Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare

How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself

By: Shahida Arabi

Narrated by: Julie McKay

Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.

Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they've been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns, and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?

Cover art by Penoaks Publishing at www.penoaks.com.

©2016 Shahida Arabi (P)2016 Audible, Inc.

Good Info, but takes forever to get to it.

What did you love best about Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare?

I like the information about what N-abuse is, but I feel like she could have gone into the heart of the information rather than spending hours with a pseudo intro. I finally had to FF the audio.

What did you like best about this story?

The factual description of what narcissistic and sociopathic abuse is.

What three words best describe Julie McKay’s performance?

Annoying, Strong, Self-assured

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

No way. Too much repetition.

Any additional comments?

This audio could be condensed, quite a bit. The information is very good, but could be made more simple to get. There is too much repetition of information for the purpose of pushing the book.

This book needs an a good editor!

I found this book - as much as I could bear to listen to - to have good information. However, by chapter four, I had wondered if I had somehow returned to the beginning at least ten times. The first three chapters could easily be just one. This did not seem to improve as I continued to listen; the book is very unnecessarily repetitive. I will see if someone has written a summary of the book.

Several times, just as I thought she would provide a list of helpful ideas, she referred me to the website instead. She does include very detailed URL information. She often quotes others' works, and it gets very confusing what is her work and what is others'.

Additionally, I found her tone unnecessarily condescending and angry. She seems to have a lot of anger still to resolve. Of course, there is much to be angry about, but I think it undermines her authority here.

That said, there is a lot of good information here if you can invest the time and tease it out.

Get your life back

Both a practical and helpful guide. An extremely worthwhile read for all those who are dealing with a Narcissist.

Every women should read this

A must read, if you've had any exposure to a narcissist in your life. I guaranteed you will grow.

Hands down best book of the genre!!

This book literally pulled me out of it every time I started to miss my ex and believe I was the one at fault. It saved me from going down. It saved me from so many spirals. It may have even saved my life.

Helped me more than anything

I am so glad I got this book. I actually like the narrator. This book provided so much clarity and is giving me the courage I need.

5/5

great book and was very helpful. Narrator did a great job as well. got answers to all my questions!

Must Read!

In my opinion the best book on topic. Answered almost all of my questions. Perfect for those looking for the why's!

Lots of tools for healing.

This is a long listen. I wish she didn't read all the links in the chapters, but left them as an attachment to the download. Lotts of tools in this book, some repetitive information. Something that will need tims to listen to more than once.

Just what I needed in my recovery

Life changing. We are blessed to have shahida ! Thank you for this book, helped me start healing