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Why Does He Do That? Audiobook

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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Publisher's Summary

He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship. You will learn about:

  • The early warning signs
  • Ten abusive personality types
  • The role of drugs and alcohol
  • What you can fix, and what you can't
  • How to get out of a relationship safely

©2002 Lundy Bancroft (P)2011 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended for all libraries, especially those in communities with emergency shelter programs." (Library Journal)

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    v 01-14-17 Member Since 2015
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    "Great book on this subject"

    Mušt read if you are or think you may be In an abusive relationship or if you know someone who deals with a verbally or physically abusive man. Eye opening. Pretty thorough book

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    mandy 01-13-17
    mandy 01-13-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Every abused woman and her supporters should read"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    Yes, if she was in an abusive relationship or helping someone in one. Or if one is confused about why women stay with abusive men. This book showed me the truth for the first time!


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    The author or counsellor who says why he needs to talk to the wife's and girlfriends of the abuser. Not many counsellors do that so they don't get the truth from the man. The author explains why this is so crucial.


    What does Peter Berkrot bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    One of the best narrators. He read it like he was the author, understood what he was reading and sounded as though he believed what he was saying which is critical for abused women. he's fantastic!


    What did you learn from Why Does He Do That? that you would use in your daily life?

    A ton of it! I know what questions to ask women in similar circumstances and how to keep myself safe!


    Any additional comments?

    Read the book and let your daughters read it

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    Melanie Couch Hazard, KY United States 01-06-17
    Melanie Couch Hazard, KY United States 01-06-17
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    "Wow. Eye opening."

    Very very very useful. If you have questions at all this book will help. I can make a better decision now.

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    Amazon Customer 12-22-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Everyone needs to read this book. "

    I found this to be one of the hardest things I have ever had to listen to but something that i needed to hear. Thank you.

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    Kisha Chicago, IL 12-08-16
    Kisha Chicago, IL 12-08-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Great book! Gives you everything you need to know"

    I listened to this book several times. If you are in a relationship and feel like you can do nothing right and you're struggling to hang onto your sanity, get this book!

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    Michelle 11-30-16
    Michelle 11-30-16 Member Since 2006
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    "must read for victims of abuse!!"

    Very clear and concise and opened my eyes to what I was labelling 'minor' offenses which I just brushed off. This book has helped me take a huge step towards getting away from my abuser.

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    Destiny 10-26-16
    Destiny 10-26-16
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    "Must read for anyone!"

    Bancroft is spot on at relating to the victim with the emotional and verbal abuse. He knows the abuser all to well. I cried and cried tears of relief and sadness - for he described exactly how I'd felt & many moments of my life. Should be required reading for everyone.

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    Brokenmama 10-25-16
    Brokenmama 10-25-16 Member Since 2017
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    "Unveiling the truth behind domestic violence"
    Would you listen to Why Does He Do That? again? Why?

    Yes, but mostly because I work directly with victims and survivors of domestic violence. It is a fantastic resource for anyone working in any aspect of domestic violence awareness or experiencing it themselves.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    No, it is a lot of information and takes time to absorb. Take your time and try to get the ebook companion as you will want to highlight many sections.


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    Gh 10-10-16
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    "knowledge."

    I'm not unintelligent by no means but I came unraveled quickly from abuse. I couldn't understand why all the hell I sense put away was it and fighting back. This booked often my eyes. Sad thing it started from the very beginning of my relationship with my husband. This information had helped me fig down and find the will too survive. I have no pity for him now. What I have is the truth and the Grace of God. No accident I came across this book. Thank you.

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    Julie Staiger Ohio 10-03-16
    Julie Staiger Ohio 10-03-16 Member Since 2014

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    "saved me"

    made me realize I'm not crazy. mine was emotional abuse, so, as the book will show you, without being able to put your finger on your abuse (bruises, broken bones) it's common to feel like maybe you're crazy. I'm not. I'm not. I'm a survivor of abuse.

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