"Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility

By: Ramani S. Durvasula PhD

Narrated by: Ramani S. Durvasula PhD

Length: 19 hrs and 6 mins

Publisher's summary

It’s time to take our lives back from a world of narcissism, entitlement, and toxic relationships.

“Don’t you know who I am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist.

Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult, or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls.

Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity - insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders.

There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes.

It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.

©2019 Ramani S. Durvasula, PhD (P)2019 Post Hill Press

Highly recommended

Amazing book that helps the every day person deal with the narcissist or toxic person in their life. It may literally be a life saver.

Don’t pass up this read ...EXCEPTIONAL

This book is interesting, informative and concise. I completed it in two days!! It validated my situation and gave me a road map to safely navigating life with the narcissist in my life. In the kind, but direct, words of this author, I found the permission and strength to limit my exposure to the toxic person I dreaded in my life. Already, I feel like a weight has been lifted, and I am happy with who I am again. This decision came with losses, but I am healthier and happier for them. If you believe you have a narcissist invading your life and impinging on your joy and happiness, DEFINITELY read this book!!!

Insightful and very helpful

I personally related to so much of what was said, and found it very helpful in understanding my past, as well as a roadmap for present and future relationships.

Vital Information

A very comprehensive work done by someone with great topical understanding. More people need to be equipped with this knowledge.

Awareness is Key to a Good Life

I am grateful for the research, care, and courage that Dr. Ramani has brought to the world to bring more peace, joy, and empowerment. Having left a three year relationship with narcissistic patterns six months ago, I have more understanding as to why things happened as they did. I understand my role and weaknesses that allowed the loop to repeat. I am confident I will never be in relationship like that again. Thank you, Dr. Ramani. Future reader, Life gets beautifully better. You got this!

Helping someone with a dark side

My fiancee has found a great deal of help from your YouTube channel in disentangling herself from a toxic family situation. However, it is a fear of mine that she got out of the frying pan and into the fire with me. I am trying to understand myself better, and watching your videos sometimes leads me to unsettling realizations that are only paralleled by uncomfortable comparisons with my behavior and her father's on occasion. I didn't have an exactly blissful childhood once my parents divorced. I don't know if I'm a narcissist, or if it's truly a spectrum and not as black and white as it's sometimes portrayed, but I have these traits. And one of the ways they have sometimes come to the fore have been political ambitions. I strongly believe that there need to be some political solutions to this problem, and that there is a major issue that narcissism often seems to be a sine qua non for political ambitions. Maybe I'm not the one to take it on, but it's something to consider I think. I also have a bipolar diagnosis so I'm unsure what to make of this all. Thank you for your bravery in taking on this important issue.

Informative, Empowering: A Book Worth reading

Don't You Know Who I Am?" by Dr. Ramani is a transformative audiobook that explores narcissism, empowers listeners, and offers practical advice for personal growth and healing. Dr. Ramani's insights and compassionate approach make it an invaluable resource.

Educational

This book shed so much light on a dark subject and has facilitated my healing. Thank you Dr. Ramani!

What a revelation!

I’m beginning this book all over again to listen a second time. As I listened, memories of my life came back to me, and I realized that the behavior of my family of origin was that of narcissists. This has shaped my life and affected that of my dear children. Things I had always wondered about were explained. Why on earth, as a woman of intelligence, had I ended up with the men I had? Dr Durvasala explained why. Why did my family dress me up as a little girl, send me to a private school yet treat me with such coldness and hate? Dr Durvasala explained why. Thank you so much Dr. Durvasala, and bless you

Wow

This is a comprehensive pep talk for those of us who need to move past a life time identity of “not enoughness” . It covers every damn thing you need to hear and understand to move on.