Fierce Self-Compassion

How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive

By: Kristin Neff

Narrated by: Jean Ann Douglass

Length: 12 hrs and 34 mins

Publisher's summary

The author of Self-Compassion follows up her groundbreaking book with new ideas that expand our notion of self-kindness and its capacity to transform our lives, showing women how to balance tender self-acceptance with fierce action to claim their power and change the world.

Kristin Neff changed how we talk about self-care with her enormously popular first book, Self-Compassion. Now, 10 years and many studies later, she expands her body of work to explore a brand-new take on self-compassion. Although kindness and self-acceptance allow us to be with ourselves as we are, in all our glorious imperfection, the desire to alleviate suffering at the heart of this mindset isn't always gentle, sometimes it's fierce. We must also act courageously in order to protect ourselves from harm and injustice, say no to others so we can meet our own needs, and motivate necessary change in ourselves and society.

Gender roles demand that women be soft and nurturing, not angry or powerful. But like yin and yang, the energies of fierce and tender self-compassion must be balanced for wholeness and well-being. Drawing on a wealth of research, her personal life story and empirically supported practices, Neff demonstrates how women can use fierce and tender self-compassion to succeed in the workplace, engage in caregiving without burning out, be authentic in relationships, and end the silence around sexual harassment and abuse. Most women intuitively recognize fierceness as part of their true nature, but have been discouraged from developing it. Women must reclaim their power in order to create a healthier society and find lasting happiness.

In this wise, caring, and enlightening book, Neff shows women how to reclaim balance within themselves, so they can help restore balance in the world.

©2021 Kristin Neff (P)2021 HarperCollins Publishers

Thank you for this book!

Such important content here. Thank you Kristin Neff this book is super helpful and real.

Everyone Should Read this!

Beautifully done book. Like I said before, both men and women should read this. Its required reading if you work, care for a sick or elderly person, ... actually if you're alive! Her exercises make you think, in a real way. I love her work. The way she was treated by her alma mater made me sweat with rage. That part reminds me of the Jim Crow south in the US. She started her Mindful Self-Compassion organization to help people, and that didn't count to get tenure? Gimme a break! As a society, we can do so much better than holding women to these outdated painful standards. Besides, everyone needs self-compassion, just like Helena Roth's "Doing Gentle With an Edge" you can learn to treat yourself better, even when you make mistakes.

Love

Found this book through Brene Brown’s work and I absolutely love it. Get it a try

Love this book!

I really enjoyed this book and related to many of the stories. The narrated was great!

Timely and Timeless

I listened to this book in two parts to try to understand and apply what I learned and it was even more powerful.

Amazing 🤩

This book is life changing. I would habe loved if Kristen could have narrated herself, but the depth and breath of. this book is phenomenal.

Worth several listens

I’ve read and listened to a lot by Kristin Neff. Learning about self-compassion and how to practice it has been THE BEST lesson in my life. I’ve endured a lot of trauma in my life and am now 50 years old. There is no escaping trauma and pain, but there is a remedy to suffering: self compassion.

This book is full of useful practices, so make use of the clips and bookmarks to return to them. This stuff works!! Sure, it may feel weird and self-indulgent in the beginning. Your mind may be telling you it’s a bunch of hooey. But give it a try. Intentionally practice it. It will get easier to practice it.
Face it, you’ve already got a lifetime of practice in beating yourself up. It’ll take a little time to get in the habit of self compassion. A good first step is to be able to even notice when your inner critic is becoming active. Most of the time, we don’t even realize it. This book and referenced websites offer so many tools to help. And the assistance of professional help, I.e., a therapist versed in IFS (internal family systems), meditation, EMDR, somatic trauma work, etc is a good companion on your journey.

Every woman needs to hear this!

Narrator was fantastic. very easy to listen too. This book is a wake up call!!

Excellent!

Helps you understand your value and how to make yourself believe it! Self compassion , who knew ! I will use this over and over again!

Helpful and insightful

The performance on this was well paced. There are a number of exercises that the narrator walks through well, and the stories are shared in ways that feel appropriately respectful.

The material in here is also really useful. I found it, informative and inspiring, and look forward to incorporating some of these practices and insights into my own life.