is an approachable, accessible, and enlightening window into why anxious attachers do the frustrating things that we do for love and how to rise above it.

©2021 Rikki Cloos (P)2023 Octopi Publishing Partners

Life changing

Thank you for taking the time to write this. As an avoidant, I read/purchased this as a gift to my now ex partner whom I love & miss dearly. I hope this book provides her with the necessary tools/skills to grow, heal and love again. I now have my own work to do and look forward to your next book.

wonderfully written and read

I feel as though my friend and I just had a productive 5 hour chat.

This book literally changed my life

I couldn’t believe how accurately she was able to describe all of my past toxic tendencies associated with my particular attachment style. It was so nice to felt seen and understood. She does an excellent job with not only identifying and helping you understand why you may be feeling the way you’re feeling, but also equips you with the tools you need to break out of that vicious cycle. 10/10.

Growth Habits, anxiety

I would recommend this book to anyone who struggles with anxiety, especially in relationships, as well as partners of anxious people. Insight is a tool. I will likely re-listen to this guide at a time where Journaling is easier. I did engage in many of the writing exercises, however, listening while getting ready in the morning or doing my daily exercises (my time to work on me), made it harder to complete all the prompts and homework. This book paired well with the 6 Habits of Growth.

Excellent Practical Book

Rikki’s reading made this book even more personable. I highly recommend it to an anxious attacher who wants a practical stepping stone for becoming less anxious. This one is concise yet packed with applicable content.

Solid Guidance - Thank you

I had found and followed Rikki’s IG account a couple of months ago - her content topic is important to me. Recorded and live feeds, podcasts, and simple vulnerable posts are great prefaces to this book - if you value those, you will also gain from her book. Rikki Cloos has absorbed, distilled and blended so much helpful, expert insight on this topic, such as the Gottmans, and presents it in a more approachable less academic voice - which for this subject matter, I appreciate hearing the sincerity from my “sister” who has been through it, and not as much the data from my “professor”.

Everything makes more sense now!

I really enjoyed the book. It helped me understand myself on a much deeper level thanks for putting it today and reading it yourself it's always so nice listening to the author read their own books

Wow! This information will help me and I’ve been married for 33 years!

I like this book because it’s concise and short. I have been married in a second marriage for 33 years. We are currently at a crossroads that should’ve been resolved years ago and now I have new hope! Thank you Rikki...

Gentle & practical & relatable

Such an easy listen! The author is reading and it’s so well written. Practical, gentle, and relatable! Definitely learned some life changing information about myself and changing attachment style patterns! Realizing my role and seeing change.

Pretty decent self help book

Several memorable quotes. And a good deal of information to start reshaping my thoughts about me. With a huge emphasis on how to be true to myself. Worth a listen.