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Why Does He Do That? Audiobook

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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Publisher's Summary

He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship. You will learn about:

  • The early warning signs
  • Ten abusive personality types
  • The role of drugs and alcohol
  • What you can fix, and what you can't
  • How to get out of a relationship safely

©2002 Lundy Bancroft (P)2011 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended for all libraries, especially those in communities with emergency shelter programs." (Library Journal)

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    Judesf415native sausalito ca 09-29-16
    Judesf415native sausalito ca 09-29-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Not what I was looking for"

    This had a few answers for me,tho finding out my partner had narcissistic disorder,I needed something specific...this book was too broad

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    Jeanne Cahill 08-30-16 Member Since 2011
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    "Disillusioning, in a good way"

    The author helps you see the reality of what you've been going through with caring and compassion, pulling no punches about the motivations behind the actions of the abuser.

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    Edwin Moore 07-26-16
    Edwin Moore 07-26-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Are only women abused?"
    Would you try another book from Lundy Bancroft and/or Peter Berkrot?

    Do not know. I feel while the information was very good, it was very biased against men. While men are the majority abusers, men also suffer from Abuse. I believe he had one line stating that. I feel the abuse issue is rampant and involves women as well as men. Recommended solutions may also help the males being abused but that was down played.


    Would you be willing to try another book from Lundy Bancroft? Why or why not?

    Do not know


    Did Why Does He Do That? inspire you to do anything?

    Disappointed, expected a book focusing on women, not one as biased against men as this one.


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    D. Donohue 07-14-16
    D. Donohue 07-14-16 Member Since 2015
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    I regret not reading this months ago when it was recommended. It tells my story better then I could have.

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    Yvonne C. 07-01-16
    Yvonne C. 07-01-16 Member Since 2015
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    "This book has changed my life!"

    A real game changer. This book helped me understand the relationship I was in, and helped me gey out. I bought 2 more copies for friends on abusive relationships. This book should be read by every teemage girl.

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    Angela S. 06-16-16
    Angela S. 06-16-16
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    "ABS"

    I am in a relationship on the lower scale of abuse. I was afraid this would be too much...but it wasn't!!! I did skip a few chapters that didn't apply, and I was able to find a huge amount of tips and help. Especially in the last few chapters!!!

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    Jill n KC Kansas City, MO USA 05-15-16
    Jill n KC Kansas City, MO USA 05-15-16 Member Since 2012
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    "Excellent resource for understanding why."

    One of the most accurate books I have read in a long time. The author absolutely knows this topic very well!! It is a great resource for individuals who are dealing with an abusive partner. It helps with lifesaving insight and tactics in understanding and safely extracting ones self and children from such an intolerable environment.
    Thanks to the Author for writing this book. I'm sure it has and will continue to make a significant different in the lives of individuals who have been affected by domestic violence.

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    Seaira Caldwell 04-22-16 Member Since 2016
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    "This book can change the world"

    A must read for everyone. I was an abused wife so I understood from abuse from the victims perspective, but I was clueless why he did it. Now I know and it wasn't what I expected. So important for everyone to understand why he does it and what to do about it.

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    "powerful resource"

    Extremely insightful. Narration superb. A must read for anyone caught in the abuse cycle. Powerful resource for women being threatened by men, and for those who care about them.

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    Jennifer Machin 03-15-16 Member Since 2013
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    "No Longer Confused!"

    Grateful to have found this book. If you have been involved with an abuser, and are looking for answers you will find them in this book. It's NOT your fault!

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