Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare

How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself

By: Shahida Arabi

Narrated by: Julie McKay

Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.

Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they've been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns, and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?

Cover art by Penoaks Publishing at www.penoaks.com.

©2016 Shahida Arabi (P)2016 Audible, Inc.

life changing

This book is forever LIFE CHANGING FOR ME! It was hard to read because of the painful truth attached to it but so necessary. I was at a point of the greatest loss in anyone's life . I knew there was an issue but I didn't realize what it was nor the impact of living with a narcissist. Without this life changing information I doubt I would be so willing to walk away from the poisonous behavior.

I rarely write book reviews

This book saved my life. It took me a year to find it. When therapy didn’t work, when family and friends questioned how I could give a man the power to wreak havoc my career, my relationships, my self esteem, my finances... I didn’t have a framework through which to digest what occurred to me, without devaluing myself further. Now I understand and I don’t need anyone to explain it to me. Now I understand and I don’t need to justify it to anyone. I have my mind back.

Thank you for your work. It’s phenomenal.

Thank you.

Exactly what I already knew but couldn't see, didn't want to see. So the universe made me feel it. Thank you again for putting these feelings and thoughts into words.

Lifesaver for me

This book came along at a time when I needed it most! The self-reaffirming, positivity in this book are crucial to healing from abuse.
Hearing this via audible was calming and the narrator was perfect for the text! Having heard other narrator’s , I can honestly say that Julie McKay brought empathy and feeling that was healing and critical for the topic. I highly recommend this book to anyone dealing with emotional narcissistic abuse. It has started me on the road to self-awareness and hopefully soon breaking free.

Changed my life.

I have read and listened to anything I could get my hands on to help me understand all I was going through and this one finally did it... Finally! Thank you Shahida Arabi.